Politeness is considered as particular ways of performoing the language in a way that is socially appropriate with a great focus on interaction in everyday communication toward other people. Curse (2000) suggests that “ politeness is concerned as linguistic behavior, in which minimize the negative effects of what one says on the feeling of others and maximizing the positive effects, known as negative politeness and positive politeness. Politeness is known as the ability used by the speaker to respect to other people, or in another words to make others feel more comfortable. According to Yule (1996) politeness opens the way of interacting with others as polite behavior within a special culture. Lackoff in Sukarno (2010) claims that politeness …show more content…
It is worth mentioning that the theory of politeness has a close relationship with the concept of face. In theory of politeness face can be considered as an every individual emotional sense of self that every person has in the world and expect every other people to respect and recognize it (Thomas, 1996). As Yule (1996) argues, by referring to the concept of face, it does not mean that facial features of face, but it refers to a public self-image that relates to a social sense of a person in community. It is worth mentioning that someone’s face can be enhanced, maintained, and also damaged by other people. We can classify the notion of face into two main categories, such as positive face and negative …show more content…
Brown and Levinson (1995) proposed a model with a specific classification of three main types of politeness strategy including:
1. Bald on-record:
In this strategy the speaker does not try to perform any action to mitigate the probable threat regarding to the hearer’s face. This kind of strategy is usually used in an urgent situation that is when the information need to be shared quickly, and also in friendly situations. For example when the speaker tells her sister “do the dishes, it’s your turn”.
2. Positive politeness :
In this strategy the speaker tries to mitigate or soften the probable threat or the degree of imposition upon the hearer by using variety of mitigation devices and other expressions in order to provide a friendly situations to make the hearer feel comfortable. For example when the speaker says “hey buddy, I like your sweater, it looks nice on you”.
3. Negative
As a result of my childhood experiences with my grandmother, I became aware and have observed the way people treat and respond to each other based on their appearances, such...
Throughout the semester, we have been introduced to many topics related to interpersonal communication. I have come to believe that these concepts have allowed me to better understand interactions that occur in our daily lives. My knowledge of these concepts was challenged when asked to relate these notions to a movie. During the time that I was watching the movie, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, I realized myself grasping onto what was going on and being able to relate certain scenes and situations to topics I had previously learned about. Interactions in My Big Fat Greek Wedding display concepts of conflict and politeness theory, which can be pointed out in a few specific scenes.
They are often referred to as modern classics. The essay on face-work can be considered as an expansion of Goffman’s previous works on interaction and is included in this series. Summary Goffman refers to his essay on face-work as ‘An Analysis of Ritual Elements in Social Interaction’ (Goffman, p.5). He essentially sets out to prove to the reader that social interaction is a ritual game that we act out and play by the rules. The author provides us with some new vocabulary, including terms and phrases which identify forms of social interaction....
“Hey, thanks for telling me,” with a soft voice and light smile. Does it sound familiar to you? Perhaps the response seems good and polite on the surface, but people might be very frustrating deep inside. Truly, the burden of societal expectation forbids people to share their true feeling and opinion, therefore a genuine interaction among people becomes very rare. Although the U.S. government encourages gender equality, but the society remains the same; in reality, society has a higher expectation on women over men. In the article “Why Women Smile”, Cunningham evaluates on how societal expectation and personal goal evolves women’s daily behavior; particularly she focuses on the women’s smile. It’s for the better, women weaponize their smile
... and that everyone matters. Our children's future and success will be enhanced by the use of appropriate behavior. Let us create an environment in our homes, schools, and churches where manners are taught and valued so that every child feels safe and becomes all they were created to be. A quote by William Arthur Ward makes people wonder whether they have been polite and good-mannered during the day: "God gave you a gift of 86, 400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?"
This list refers to the two subcategories of the personal front: appearance and manners. Appearance involves everything that has to do with our appearance, and what we do with our bodies. Manners refer to how we carry ourselves. For example, a young doctor may not be taken very seriously by older patients because he or she is younger than them. However, by keeping his or her appearance and manners professional, he or she can gain the trust of older patients.
The film, The Breakfast Club, is an impressive work of art, addressing almost every aspect of interpersonal communication. This is easily seen here, as I’ve gone through and shown how all these principles of interpersonal communication apply to real-life, using only two short interpersonal interactions from the movie. I’ve explained aspects of interpersonal communication, nonverbal communication, verbal misunderstandings, communication styles, gender issues, and self-disclosures. With that said, I believe I have demonstrated my ability to apply principles of interpersonal communication with simulated real-life examples.
Social norms rule, well, society. They rule how people act and look when they are in the face of public. One of these norms is to be polite and well-mannered. Some people manage to keep up their facade a lot easier than others. This is where that saying comes in, “don’t judge a book by its cover.” When people first glance at me, I’m sure they either see my Jekyll side or my Hyde side. People either read my body language, and see Hyde, or they judge me on appearance, taking in the Jekyll side. Every person in this world has the inner conflict between good and bad. Even me, an innocent, tiny, adorable girl.
This theory has been subject to many articles and studies in the communication and social departments. Indeed, studying this theory can help us understanding human relations in interpersonal communication. Each of us has been one day confronted to uncertainty, whereas in initial encounters, or moving to a new a new place, or beginning a new work.
"Hold the door, say please, say thank you, don’t steal, don’t cheat, and don’t lie-Tim McGraw." Over the past ten years, chivalry has faded away, but people need to start bringing it back. During that same time frame racism, crimes, and not having respect has become a huge problem. There's lots of proof that respect is disappearing from the world, hope is not lost until it's gone. When we tolerate disrespectful behavior, it can eventually lead to crime and violence. Consistent and having common goals are important to teach polite behavior.
Steve A. Beebe, S. J. (2008). Interpersonal Communication. In A. a. Pearson, Interpersonal Communication, Relating To Others- Fifth Edition. Toronto, Ontario: Pearson Education, Inc.
Communicative intentions and speech acts are related to the fact that an individual states a sentence, but that sentence has 2 or more several different meanings. The way the sentence is delivered, the tone used to deliver it and the entire body language is related to speech acts. In this paper, a particular scene will be discussed with regards to the participants’ communicative intentions and speech acts. The following scene will be discussed related to the communicative intentions and speech acts:
...ions and politeness strategies used by Jordanian speakers in daily communication and the social factors that affect on such choice of speech act.
There are two fundamental issues about Japanese politeness. Firstly, when an English source text is translated into Japanese, the translator should determine the target Japanese text’s
Al-Qahtani (2009) investigated the differences in female use of politeness strategies between Spoken Saudi Arabic and Spoken British English in the speech act of offering based on Brown and Levinson’s (1987) model of politeness .The data were collected through the use of a Discourse Completion Test and interviews. Gender as social variables when producing offers was investigated . The sample consisted of 53 female Saudis and 50 British English women. The results showed inter-group differences between the Saudi Arabic and British female speakers in the use of politeness strategies in offers. There was social distance between both groups. The gender showed a significant impact on the use of politeness strategies in realizing offers in the Saudi female group but not in the British.