He differentiates between genuine friendships and then two other forms based on pleasure, and common usefulness. Genuine friendship is something that will not dissolve, whereas the two other forms needs utility and pleasure to be involved in order to last. A genuine friendship takes place amongst two good men, “each wishes good for each other, and is also good themselves”. Aristotle continues to say, “And it is those who wish the good of their friends for the friends’ sake that are most truly friends, because each loves the other for what he is, and not for any incidental quality” (Aristotle 1976: 263). Genuine friendship is a type of virtue, or involves virtue, and it is very essential for a good life.
31, 11.5/11.51) he also describes two kinds of love, which is good, and bad self-love, in which he believes that the only good kind of self-love should love. Aristotle believes that the bad-self lover is narcissistic who is only in it for himself, his own self-interests and believes that he himself, matters more than anything else; therefore will stop at nothing to achieve his goals even if others are not aware of it. Bad-self lovers have more appetite money, pleasure, and honor/fame, which Aristotle believes that these things are not the healthiest things for someone to strive for; therefore will not be at their happiest. Good-self lovers, love the self most, and use reason to differ themselves from bad-self love. This reason acts as a guide towards action and furthering themselves away from appetite, which bad-self lovers have.
Nicomachean Ethics I chose to write about Aristotle and his beliefs about how the virtuous human being needs friends from Book VIII from Nicomachean Ethics. In this essay I will talk about the three different kinds of friendship that (Utility, Pleasure, and Goodness) that Aristotle claims exist. I will also discuss later in my paper why Aristotle believes that Goodness is the best type of friendship over Utility or Pleasure. In addition to that I will also talk about the similarities and differences that these three friendships share between one another. And lastly I will argue why I personally agree with Aristotle and his feelings on how friendship and virtue go hand in hand and depend on each other.
It is an act to ultimately benefit one self. Conversely, it is also what is known as self-righteousness, where one claims to be charitable and or virtuous towards others, when all the while there is a hidden agenda to benefit one-self. The so-called “friendship” is only to benefit the oneself. Unfortunately, this type of self-love can lead to loneliness and loss of true friendships. As much as people may believe that true friendship is not necessary, it is our inherent human need to be in a relationship with other human beings, and/or to develop a form of friendship.
. If two people were to have a virtuous friendship then they would not be good to each other merely out of habit. One must not look for rewards or keep a tally of points; instead one must give of themselves freely without wanting anything in return. “The good man acts for honour's sake, and the more so the better he is, and acts for his friend's sake, and sacrifices his own interest” (Aristotle 1). Aristotle also explains that friendships of utility and pleasu... ... middle of paper ... ... of friendship in a more spiritual manner.
Of course, it’s not always a good idea to judge friends in a detached way, or to doubt a friendship just because you can’t easily identify its rewards. The closest friends like each other for who they are in themselves, not for what they deliver. In fact, Aristotle made the point that it is better to give than to receive in friendship. Aristotle also believed that friendship can only arise indirectly, like happiness. It comes with living what he called a good life, including strong personal values such as honesty, character and passion.
Under Aristotle’s definition, the people you work with would be considered your friends, because you maintain a relationship based on your usefulness to one another. However, the relationship between coworkers rarely continues outside of work, and so cannot be considered friendship. Aristotle’s theory of three types of friendship is acceptable as a working definition of what friendship is, but the depth and complexity of emotion contained in friendship goes beyond his definition. Works Cited Aristotle. Nicomachean Ethics.
The word “mutual” is of severe importance. If friend A is dishonest, and wife C is honest, then it is not a true friendship. It is inherently in the state of friendship, that we find that we ought to be honest, even if it is not in our best interests. For example, someone who opposes telling the wife the truth would so on certain grounds, including: not getting involved, or afraid to lose one of the friends. These objections fail because they are grounded on selfish ends.
Why bad people cannot have a complete friendship by loving for each other’s sake? The word “good” is not separated from “virtue” or “goodness”, because a good person owns the goodness and this virtue makes a person good. For bad people, they would only love their friends for utility and pleasure for their own sake instead of for other’s sake; therefore they are not in the precondition of a complete
In studying friendship through the lense of philosophy and philosophers, specifically Aristotle and Grunebaum, there’s been a lot of discussion about the ‘how’s and ‘what’s and ‘why’s of friendship-- what is a perfect friendship, and what is it based on? Why are friendships that focus on pleasantness or usefulness imperfect? Why do we feel obligations to our friends that we don’t feel to other people? We’ve had these questions answered-- a perfect friendship is, according to Aristotle, one based on the ‘virtuous’ qualities of both people-- ‘virtuous’, in this context, meaning the balance, the middle ground between excess and deficit. Pleasant friendships are ones that are only fun, no content, and useful friendships are ones where the parties just use each other for their possessions.