In an even more dysfunctional twist, Precious’s mother confesses to their social worker that she has hated Precious since the first time that her boyfriend expressed a sexual interest in their daughter, rather than her. Despite all the ways that Precious was victimized, she is hesitant to come clean. She is fearful of telling her teacher or social worker the truth about her home life or her children. This can be one of the most difficult phenomenon of child psychology to understand. Having been a victim of maltreatment for as long as she would be able to remember, Precious would have a diminished view of what she should have been able to expect from her parents.
My mother from the beginning of my dad and stepmom 's relationship didn’t like my stepmom that much. She could see how manipulative my stepmom was towards my dad, brother and I. I lived with my mom at this time and my brother lived with my dad and stepmom. My mom was always skeptical about not raising her other child herself but I didn’t see any concern for it, I was too young to understand. My mom knew she couldn’t bash her in front of me because it would scare me even more than I already was. She had to be there for me because I didn’t have anyone else to talk to.
The divorce took its toll on me. At the beginning, I started having trust issues. When you’re a kid you believe your parents are going to be together forever. I trusted the fact whole heartedly and witnessing my parents go through a divorce made me believe that no one could be trusted. I remember doing things my way because I couldn’t trust anyone to follow through with the task I gave them in group projects.
Being abandoned by my loved ones is one of my insecurities, since childhood. Ive been through rough times my entire childhood from being with one parent to another or being on streets all alone. I never thought anyone would ever be interested in me or even if they did, they would use me and then walk out my life. My whole perspective on relationships changed when my boyfriend walked into my life. I thought it wouldn’t last or he’ll be flirting with other girls and what not.
Another example I have has to do with the family I currently nanny for. I had a difficult time creating healthy relationships with them in the beginning because the oldest girl, who is 7, did not like me, and the young boy, who is preschool aged, seemed to be very controlling and manipulative. Basically on one had I had a child who avoided me at all costs, and the other needed me to constantly pay attention to him. It was a very curious situation for me. When speaking to the mother about my observations she informed me about their past relationship with their previous nanny.
But he also molested her, a tramatizing drawback that would follow her for the rest of her life. Although she knew what her father was doing was wrong, she refused to admit this to herself because he was the only loved one she truly had. So, when Georgia’s father left, she was heartbroken (Hogrefe 14). “The abandonment she must have felt when he left the family had repercussions for the rest of her life as she refused to get close to many of her male companions . .
Others around his mother could even notice that she did not treat her son properly, and that the hatred he contained for her, although unhealthy, was honestly reasonable. Once it was time for Ernest to go to high school, he quickly be... ... middle of paper ... ... scarred as a child, that he lived in fear of women all of his life. He feared commitment and feared being dubbed a coward by most. Almost as if he was brainwashed, he pushed himself to the brink of depression to prove his masculinity to others. However, the truth is that he was actually trying to prove this notion to himself, hoping that it would one day reverse the effects of his traumatic childhood experience.
Often times the trouble between parent and adolescents are things as simple as chores and homework; however, for Ren and his friends the rift between them, and their parents led to disobedience and rebellion. They began to assert themselves, and question why they were forced to follow rules that they did not believe in. Rev. Moore’s daughter, Ariel, even told him, “I just don’t know that I believe in everything you believe in, But I believe in you”. Ariel knew that these rules were the product of her father’s fears, that he eventually passed on to the townspeople, and she knew that to get him to look beyond his fear she and her friends would have to stand up to
Growing up, my parent 's marriage was always conflict habituated. Their relationship was mostly intense with commotion and arguments. They never seem to get along well. As a child, seeing my parent 's relationship, I conceptualize that love wasn 't really real nor was it important. As I got older, my parent horrible treatment towards one another became something I carried on as well, due to all the years of the actions being modeled.
I am always making sure to act the way my friends or family expects me to. My friend said these rules impact her identity because she wasn’t sure what was appropriate or not. She had to stop being a tomboy because it was not accepted by her family. It made her grow up upset about not being able to be who she truly was. Growing up not being able to express herself made it difficult to fit into certain crowds, which made it hard to make