Viola was caught up in another true love scenario, only this time she was on the receiving end, and things didn't work out so smoothly. During her attempts to court Olivia for Orsino, Olivia grew to love Cesario. Viola was now caught in a terrible situation and there was only one way out, but that would jeopardize her chances with Orsino. It's amazing that Olivia could fall for a woman dressed as a man, but because Viola knew what women like to hear, her words won Olivia's heart. The next case of true love is on a less intimate and romantic scale, and more family oriented.
The success of love is essentially when there is a give-and-take, which is where troubles lie as the reciprocality of love can never be known until the risk of confession is taken. However, love does not end in a happily-ever-after with the achievement of this success, as can be seen with Madeleine’s continued friction with her relationship with Leonard. A Lover’s Discourse provides comfort for Madeleine in her early stages of her love as a text that describes the real, negative sensations of being a lover. However, because of its broad language, it could even be applied to those in relationships, where love is reciprocated, not necessarily exclusive to ones pursuing it. For instance, when Barthes describes the feelings of a lover in a public space with the company of others and still longing for the lover (Barthes 17), the same feelings are shown with Madeleine as she feels mentally detached from Leonard (Eugenides 66).
The exchanges between Giovanni and Beatrice begin as simple lust and no deep emotional understanding and attachment, yet drastically changes to true love and an emotional attachment they have for each other due to the recent communications they have developed. The author’s message about love is that it does not always end in a happy ending and that love comes in many different forms. Giovanni shows interest in Beatrice only for her pure physical assets and body language and starts to truly fall in love with this divine young creature. Giovanni’s feelings for Beatrice at the beginning of the story are vivid and de... ... middle of paper ... ...this far-fetched setting but the overall theme is in real life. Love is a necessity in everyone’s life to feel like a hole and sometimes people get mixed up between love and lust.
Unfortunately, her experiences only take her further and further from the love and acceptance she yearns for. Sex initially makes the narrator feel loved, appreciated, and valued. She loved feeling "safe, at rest, in a restful dream" (258), as she would feel when he would first begin touching her with tender caresses. It becomes almost an addiction for her, a necessity for happiness. Ironically, it is an addiction that does not satisfy the need.
Alexina’s happiness, as she expresses it looking back on her past, seems to be her time with Sara. Here, “happiness took the place of sleep for us” but equally it is her greatest torment. However, it is clear that her love for Sara does not cause her distress, nor does her body in the relationship, she takes pleasure in causing Sara pleasure. Her torment instead comes from her distress that her love for Sara cannot end the way that the discourse of love relationships at that time would accept. While one narrative would be to interpret Alexina’s statement “I sometimes envy the lot of the man who will be your husband.”” as her longing to be a man, instead it is clear from the context of her relationship that she simply longs their relationship could have the same respect, openness and eventual ending as what we would now call heterosexual relationship but then would be all relationships.
Fromm says that problem occurs when people confuse feelings of infatuation for proof of the intensity of their love. The feelings of infatuation eventually subside and the result is the wish for a new conquest, a new love with a new stranger. Again the stranger is transformed into the "intimate" person, and again the experience of falling in love is exhilarating and intense and it once again slowly becomes less and less and once again the cycle repeats itself. Fromm says that these illusions are greatly helped by the deceptive character of sexual desires. Sexual desire can be stimulated by the anxiety of being alone, the wish to conquer, vanity, or the wish to hurt or even destroy someone.
This is where the aspect of utility in friendship becomes a reality. Therefore, a complete friend falls into the categories of utility and pleasure. The difference is that they know how to balance the two and also reciprocate for their friends to get a similar share. The state factor in friendship is very important. The people who form the friendship can have a good or bad state.
Betraying that trust can ruin the friendship for good but people with social knowledge skills and with a great history together find a way to make up. Friends call on each other in times of need. They offer unconditional and unrelenting support and comfort until the situation gets better. That is how the relationship among friends evolves. It subsidizes to a healthy and happy life because it prevents effects of social alienation for the parties involved in the friendship.
She takes comfort in the fact that he needs her and he remains under her thumb to almost any extent. The speaker knows she has many lovers. He claims to hate her unfaithfulness, but in fact he likes it. He likes the fact that she is nothing more than an object of sex…of temporary pleasure. If she were really in love with him and were truly faithful, he would be less attracted to her.
Catherine even goes so far as to declare that she and Fr... ... middle of paper ... ...on one another allows them to be happy but they can no longer be happy alone. The relationship between Frederic and Catherine has been criticized as being too romantic and too immature. It has been argued that through the extreme selflessness shown by Catherine, Hemingway aims to demean women. However, Frederic exhibits the same immaturity and selflessness as Catherine and the combination of the two in the story provides to build a special relationship. Their interdependency forms a strong bond through which both are able to be happy.