Authoritative parenting is both a demanding and responsive way of parenting a child. The responsiveness aspect of the parenting allows for the child to still be creative and unique while offering understanding, empathy and love to the child. Responsiveness is a vital key during the child 's cognitive development as it helps guide the child on how to deal with certain things and how to act, while giving them a sense of understanding and answering their question of “Why.”The demandingness is also very important and helps lay the foundation for what is to expected of a child when they grow up and live on their own. Parents who are demanding, set age-appropriate limits and boundaries and the majority of the time those limits and boundaries have good intentions and rational reasoning. The parents …show more content…
Children usually show ambivalent attachment to their parents when their parents are permissive. Permissive parents usually have few rules and no “standard of behavior” and when there is rules they are often inconsistent. These parents are not usually strict when it comes to school work and their child 's grades, there is no punishment given for poor grades in some cases. The parents are more like friends, rather than parents but are very nurturing and loving towards their kids. The effects of permissive parenting is the child often lacks self-discipline, have poor social skills and may feel insecure since they have no boundaries. With permissive parenting, the child may realize they have to figure out what is right and wrong to do on their own and may have to develop their own self-discipline and responsibilities. On the other hand, the child may be lost, undisciplined and very irresponsible. These children often are involved in underaged drinking and perhaps drug use. Since their parents aren’t very demanding they may “turn a blind eye” to their
It is a mixture of very strict parenting and a laissez faire style. Authoritative parents are responsive, nurturing, and involved. But, authoritative parents don't let their kids get away with bad behavior. When kids make mistakes or misbehave, they attempt to reason with their children. Authoritative parents are also less likely to control their children through harsh or arbitrary punishments, shaming, or the withdrawal of love. Authoritative parents want to encourage independence in their kids. But they also want to foster self-discipline, maturity, and a respect for
Many parents believe they have little influence on their children’s lives. This is simply not true. At the ages of 10 -12 if the child does not have a strong bond with at least one parent, he or she might start to find that bond elsewhere, which can be negative. Studies show that securely attached adolescents are less likely to be involved in drinking, drugs and sexual behavior. Also, attachment relates to the belief bond. If the child is in a situation where he or she is tempted to commit a delinquent act, even though his or her parent is not physically there, the parent will psychologically be there is the belief bond is strong. This causes the child to question the activities he or she is faced with. So having strong attachments with parents will motivate children to making the right
However, in this type of parenting style, authoritative parents are more responsive to their child, more willing to listen to questions and more forgiving rather than punishing when their child fail to meet expectations. These parents are more supportive, rather than punitive, also, they focus on making their child confident and socially responsible.(Baumrind, 1966). In authoritarian parenting style, children are expected to follow the strict rules and regulation established by the parents. The parents are too demanding and directive but not really responsive towards their children. They are also status-orientated and children are expected to obey their rules without any explanations (Baumrind, 1991). Then, there is the permissive parenting style in which the parents rarely discipline their child because they have low expectations of maturity and self-regulation. Permissive parent is more responsive, non-traditional and lenient towards their child. They are nurturing and very open with their child (Baumrind, 1991). Lastly, neglectful parenting style is those parents who have both low demandingness and responsiveness towards their children. These parents are generally detached from their child’s life and in some cases; they may even reject or neglect their child’s needs (Maccoby & Martin,
In permissive parenting, the guardians are more of the child’s friends and not a disciplinary figure. Permissive parenting embraces avoiding confrontation and being lenient as the key to success. Imagine a trip to the grocery store. You are walking down the cereal isle and you approach a child screaming because he wants his favorite marshmallow filled cereal, rather than a healthier choice. Fulfilling the child’s want in order to appease the child, rather than being assertive and making a healthier choice is a perfect example. A second contrast of permissive parenting is expectations of education. We saw that in authoritarian parenting an A plus grade is expected. The dissimilarity between parenting techniques would be that a B minus would bring praise in permissive household. This is similar to how I was raised. As a child, my siblings and I were expected to achieve good grades but that did not translate into an A plus on every exam. Our academic achievements were to be considered excellent and praiseworthy even if we brought home a B on a test. In hindsight, if we were to earn a C in a class we could expect some sort of restriction and forced remedial training in that area. Permissive parenting is a style of parenting that yields lower expectations and lenient rules for children. This parenting technique embracing fun and friendship between guardian and the child is believed to foster a positive environment for the child to succeed in
This type of parenting is very warm and accepting, but lacks structure and control. These parents do not have many rules and let their kids get away with anything. There are two extremes as to why parents act this way. One way is that parents are seen to try to be more of a friend to their kids than a parent because they are out of touch with their child’s generation. Another excuse for permissive parenting is when parents claim they do not have time to exert control over their children because of external factors such as work. Kids that come from these backgrounds can be seen as impulsive, dependent, disobedient and rebellious. These children from permissive households seem to do poorer in school and have trouble with social skills as well. An example of permissive parenting is seen in the movie “Mean Girls” When the mom tries to be friends with all of her daughter’s friends. The mom in the movie is more concerned with being a part of the gossip than actually trying to parent her child properly. The mom gets her daughter everything she wants and has no rules or regulations. These lead to her daughter’s awful and mean behavior in the movie because her mother never taught that the world did not revolve around her and acting out was not acceptable in society. In my experience, I have known some families that act similarly to the mom in mean girls. I went to a
Permissive style—also known as the indulgent style—dominantly focuses on nurturance, but not as much in regards to control, maturity demands (level of expectations), and communication. Therefore, despite the high tolerance and warmth of the parents, permissive style often results in unfavourable outcomes in a child. Such negative influences are evident throughout children’s development to their adolescence. Adolescents raised by permissive parents tend to do less well
Within the realm of Communication and Parenting, it is apparent that most researches will refer to three main parenting styles: permissive, authoritarian, and authoritative parenting. Permissive parenting is described as a style in which parents exert minimal psychological control combined with high levels of affection. Authoritarian styles differ from this greatly, as it is defined as parenting with many demands and few expressions of affection. Authoritative parenting can be described as a balance of permissive and authoritarian styles. Authoritative parents have high expectations for their children, and they are able to effectively share ideals of love and respect. The essay “The Role of Parenting Styles in Children's Problem Behavior,”
A parent that is an authoritative shows the child love and support; but also wants to see them succeed in life. They give explanations to their child, it is not “because I said so” and that’s the end of the discussion. Like I mentioned before this is how my father parented me. He gave me examples and explanations on why I couldn’t do something, etc. The authoritative parenting style is how my older sister parents her son. I see all the positive effects that it has on him and I wish to parent that way as well.
To begin with, of the four Baumrind’s parenting styles, authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and disengaged, I chose authoritative. Authoritative parenting has a high level of demandingness while at the same time exerts the same amount of responsiveness leading to a child who is independent, creative, well-balanced, and leads a relatively social lifestyle. I feel that laying down rules and expectations for a child gives them the guidance they need at a young age or they will be left to guide themselves blindly leading to irresponsibility, impulsiveness, and a tendency to engage in substance use. Equally important is a parent needs to warm, attentive, and not only say they love their children but express through actions and understanding as well (Arnett, 2016).
This style of parenting is best described as the child having more control over the parent. There are a lot of parents today that seem to have no control of their child actions and even words. This in which can make the parents question what are they doing wrong when it comes to raising their child. This type of parent have very low demands and are highly responsive, maybe even too responsive to the child’s needs. Although these parents are very loving of their children they do not have many rules that their child should abide by (Cherry, K. 2017, para.1). Not setting ground rules gives the child the freedom to do whatever they want and know that they will not receive a harsh, if any punishment at all. Also, parents who are permissive tend to want to be their child’s best friend. The child in this parent in child relationship tends to have more control than the parent. If there are not any rules in place to be followed the child will eventually resort to negative behaviors, and may even be insure because of the low discipline from their parents (Cherry, K. 2017, para. 9). Permissive parents should give the child rules to follow and discipline them if broken, to ensure that their child follow the right path throughout
With over three hundred million Americans and over six billion people worldwide parenting skills are essential to maintain a healthy society. Parenting involves many aspects and requires many skills. It is a time to nurture, instruct, and correct to develop fundamental skills children will need to be mature, responsible, and contributing adults to a society. There are four commonly identified parenting styles; authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and uninvolved parenting. Of the four parenting styles, two remain on opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well each style has its own advantages such as; acceptance by peers with commonality. Child rearing for most parents is an evolving set of skills. It could be said that, with any style of parenting, there is no explicit set of rules for every situation, and what works for one child may not be effective for another.
Authoritative parenting has a stronger positive outcome due to the balance maintained within the structure of this parenting style. According to developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind, “Authoritative parents are firm, setting limits for their children. As the children get older, these parents try to reason and explain things to them. They also set clear goals and encourage their children's independence,” (Baumrind 2005). For example, a young boy wants to play video games all day and the parent decides this is unwise. It is a nice day outside and the parent wants him to go out and play. An authoritative approach would be to sit down with the child and explain the positives of playing outside rather than the negatives of playing video games. The parent would appeal to the child's interests in order to engage the child in effective parenting. The child would then be able to see the positive side of the decision rather than just the negative consequences.
Authoritative child-rearing “involves high acceptance and involvement, adaptive control techniques, and appropriate autonomy granting.” (Laura 216) In other words, there are guidelines, standards, the parents are enabling, supportive, flexible, assertive, but the relationship between the parents and children serves as democratic.... ... middle of paper ... ...
Authoritative-parenting who are flexible and responsive to the child's needs but still enforce reasonable standards of conduct.the authoritative approach involves effective parental communication with their offspring. Developing empathy and understanding creates a positive atmosphere in which the children can thrive. With a heavy leaning on pyschology, this approach replaces spanking with talking. The weakness to this method, doctors point out, lies in the lack of authority that the child receives. They see ...
This parenting style is very undemanding but also very responsive. Permissive parents tend to shower their children with love and affection and involve themselves in their lives. However, they tend to have few to no rules and limitations and therefore have no expectations for their children. They exert a lax pattern of parenting in which they make relatively few demands, permit their children to freely express their feelings and impulses, do not closely monitor their children’s activities, and rarely exert firm control over their behavior (Shaffer & Kipp, 2013). This type of parenting style is not the most beneficial but also not the most negative. The fact that permissive parents make an effort to be involved is a good sign however, the lack of structure is not entirely the best parenting technique. They seem to focus more on being their child’s friend then being their child’s parent. Because of this, they raise children with less favorable developmental outcomes. Not only are they impulsive and aggressive who come off as rude but they also tend to be spoiled and self centered with very little