Firstly, his parents divorced in 1990. He was depressed, but as the eldest son, he learnt to be independent and hide his feeling from others, which later turned out to have high self management skills. The relationship with mothers and fathers are equally important in building attachment. However, divorce of parents made him blaming his parents, which made him lose all trust of his parents and the opinions from them (Lee, 2007). On the other hand, his ego personality had led to the lack of friendship so no one knew his plans and could not stop him.
Troy do not want his son Cory’s life to be like him, but yet he raised him to be an independent man like his was. Troy denys Cory’s chance to a football tryout because he believes that his son will experience his disappointment in the industry. Troy said to Rose, “I don’t want him to be like me!” (1046). One of the differences that complicate their relationship is that they have grown up in completely different time ... ... middle of paper ... ...ding to Rose, his wife she believe that family should respect regardless of how big of a mistake they make, when Troy cheat on Rose for example. She was upset but she doesn't want to leave him because she have a child to take care of.
Does childhood shapes adult life? The environment has a huge impact in our life, it influences our behavior, personality, the way we see each other. The experiences we live as a child, shapes us either in a positive or a negative way. It’s inevitably to escape from how these experiences affects us, but it’s also possible to get rid of the negatives effect. In my opinion is a constant battle between the situations that shapes us and how we decide to let those situations change our behavior and personality.
I thought the influence the author Wes’s parents had on him was an absolute key to his success. As I talked about earlier Wes was on the wrong path as a kid. He was getting into drugs and this was affecting his academics as well. Before things got out of hand Wes’s family forced him to go to military school and fix his life. Despite Wes trying to escape and quit multiple times his family kept pushing him and motivating him.
Enrique’s time apart from his mother made them more like “strangers” than family. Filled with anger stemming from the years apart from one another, he refused to obey his mother’s wishes to live healthier. While lost in family chaos, he turned back to his addiction of drugs crashing his dream of a perfect family dynamic. Though his dream became a nightmare, he was able to achieve it through one core trait where his inner strength help drive him to not give up his dream of seeing his mother. This signifies that if a person is willing to work hard to achieve their dream through diligence, it can be met.
His education does not seem to matter to him either, he thinks that as long as they he can keep moving forward in life, you won't need school. Therefore, Holden brings all the stress and depression not only to himself, but amongst his loved ones as well. He is careless for the people that care so much about him. he does not realize the trouble he has caused for his family either. Holden's mother is already very sick, and finding out that her son has not been in school because he has gotten kicked out , it will just about kill her.
He feels that every dream he has had has been taken away from him, either by bad timing or by the white man in general. Ruth, on the other hand, has never had any other dream except to keep her family together and in working order, and now that is falling apart. Willy Harris was what festered like a sore and then ran away. He annoyed Walter Lee for money, causing Walter Lee to do the same but to his family. Mama was tired of listening about Walter Lee wanting to invest in a liquor store.
In the high criminal neighborhood where the other Wes lived, people who live there need a positive role model or a mentor to lead them to a better future. Usually the older family members are the person they can look up to. The other Wes’s mother was not there when the other Wes felt perplexed about his future and needed her to support and give him advises. Even though the other Wes’s mother moved around and tried to keep the other Wes from bad influences in the neighborhood, still, the other Wes dropped out of school and ended up in the prison. While the author Wes went to the private school every day with his friend Justin; the other Wes tried to skip school with his friend Woody.
I started to develop a mentality that education wasn't for me, but for my family to become successful. I fail to realize that what my parents were doing to my older brother was wrong. That they were going to use him to live the life they couldn't have. I didn't realize the stress they put him through and that because of that stress he was slowly becoming depressed. I was so stuck in this world that their expectations we're supposed to be mine.
Through losing his mother he learned to not take for granted the people in his life. He also learned from his parents that he did not want to raise his children like they did. From the lack of money he grew up with, he developed a hard worker attitude. He was determined to not maintain the life he knew for his children. My parents fight and argue but they have never talked about splitting up or getting divorced.