Not only did the mother’s good intentions bring about failure and disappointment from Jing Mei, but rooted in her mother’s culture was the belief that children are to be obedient and give respect to their elders. "Only two kinds of daughters.....those who are obedient and those who follow their own mind!" (Tan1) is the comment made by her mother when Jing Mei refuses to continue with piano lessons. In the end, this story shows that not only is the mother-daughter relationship intricately complex but is made even more so with cultural and generational differences added to the mix. Work Cited Tan, Amy.
Although Rose believes that she has "no hope," inside she has a nengkan as powerful as her mothers, which makes her wish her marriage would last, just as her mother wishes Bing would still be alive. Overall, each mother in The Joy Luck Club went through something emotionally exhausting and saddening in her life. The mothers use their experiences to try to direct the course of their daughters' lives, to make them simpler and more carefree. Initially, however, the daughters only see that their mothers want to make decisions for them, not to help them. Ultimately, the daughters realize their mothers' intentions, but not all accept them.
Before the mother says, “… the slut you are so bent on becoming” (Kincaid 92) each time, she states a certain way the daughter should behave. From this we can see that the mother believes that women can only be seen two ways: of respect or of promiscuity. Due to this belief, it can be concluded that the mother will say and do anything to her daughter to shape her into a respectable member in their society and creating her into the stereotypical woman. Kincaid faced this exact situation in her childhood when her mother tried to domesticate her, when she did not seek to be a social norm. Kincaid was disapproved of by her family when she became a writer, much like the daughter in Girl would be.
Pearl and Winnie prove that the mother daughter relationship is essential for a girl to become a woman. The lack of such a relationship is severely detrimental to a girl growing up. Jiang We... ... middle of paper ... ...gic comedy with a happy ending. The novel is a love story but not with a male and female but with a mother and her daughter. Work Cited Chapman, Jeff and John D. Jorgenson, eds.
Despite the constant protests of her daughter, Suyuan forces her to practice t... ... middle of paper ... ...lub, Tan forces us as readers to take a step back from our own lives so that we might realize all the good intentions of our own mother's actions. Perhaps we can understand the reasoning behind our mother's advice and the impact that it has had in our lives. Works Consulted: Foster, M. Marie Booth. "Voice, Mind, Self: Mother-Daughter Relationships in Amy Tan's The Joy Luck Club and The Kitchen God's Wife." Women of Color: Mother Daughter Relationships in 20th Century Literature.
This past comes back to Jing-Mei when her mother dies and Jing-Mei begins to understand how hard it is to let go of the people you love, which makes her become more open, understanding and mature. She lost a mother she got to share her life with, but like her half sisters, they didn't understand their mother until she was gone to share the experience of being reunited. In a sense, her spirit was there to capture their happiness of finally meeting one another. Although Waverly Jong is perceived in being an intelligent, ambitious, proud, and arrogant, she is constantly struggling with everything that happens in her life. Her unwillingness to adapt to change becomes a major conflict.
The turning point in the mother/daughter relationship came at the end of the story, when Mother realized all of the horrible things her daughter was doing; not even necessarily doing intentionally. She thought that perhaps her daughter would change her un-appreciativeness, and respect her pride for her way of life and her valued items around her, but she had to decide between one daughter and the other. The one who would display the quilts and household items as pieces to be viewed and admired as a way of the old life, or to the other daughter who would use them in the way they were meant to be used.
(Yamamoto 390) Although she realizes this could be the end of her world, as she knows it she listens as a way to support her mother. The mothers motive for sharing with her daughter in this way can only be gleaned from Cheung's description of life for these female immigrants. By significantly placing the conversations at... ... middle of paper ... ...ealizes the absurdity of asking her young teen daughter to agree to "never marry" (Yamamoto 391), or possibly the absurdity of realizing who was responding, she responds by saying to herself, "you fool"(Yamamoto 391) The regret the mother expresses is a result of her recognizing the mistake she made in revealing herself in this way, or possibly her awareness of how young this confidant is and how just as with the haiku, Rosie does not understand all the complications life has to offer and has little comprehension of the world in which her mother exists. Bibliography: Horth, Martha. http://web.reed.edu/academic/english/courses/English560/Yamamoto.html, (6 Apr 2001).
(pg. 291). Lindo is hurt because her daughter Waverly, is talking to her like she is a child. Waverly does not do this on purpose, she just has a hard time understanding her mother and her background, like the other daughters in the book. "Living with their traditional culture in American society, Chinese-American women suffer the prob... ... middle of paper ... ...ying to save their daughters from the cultural barriers, and identity crisis’ that they had to face.
Mother as Villain and Victim in Joy Luck Club In The Joy Luck Club, Amy Tan focuses on several mother-daughter relationships. One of the relationships explored is that between an immigrant Chinese mother and her American born daughter Jing-mei. The mother expects Jing-mei to be a prodigy child - while pursuing this dream she unintentionally creates a serious conflict between her and her daughter. To fulfill her unrealistic expectations, the mother pushes Jing-mei to be the best in anything and everything. At first, the reader may perceive the mother as the villain in the story; however, the mother just wants her daughter to have the life that she never had.