Triangles My Family The triangle that exists in my family deals with conflict. The one triangle that affects me the most is the relationship between my mom, dad and myself. As mentioned above, my parents relationship isn’t the greatest as it was back in the day. Before my brother and I were born, my parents were always out enjoying life. When we were born, their life changed and work was more important. This is what I believe creates most of their stress. Not being able to provide for their family. I’m the one being put in the middle choosing which side to take and it’s hard at times. One thing I think can help detriangulate this relationship is to support each other equally. My parents are very supportive of my brother and I. However, they aren’t supportive of each other. I believe this will strengthen their relationship dramatically. Colton’s Family Colton’s family has a lot of triangles. These triangles all deal with drugs and alcohol. The triangle that’s most damaging to his family is the one between Stacy and her parents. For as long as Stacy can remember, her dad has constantly been in and out of jail due to alcohol and drug addictions. Her mom too struggled with addiction and …show more content…
This influence is what I think causes most of my dads stress. My dad is a general contractor. With the economy the way it is right now, he doesn’t work as much as he used to. Because he never went to college, he struggles supporting my mom and I everyday. My mom was a hairstylist for over 20 years and absolutely loved it until she got in a car accident causing her to have multiple neck surgeries. As of today, my mom isn’t working and is on disability. I can tell it affects their relationship because they were successful when I was younger. I believe this is the cause of their fighting. It brings me down at times, but somehow they make everything work. As long as they support each other, everything will be
...tigated as the conflict reliever by separating the two people in conflict is given strategies to bring them together (Kerr and Bowen 1988). It can also contribute to giving a different meaning to stress for people in the triangle, stress can be seen as positional rather than quantitative and this has huge consequences for the way people function in all their emotional systems. By simply communicating this idea to stressed individuals it can help them to realize the changes that they would have to make, this is much easier than attempting to have them understand personal qualities that are motivating them to stay in stressful situations (Friedman 1991). Interlocking triangles helps plot a path of multigenerational transmission when viewing information of genograms. This allows for a gauge of change that is less effected by the psyche of the observer (Friedman 1991).
...ghtful and inspirational to many. Realizing that each member of a family has his own issues that he is dealing with on top of keeping his family together can alter his reasoning and decision-making. Becoming less self-obsessed and demonstrating empathy for family members during difficult circumstances can be essential in keeping a family strong. Building and fortifying a foundation of family unity can be pivotal distinction between a family who stands together and one who crumbles apart.
Having a family is no easy task, especially when you are faced with many challenges that are unforeseen. Sometimes one imagines or hopes for an ideal family. The ideal family would consist of a spouse, one or two kids and live happily with little to no conflicts. The reality is that even if one tries to avoid conflict by all possible means, conflict is inevitable. Stressors and strengths within a family can be seen in almost every situation. Although stressors tend to be more noticeable than the strengths. Some of which will be discussed later on, although it will be mainly focused on the strength and stressors faced after a divorce for children. But if one focuses on the stressors more than the strengths, one will only see stressors rather than solutions.
Stress- stress plays a huge factor in my life. As it does many the definition of stress is “a force exerted when one body or body part presses on, pulls on, pushes against, or tends to compress or twist another body or body part; especially: the intensity of this mutual force commonly expressed in pounds per square inch” stress is in my every day life in my every day routine. I go to school and focus hard all day and then end it with work and although I am only eighteen I do stress probably a lot more than a normal eighteen year old should. My mom on the other hand has a different kind of stress she is a store manager of the retail store Kohl’s so she has to focus on everything at one time. What her employees are doing what she needs to be doing and if she’s doing everything right. She also has to stress about paying bills and making sure they are out on time. And thankfully her kids are all grown because if we weren’t she would then be dealing with the stress of little kids needing her loving attention. There are many different reasons to stress all valid reason. Everyone stresses it is just something that we all do, we are all human right? We all make mistake. Although it is very bad for your body. Stress cam break you down faster than anything will you have to be careful and know you are stressing don mana...
Napier provides a crucial exploration of the therapy of a family struggling with battles for the structure of their family and battles to define and grow their relationships with one another. Napier and Whitaker seamlessly and purposely work with each family member, educating and
I believe the next intervention would be to use Normal Family Development. Bowen believed that normal family development occurs when the family members are differentiated, feel little anxiety, and remain a rewarding and healthy emotional contact with each member of the family (Gehart, 2015). In Normal Family Development the family members, are connected across the generations, have little emotional fusion and distance, people would support family members who have different emotions and feelings and can support differentiation, have family members who can use one another for feedback
Family is made up of both strengths and stresses. Families cannot have one of these factors without the other. Even the most dysfunctional families have some strengths that keep them united, while the most united families have some stress. Let’s take the Kardashian for example. When Kim Kardashian West was robbed of her jewelry worth nearly 9 million dollars, while that’s a big stress how her husband Kanye West reacted and walked off the stage in the middle of concert in Queen to check on her when he heard his wife has been robbed is a strength, it shows how they have a bond that could last.
Societal regression- how a family’s emotional stress can be influenced by the stresses of their outside environment.
families have struggles, both internal and external, and while this is undoubtedly true, the struggles that
Throughout my last three years in college it has been difficult to manage school and a job. I come from a low-income family and seeing them stress doesn’t make it easier for me. My father works in foster farms in the clean up team. These past two years his hours have been cut and now works 8 hours a day. In the past he used to work up to 10 hours per day. He was diagnosed with diabetes and have made it a little more difficult to sustain his work and health. Working under the hot weather and having diabetes makes it more uncomfortable for him but he knows he is the one we depend on for financial support. My mother works in packing house and they are seasonal. It’s not guarantee every year that she has her position in her job. My mom’s jobs
Stress is not an easy topic for everyone. We all have stress; it is with us throughout our lives. Stress can cause a person to become angry or sad. There are many types of stress that can affect a family. Suffering from stress is common for all members of a family. Family members must first let go of their daily stressors… this is the first step to dealing with it. Sometimes when we hear the word stress, we think of the negative impact it can have. But not all stress is bad. And even "bad" stress can motivate us to get things done or create change. The real question is: How do we make stress work for us? We can channel our stress to make us grow as individuals and as families.
Second, Triangles deals with fusion and distancing. Two family members need a third to reduce stress and anxiety within the relationship (Rabstejnek 2015).
As a kid I was always inspired by my parents’ relationship, because they knew how to make each other happy as well as making me and my two older sisters happy. Their relationship was a lot different than others, they never fought, they always put us kids first and dedicated their time to us. It was like this until I was going into my freshman year, my whole life changed. I was the only
I have two young cousins, one is 4-year-old girl and the other is 6-year-old. Long story short, the parents had a divorce and it just astonishes me how the children’s attachment might change before and after divorce. I can’t imagine how my life would be if my parents got divorce. Growing up I would see them fight a lot because of money issues and I did my best to ignore it. They are still together despite money issues, although sometimes they argue about getting a divorce and I told them to promise me not to get a divorce until my youngest brother goes to college. They fight a lot but at the end talk things out, if they get a divorce it won’t affect me. Moving on, I love a lot of my young cousins because they all see me as their big brother. I had the opportunity to play with them a lot when they are young and taught them many things. For example, I had one aunt who was very cautious of her child and I understand you need to be cautious when he is an infant but as he grew older he would be treated like a baby. He was not allowed to eat by himself, even though he had the capability to pick a spoon and fork. His exploration was limited to only his home. It was not until I had the opportunity to babysit him and I taught him how to eat using spoon t an early age and read to him occasionally. His father also did not like the way the mother treating him as a baby but he couldn’t do much because he would work all day. Sometimes the family would come over and my aunt did not like dogs so she did not allow him to pet the dog. At first he was scared of the dog only because my aunt would tell him that the dog would bite but it does not. It wasn’t until I had to babysit him one day and I properly introduce my dog to him. He wasn’t scared anymore. I enjoy spending time with my cousin and watching them grow up at the same time enjoy playing games with them.
Like everyone else, family and friends have played a vital part in my life and have affected my outlook on money and career. I grew up in a family of six, with my father, who is an IT engineer, as the head and sole breadwinner of the family because in my country -Saudi Arabia- there aren’t many opportunities for women to advance. Although he made sure that we lived a pretty comfortable life, I would often see him foregoing his needs and wants to fulfil those of his family. So, I wondered about how different our lives could have been if my mom (or me as the oldest child) were working along with him. I believe that a person