Ideal Family Myth

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When we look at the idea of what the ideal family is, we seem to get lost and find ourselves confused about what that means. Everybody has a different perception of family and how they are supposed to be. There have been many myths about what the ideal or perfect family is and with these myths come positive and negative perceptions. A myth that I view as the most interesting is the myth of the perfect marriage. In many cases, people enter marriage with a whole different perception of what a perfect marriage should be. In many cases the honeymoon stage comes to end far too quickly because of peoples unrealistic expectations. Yes in many cases we find a great partner who’s a friend a confidant our everything and then reality sets in. We are …show more content…

In the past families were portrayed as having two loving and understanding parents who always got along and children were just perfect and got along fine. The reality is that how families were viewed in the past is just simply unrealistic. The perfect families of the past simply never existed. Times were much harder as parents were never home because they were forced to work long and dangerous hours in harsh conditions. These conditions would sometimes lead to illnesses and in some cases death. In many circumstances children weren’t even living with their parents. They would end up in the system or living with other family members. Domestic violence was also much more common than we honestly cared to acknowledge due to lack of education on the subject. Women with children were in many cases abounded with small children. Families in the past were not as functional as we are led to …show more content…

Family isn’t always this safe and loving place. Not all families provide love and support and emotional stability. It is sad that in many cases home is what a person could fear the most. Home is where they feel threatened and abused. Home is not always stable and that doesn’t necessarily mean that the parents are horrible people. It simply means that maybe parents need help trying to balance work, marriage, home and the responsibility of raising children. Stress can be a horrible thing to deal with especially when we don’t have a proper support

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