The Need For Independence in Everything That Rises Must Converge
At some point in every parent-child relationship, the child gets to a point where he no longer wants to feel dependent upon his parent. In some cases, the child will emotionally detach himself from his parent in order to
achieve this feeling of independence. In Flannery O'Connor's short story,
Everything That Rises Must Converge, the relationship between Julian and his
mother is a situation where the child, Julian, has tried to gain a feeling
of independence by emotionally detaching himself from his mother.
Julian's financial dependence on his mother has made him very bitter. His
need to justify his mother's struggle to better him by stating that she
"enjoyed the struggle" provides insight into the fact that he is a person
who doesn't want to feel as if he owes anybody. The irony of it is that he
wishes to take care of his mother but is unable to do so. His insistence
that she keep the hat is an illustration of the fact that he wishes for her
to have more.
While Julian portrays his disapproval of his mother's views as a matter of
right and wrong, in actuality he opposes her views in order to assert his
independence. His opposing his mother's belief that she has "won" is backed
by self-pitying arguments. His solid based opposition of his mother's
prejudice views is really only a way to show his mother that he has his own
independent views. The fact that he never really cares out a conversation
with any black person that he feels isn't educated and that he never follows
out with his plan to invite them home to dinner shows that his own beliefs
aren't solid and are based on his desire to infuriate his mother.
Julian's need to feel intelligent is an attempt on his part to be better
than his mother. His comment on going to a "third-rate college, he had, on
his own initiative, come out with a first-rate education; in spite of
growing up dominated by a small mind [his mother's mind], he had ended with
a large one; in spite of all her foolish views, he was free of prejudice and
unafraid to face fact," is not only a demonstration of his need to feel
superior to his mother but is also very ironic in the fact that if any of
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From birth to about six months old, an infant doesnÂ’t seem to mind staying with an unfamiliar person (Brazelton, 1992), although the infant is able to distinguish his mother from other people (Slater, et al, 1998). As the infant gets a little older, at about eight to ten months, he/she begins to cry when his caregiver is not his mother or father; and again between eighteen and twenty-four months, when the infant finds out he/she has some control over what happens (Schuster, 1980). Separation anxiety could, and often does, make parents feel guilty for leaving their child and might make them wonder if they are causing their child undue stress.
The role of nurturing parents in a family is an important factor that helps in the growing of personal independence and is the basis for emotional stability.
of the couple. He is of the Catholic faith and very often has to give
Attachments are formed with parents; this contributes to give a sense of who we are and who we will become in later life. However where these attachments are broken the child needs to have a secure attachment established with an alternative adult care giver,...
The children grow to be uncaring and unresponsive to the actions that the parents do for the family as the speake...
at unearthly hours without care for his niece, and makes no attempt at making money to
her to be somebody that she wasn't. Tea Cake let her be herself. He loved
... "The Yellow Wallpaper" is not simply a story of a woman whose imagination drives her insane, it is a symbolic story of the woman writer who wishes to free herself from the conventions of the male dominated literary world. Gilman's proposes that women can achieve such status that they deserve, but that they must first acknowledge and see truthfully the "madness" surroundings, the tenets created by men, and become driven by the "madness" to overcome it. It is not impossible, but an uphill battle won by many others. Charlotte Perkins Gilman is proof of this: her work is wholly a part of the literary canon, among the best of her male peers.
Besides rejection and guilt, children often feel abandoned by the two closest people in their world. It generally leaves scars that are difficult to heal. The child is left trying to understand why these two people cannot stay together and may even personalize the blame because they feel that they are not good enough to bring them back togeth...
The variation in finches is one in three and the variation in sparrows is four in ten thousand.
The development of families and individuals in the family affect parent child relations. This includes leaving home, marriage, first child birth, divorce, relocating, working outside the home, and possible illnesses or disability. The developments put tension, pressure, and stress on a child and parents relationship. Causing the child to resent and or feel slighted by the parent. They feel this way because of unfair treatment, not enough attention, recent failures, and a possible divorce. A child may feel as though their parent isn’t treating as though they should and it may cause tension in the parent child relationship. It could also cause resentment from the child to the parent. Leaving home can be a bad experience and feeling for the parent and the child. Depending on whom leaves home the parent or the child even if just ...
Children’s growth and development start at a very early age. Every child develops at their own pace. Through the stages of development, people are able to see the changes in their emotional, cognitive, and physical growth. A child may grow up to be loud and very outgoing while another may grow up to be quiet and reserved. Some may have more social, emotional, and behavioral problems than others. We know every child, every person is different. Some could have inherited characteristics from their parents. Or some may have picked up these “ways” by observing. Some children may not be in the best of places growing up such as being in a family where physical abuse is present, alcohol and drugs, or family issues between parents leading to divorces. Parents being divorced or having a parent walk out in the family and never returning could negatively impact a growing child especially witnessing the leave.
relationships can lead to a lack of the true sense of intimacy and trust. A child will isolate