Help them understand why they are being pushed so hard to accomplish certain things. The day they know the day they will be doing the things they need to do without even being asked just knowing it needs to be done. Being too strict can lead your children to not care later on in the future, for some but for others they may just give up on school or just stop listening to their parents because they feel they are too pushy and are just tired of it all.
Typically a parent would not endure in such actions, but it varies from parent to parent. When left with the situation of discipling their kids, some parents feel guilty for taking measures into their own hands, and other parents feel no remorse. The whole purpose of discipline on children is to set them in place. By that I mean to help guide the child down the right path to a prosperous life and responsible adult. If it means physical or verbal discipline, then it is all for the greater good.
Simply reasoning and taking things away from them such as their privileges will not work with young children because they are not at the age range where they can fully understand. Merely taking away a child’s privileges or toys will only cause them to behave when they want something. When children learn to live without the privileges their parents are holding them hostage to, they will eventually stop listening and obeying them. Spanking allows children an opportunity to learn and change because they will discover that any negative behavior that they do will always have repercussions. When they are spanked, they will know not to ever repeat the action again.
A lot of parents think that raising their kids a certain way is what is best for them. But every child is different, no matter how you bring them up, and sooner or later they are going to start wanting to make their own decisions. Some parents believe it is better not to expose your children to certain things such as sex, drugs, and alcohol because it would beneficial to them to stay away from these things. But what they don’t know is when their child finds out about it from friends or peers, the outcome of that is going to be worse than the parents letting them know ahead of time. I feel as though parents need to ask themselves if there is a middle ground in how they raise their child.
Parents who do not let their child participate in some events only does this because one is looking out for their children. Parents are sometimes strict because, one does not want their child to stray away, one does not want their child to make the same mistakes as one did when one was younger, and to teach discipline. Children sometimes get away from their parents. Meaning, children that do not follow instructions or rules grow up to be disrespectful and have bad attitudes. Parents that do not focus on their children behavior will cause problems for them as an adult.
If you’re not failing, you’re not improving. Another negative effect is the lack of proper communication skills. According to Anne Michaud, they don’t know how to confront others because their parents have always done that for them (Michaud). When is comes to the real world, communication is huge. If you know how to properly communicate with others, you are more likely to be better off in life.
There are parents who do not care what the child does as long as they are not in there way. They are too involved in their careers or in life to care what the child does. Often the child acts out for attention. Most parents believe that by taking the child to counseling will solve the problem, without going to counseling themselves. The parents do not take the disciplinary role.
Parents believe that they are doing a favor for their children by keeping them safe without realizing that this parenting style can have severe effects on children such as robbing children of the essential life skills that they need in order to have a healthy personality and to face life problems. While some may say hovering over their children day in and day out is the way to go, overprotective parenting is crippling, especially to children later in their teen years. Over protective parents will negatively influence their children’s well-being and character development by promoting dependence, causing rebellion, and leading to bullying. Promoting dependence will negatively impact a child’s well-being and character development. Furthermore, projecting the fear of letting a child do things on his own is damaging to his mental health.
“Freedom is meant by someone can do whatever they want in their life as long as they don’t break the law.” (Teen Ink). Parents around the world restricts their kids from going out and doing what they want because they think something bad will happen. Kids now get less freedom than their parents did. Although parents try to protect their children by establishing rules, parents should give their kids freedom to increase trust, become accountable, and put an end to their rebellious nature. Parents don’t trust their kids because they are scared of what they may do with their freedom, however, having trust can help kids use their freedom wisely.
Some of the kids stay this way forever and others become very angry at their parents for not allowing them to have a childhood and making decisions. On the other hand, they are sheltered from the world and have a good discipline, are used to hard work and most probably are educated. Nevertheless, the stress that comes with having authoritarian parents doesn’t justify the benefits of such