Parental Involvement: A Lens through 'The Secret Life of Bees'

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Usually, food, water, and shelter comes to mind when people are asked to imagine the essentials of life. Although all of these are equally important, they are just the bare essentials a person needs in order to survive. In order to support a person’s well being and mold a pleasing future, parental involvement, a sometimes overlooked act, is just as important as the resources mentioned above. The lack of a caring and nurturing parent can lead to terrible consequences, which is exemplified by the character of Lily Owens in Sue Monk Kidd’s first novel, The Secret Life of Bees. Without a maternal figure to guide her and instead a neglectful father in her mother’s place, Lily’s life spirals out of control into a world full of low self-esteem and …show more content…

Instead, she feels incapable of being like the other girls at her school, and therefore, each time Lily walks through the halls of her school, she always feels like the odd one out, the ugly duckling amongst the beautiful swans. Her anxiety becomes such a problem that she ends up reducing herself to nothing more than a “bleeding wreck” as an attempt to shield herself from the clusters of gossiping girls around her (9). Persisting in the notion that she is of little importance, Lily is shocked when her teacher tells her that Beauty School, an institution for the untalented, would be a waste of her “fine intelligence” (16). Due to the fact that she believes there are no other attainable life possibilities, such a revelation is so surprising that it takes her a whole month to get over it. Along with all the absurd ideas she puts in her head, it is inevitable for her to feel unlovable. Of course, her father poses the biggest influence of all, since he does not show any signs of appreciation or love towards her, but the rejection of the unfriendly girls at school proves momentous as well. As a result of such little to none parental guidance, Lily’s social life crumbles apart as she becomes a person of wasted

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