Men are taught to be apathetic at a young age; don’t be a sissy, boys don’t cry, and man up are rules that are deeply embedded in men’s minds as they are acknowledged as “masculine”. Mainstream masculinity promotes domination, and power abuse which affect isn’t solely on those who are being dominated against, as men are perhaps the first victims to such toxic thinking. Mainstream masculinity breeds toxic masculinity which boosts violence against women, LGBT people, and those who are “less” powerful, so are men the problem? No, patriarchy is; the system that sets these rules and regulations. In this paper, I will discuss masculinity’s negative affect on men, and how feminist masculinity can free them.
We hurt them more than help them when we do this. The fact that we are so hard on males, makes them not respect our females as much either. The ideal is, “Women are of less value, property of men and sexual object to men” said Tony Porter in the video, “A call to men.” The main problem here is that women deserve way more respect
The teachings of masculinity that span many generations can be seen by how men desire to see the fruit of their labor. Men who follow the code do not care for attention from women, but rather solely focus on the respect and acknowledgment from male peers. The practices that embody masculinity clearly have no intention to impress anybody other than men. The fear associated with not being manly is far more when another man is accusing one of such a heinous crime. This introduces that the “Guy Code” is harmful to men, and in turn society.
This continued inequality and injustice toward the male gender and their descriptive traits is unfair and promotes more feelings of seclusion and isolation in young men in boys and thusly a deeper fall into the “man box”. (Thompkins-Jones 1). Masculinity as anything in this world is only as bad and can only affect as much as you let it. If the world continues to shine men and masculinity in this negative light as they have so well been doing then not only will billions of people feel out of place and ostracized but also shamed into thinking that them being themselves is the worst thing they can do. I hope you do not contribute to this
Feminists are a product of such stereotypical beliefs, an article by Paul Theroux called “Being a man” explaining the ways of feminism, and its outright. Feminism is imagined to be oppressive sense of nakedness, even the expression “Be a man!” strikes me as insulting and abusive. It means be stupid, be unfeeling, obedient, soldierly, and stop thinking. Man means “manly”—how can one think about men without considering the terrible ambition of manliness? And yet it is apart of every man’s life.
Anger has nothing to do with it, the man does it because he knows that he can get away with what he did. Pecola is greatly affected by sexism as well, because it shows that no man that she encountered had any kind respect for her. Pecola is also an example of how sexism can turn violent. Sexism in The Bluest Eye, shows how disrespectful and violent men can be to women based on the fact that they know they can because men are held at a higher
Zeilinger believes that not only women suffer from oppressive gender roles. Men often suffer just as much if not more. She seeks to expose the issues men face in todays society. Guys do have emotions, and when they come, they must face a big dilemma. They can either disconnect from their human emotions or live in a “state of contradiction” against their “manliness.” The traits that traditionally come with being a man are harmful to society.
It comes down from their fathers, teachers, pastors, coaches, and just about any male figures in their lives. Anything that they do that even resembles a womanly action makes them less of a man. He also shows how in a man's life it is always drilled into him to be unlike a woman. Men always use words like “sissy” or “girly” to degrade a man by doing that they are saying bad to be a woman. It may even be the worst thing possible.
This justifies to males the abuse of women, as they are weak and inferior due to their 'lack' of body parts. Twin Peaks takes a bold stance on the portrayal of women in the media as well as women in society. The images and plots shown almost always portray women in a negative light. The dangers of showing these images on national television are the ideas that are imposed to the audience in real life. Twin Peaks feeds the audience ideas that women are weak, incompetent, evil, insufficient, and often objects of a male dominated society.
There is also a repeating idea that women are dangerous, and that every man needs to be cautious and suspicious of his wife or lover. An example of this is when Agamemnon comes home and is killed by his wife and her lover. Another repeating idea is that women will be men’s downfall in the end, even if men try to change their fate. A good example of this is when Aphrodite sleeps with Ares. Hephaestus tries to shame her by letting other gods see the crime she has committed, and instead he is the one who is shamed.