The Love Relations: The Journey of Love
Where does love lead? The answer is it leads nowhere. Love is not in the destination for the destination can only lead to two things death or the love between two people dispersing leading to a break up. The undeniable truth that love is in the journey of a relationship between two people. This is why I believe the movie (500) Days of Summer (A non-chronically order romance film) is clear illustration of love and its journey. The reason is that the movie duly notes that it is NOT a love story, but a story about love, more or less telling us the love affair is not going to endure. (500) Days of Summer is the perfect movie to show and explain the journey of love.
A quick summary of our main characters outlook on love and relationships. Tom is a hopeless romantic who does not believe he can be happy until he finds the one dream girl he is meant to be with and the two fall in love due to the large amount of romantic entertainment (movies, music videos, etc.) he grew up watching as a teen. Summer, on the other hand, does not believe in love or getting entangled in feelings and relationships due to the fact that her parents are divorced. Also, you can come to the conclusion that she is a New Woman based off of her ability to succeed in the work place and support herself. Here we have two completely opposite people, or do we?
Tom first lays eyes on summer at his job as a greeting card writer. Tom’s boss introduces her as his new assistant/secretary. Tom is immediately taken by Summer’s beauty. At first he plays things cool, as we blokes normally do, until that person gives us a reason to be anxious to get to know him or her more. For Tom, this was when he found out he and Summer had a mutual lo...
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... Summer then lays heavy hitting words on Tom saying, “I just knew what I never knew when I was with you; that I was in love and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.” She then gets up and leaves. As she’s leaving, Tom tells her he is happy that she is happy. But makes a clear point not to congratulate her on her marriage. Tom realizes that she has secured the main chance and it was not him.
Although, Tom’s relationship with Summer did not last, it was a meaningful experience for the both of them; Summer learns that she can believe in a thing called love and Tom learns that it is okay for a relationship not to last. Most importantly he now understands that breakups are just as much a part of a relationship as getting together. A good thing I always tell myself is if it was meant to be it would be; with that you can learn to look up rather than behind you.
Tom is a young farm boy that went to town to find a person to take back to his parents. Whilst Tom is in the Chinese restaurant he meets a man and can not help but feel attracted to him. Tom expresses this when he says:
A couple days later, Nick and Tom are going to New York City when Tom decides to stop in an ashen, industrial dumping ground town in order to pick up his lover, Myrtle. Although her husband, George Wilson, greets the two men, he remains oblivious to the fact that his wife is involved in an affair. Nick, Tom, and Myrtle then continue on to New York City and hold a gaudy party at a small apartment Tom keeps in the city to carry on his relationship with Myrtle. The party promptly comes to an end when Myrtle begins taunting Tom about Daisy and he ends the argument by breaking her nose.
Summer shows us that she is kind in a very thoughtful way. One way she showed kindness was not telling anyone that she was Teddy’s boyfriend. When most girls have a boyfriend. The blab all about to everyone. But if Summer were to tell everyone, Teddy and Summer would be all over the news, and Teddy did not want that. So, Summer did not blab. This was really hard for her because Teddy state's, “Most people don’t know Summer was my girlfriend. Even our closest friends,” This tells us that she could not tell anybody that she was dating
Later approaching the tragedy of of the book, Tom displays another act of sub-human behavior, nonchalantly brushing off his affairs, “And what’s more I love Daisy too. Once in a while I go off on a spree and make a fool of myself, but I always come back, and in my heart I love her all the time.”(201). Tom in a sense...
how Tom was doing and the rest of the family. After that, the story ends
After a more detailed examination of the stories, however, it becomes evident that each individual is striving to find love. Though love is a universal goal, each person's criteria for a meaningful, fulfilling and loving relationship varies. This is clearly demonstrated by the different situations in which the characters find themselves. The conventional, stereotypical, and almost cliché demonstration of love can be seen in stories A & D, where the characters simply "fall in love and get married".
Karen Horney “Distrust between sexes” proceeds go into the different aspects of Love and Relationships. In this book Horney gives examples on how women deal with emotions which transitions from childhood to adult life. The fundamentals of documentation are displayed in unavoidable ways in most occurrences people run into. People are blind to the fact that love in relationships can be destroyed by overt or covert? In some cases lack of sympathy is then blamed, when relationships don’t work out between two individuals. Some couples fall into social, economic defaults which impacts the relationships. These are issues people never stop to think about, all they want to do is shift the blame to one another in a relationship. Self-preservation is a basic instinct for everyone and is present at birth. This can enhance the natural fear of losing ourselves in a relationship (Horney 1930). In Horney discussions I found that a person only feels despair because of the deep emotions of abundant from “Love” during childhood. That can develop more mixed emotions that turn into mistrust, which causes delusions that tell them they are not getting love from their partner (Horney 1930). With these types of feelings mistrust sips into relationships, starting from a child carries over into adult life. Reasons are when a child comes into the world learns everything it needs to know from its parent. If the child’s emotional needs are not taken care of when the family increases, the child will feel a need to compete for affection from the parents, which could turn into a painful situation. With this being said the child grows into an adult with suppressed aggression. If he/she has not learned how to deal with...
Throughout the novel, one of Tom 's biggest careless acts was when he cheated on Daisy. Tom is a cocky, confident man shown many times throughout the novel like when Nick arrived at his house and "Tom Buchanan in riding clothes was standing with his legs apart on the front porch" (Fitzgerald 6). His stance showed his arrogance, and how highly he thought of himself because of his wealth. Tom was a man who often acted without thinking things through, like having an affair with Myrtle. Despite both Tom and Myrtle being married, they both had affairs. Tom doesn 't hide his affair from Nick and introduces him to his mistress Myrtle at Wilson 's garage. Tom doesn 't seem to care if anyone finds out because he feels as though nothing would change due to his wealth. While at Myrtle 's husbands garage, Tom tells Myrtle to meet him at the train station. They end up going to their apartment in New York City that they keep for their affair. While at the Morningside Height 's apartment Myrtle starts to talk about Tom 's wife Daisy, ""Daisy! Daisy! Daisy!" shouted Mrs. Wilson. "I 'll say it whenever I want to! Daisy! Dai-"" (Fitzgerald 37). Tom didn 't like Myrtle overstepping her boundaries and to show
The third and final reason Tom is unhappy and wants to leave, is due to his dreams being put on hold to support his family. Tom envisions a life of adventure, something of which he feels his life is meaningless without. After his father leaves, though not his obligation, Tom takes over the role as the man of the house. Tom feels that he is now responsible for taking care of his mother and sister. Even though Amanda and Laura need him, Tom decides anyway to leave them in search of his own adventures. Tom does not necessarily want to be unlike his father, he thinks of his wanting leave as a gene of sorts, a destiny, something he is supposed to do. When Tom’s coworker, Jim, is invited to dinner, Tom even confides in Jim that Tom is “like my [his] father” and that he is “the
Through the communication that occurred within the relationship of Tom and Summer, it is apparent that misinterpretations of nonverbal communication and the styles of managing conflict ultimately led them to their relationship’s demise.
Tom is a character many people in this generation can relate to. Although the play was written many years ago Tom is just like any other millennial from this day and age. He basically hates his job because it’s not fun. He can’t cope with the fact that he has to pick up all the slack his father left behind. He even seems to think that running away will fix everything. All of these things are very common in society today.
As punishment for skipping school to go swimming, Aunt Polly assigns Tom the chore of whitewashing the fence surrounding the house. In a brilliant scheme, Tom is able to con the neighborhood boys into completing the chore for him, managing to convince them of the joys of whitewashing. At school, Tom is equally as flamboyant, and attracts attention by chasing other boys, yelling, and running around. With his usual antics, Tom attempts to catch the eye of one girl in particular: Becky Thatcher, the Judge's daughter. When he first sees her, Tom immediately falls in love with Becky. After winning her over, Tom suggests that they "get engaged." But when Tom accidentally blurts that he has been engaged before to Amy Lawrence, he ruins his relationship with Becky and becomes heartbroken.
“Relationships are what make up our world today, they shape the ways we see things and the way that we do things, relationships affect how we see the world today”. I believe supporting what your partner does, having a great sum of trust and showing your affections towards your partner is what will make a healthy relationship great.
Some people believe that there is no such thing as “true love” they believe that love is nothing but an illusion designed by social expectations. These people believe that love ultimately turns into pain and despair. This idea in some ways is true. Love is not eternal it will come to an end one way or another, but the aspect that separates true love from illusion, is the way love ends. “True Love” is much too powerful to be destroyed by Human imperfection; it may only be destroyed by a force equal to the power of love. Diotima believed that “Love is wanting to posses the good forever” In other words love is the desire to be immortal and the only way that we are able to obtain immortality is through reproduction, and since the act of reproduction is a form of sexual love, then sexual love is in fact a vital part of “True love”. Sexual love is not eternal. This lust for pleasure will soon fade, but the part of love that is immortal, is a plutonic love. You can relate this theory to the birth of love that Diotima talks about. She says that love was born by a mortal mother and immortal father. The mother represents the sexual love, the lust for pleasure. The father represents the plutonic love that is immortal. Plutonic love is defined as a true friendship, the purest of all relationships. A true plutonic love will never die; it transcends time, space, and even death.
Analyzing the movie helps to look at love in a broader window. Humans normally will assume that they are “the only ones” to experience love, and see love threw their own glasses. But one can see that love has no limits, shape, or form, and every human being can experience it in some level.