The Theme Of Love And Love By Willard Harley

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Willard Harley’s theme is introduced in the introduction and chapter 1, his purpse is to have marriage relationships learn how to meet each other needs (Harley, 15). Chapter 1 shares the expectations of the relationship and how to build an affair-proof marriage in the process (Harley, 17). In chapter 2 he describes his theory of how each person in the marriage can deposit or withdraw love from the “Love Bank”, indicates that this bank should never close. Everyone has a love system that is worth an assured amount of love units. The goal is the have each person stop making withdrawals, but in its place build up deposits with a treasure of love units together (Harley, 24). The next four chapters explains the two most importance needs of…show more content…
Affection is a crucially important commoditiy in their eyes because it symbolizes agreement, comfort, protection, and security (Harley, 37). If a woman’s need of affection is not being met, changes are that there is a lack of sex on her part, because sex begins with affection. Harley ends chapter 3 by stating “affection is the environment of the marriage, while sex is an event. Affection is a way of life, a canopy that covers and protect a marriage (Harley, 44). Chapter 4 describes why men need sexual fulfillment instead of affection. It bring to light the differences between the sexuality of men and women’s, sexual awareness, sexual motivation, sexual compatibility, and solving sexual problems (Harley, 50-61). The need for intimate conversation is publicized in the next chapter. Chapter 5 challeges men to take time out to converse with their wives because effective conversation can help met emotional needs and help slove conflicts in the marriage. Chapter 5 also challenge men to spend at least fifteen-hour for undivided attention, necessary to obtain a healthy marraige (Harley, 71). Chapter 6 shares information about how recreational companionship is important to men and how they response within the marriage (Harley, 89). The next chapter express’ the openness and honesty that women need from their spouses. The things that could hurt the marriage in the longrun if openness and honesty is not…show more content…
I agree with the things that each partner can not do without. For example, the woman can’t do without affection and intimatcy. Harley was spot on with affection because it does signify her need for security and protection in the relationship. Security is more than just finances, its about feeling safe and being taken care of in every aspect of the relationship. The challenge for him is satisfying this desire because sometimes his needs superseed her or he does not always understand what she means by feeling safe. Every woman wants protection from their mate. A woman is consider the weakest sex, she different emotionally and mentally when it comes to physical altercations. Harley teaches the man to tap into the affection and intimatcy of a women because if her needs are not met, his will not be met as well. For example, the man can’t do without sexual fulfillment and recreational companionship. Harley shared that a marriage is conditional and if it going to work, the women must understand why sex is the driving force for the man. Harley stated in his book that there are three important differences between men and women when it comes to sex: sexual drive, sexuality awareness, and the reason for sex (Harley, 51). I found this very interesting because Harley was very explicit in details, that both parties could understand when it comes to the needs of each other. The book set
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