The mother’s firmly believed that if you were obedient to your mother you would grow up a good Chinese woman – but that was the problem. "One of the major conflicts between the mothers and their daughters is the desire of the young generation to become more Americanized" (Ballantine Teacher’s Guide on The Joy Luck Club). The daughters were raised in America, which meant that they were influenced a great deal by American ways. There was no preventing that. The significance of the relationships between mother and daughter were a result of a clash of culture between Chinese belief and American tradition.
Because you not trying" (Tan 1210). Not only does Tan's use of choppy English help establish a distinctiveness for the mother's character, but it also demonstrates a stern voice that is incapable of showing emotion. The mother immigrated from China during the post-World War II era with many aspirations about America that made her push her daughter to be something she was not. According to Jing-mei, the daughter, My mother believed you could be anything you wanted to be in America. America was where all my mother's hopes lay.
Mothers and Daughters in Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club Throughout Amy Tan’s novel, The Joy Luck Club, the reader can see the difficulites in the mother-daughter relationships. The mothers came to America from China hoping to give their daughters better lives than what they had. In China, women were “to be obedient, to honor one’s parents, one’s husband, and to try to please him and his family,” (Chinese-American Women in American Culture). They were not expected to have their own will and to make their own way through life. These mothers did not want this for their children so they thought that in America “nobody [would] say her worth [was] measured by the loudness of her husband’s belch…nobody [would] look down on her…” (3).
Although both these movies show two very strong girls who surpass many obstacles to change destiny, they also send a negative message about women to the audience. Mulan is set in ancient China a time when women did not have a voice in the government or in their home. Women during this time were expected to clean, cook, and only do things their husbands approved of. The most important day in a woman’s life would be the day she had to see the matchmaker and impress her. In China it was tradition that a woman go to matchmaker for marriage.
Chinese mothers try to pass on their values, instincts, and intuitiveness on to the second generation. Great fortune has come to the members of the Joy Luck Club through their hardships, and they only want their daughters to understand what it takes to succeed in life. The Joy Luck Club ladies were all friends who over time have formed blissful lives for themselves in America. All of the daughters in this book were raised with high expectations, even the mothers while they were in China. This is contrary to an overall idea that girls in China were not a great commodity to their parents.
June did not have this blind obedience like a Chinese daughter, " I didn't have to do what my mother said anymore. I wasn't her slave. This wasn't China" and refused to be the best, perfect, as what her mother wants her to be. Her mother only hoped and wanted the best for her daughter, which is the Chinese thinking, yet June takes it that her mother wants her to be someone that she is not. When Suyuan tells June, " only one kind of daughter can live in this house, the obedien... ... middle of paper ... ...he tensions between mothers and daughters that have their source in a clash of cultures.
“Women from Asia value family. Family is all important. Husband, children, parents, relatives come first. Husband and children never take second place to her career (China Bride).” The Joy Luck Club emphasizes family values by explaining how each mother, Suyuan Woo, An-Mei Hsu, Lindo Jong, and Ying-ying St. Clair, came to America so that their daughters could have better lives and everything that they didn’t have. Because the daughters in The Joy Luck Club were born in America, they wanted to be more Americanized than to recognize their true Chinese culture.
They do not believe in divorce. They marry for life…in good times and bad," ( China Bride ). However, Lindo manages to outwit her new family and escape the m... ... middle of paper ... ...standing their mothers’ viewpoint on an issue. Despite a lack of cultural knowledge, the mothers have good intentions for their daughters. Even though the daughters do not want to admit it, they have inherited more from their mothers than they thought because "each daughter…becomes a stronger person through her mother’s past," ( "Analysis of Literary Merit" ).
"Living with their traditional culture in American society, Chinese-American women suffer the prob... ... middle of paper ... ...ying to save their daughters from the cultural barriers, and identity crisis’ that they had to face. It is in listening to these stories that the daughters find their true identities and become the people that they really are. They realize that they do not have to look at their mothers’ as their opponents, but instead their equals. They accept and even honor the fact that they are the same as their mothers. The Joy Luck Club tells a strong and powerful story that shows the importance of history, culture, and identity in mother daughter relationships, and also in everyday life.
Although Brave Orchid frequently enforced Chinese customs amongst her daughters, she often contradi... ... middle of paper ... ... her heritage and the struggles of being a first generation Chinese American, she projects a message of self empowerment among women whom suffer from oppression or come from a culture of oppression. She acknowledges her determination of wanting to be successful by not complying with the role of the submissive oriental woman. Although she does not submit to the norm of female oppression, Kingston continues to follow other Chinese customs and constantly reminds herself about the past oppression of women and how she is not willing to continue the ongoing cycle. Caught between two distinct social standards, Kingston suffered from identity confusion. As Kingston’s autobiography reveals a message of self empowerment and women oppression, her autobiography continues to lives among the beholder; leaving the reader with a final thought: women will overcome male dominance.