From infancy to old age, the expectations and perceptions of human’s experiences undergo a constant metamorphosis. One significant life event is the decision to marry. The question then arises; does a person’s age impact their view of married life? In order to investigate this idea, it would be useful to interview people of varying ages for comparison. Recent interviews with a 21-year college student woman contemplating marriage and a retired married woman facing 40 anniversary revealed that while both couples share a desire for companionship with their spouse, their opinions of a successful marriage greatly differ. The young woman views married life as an idealized relationship without concrete perception of married life whereas the older woman is more practical in her perception of what contributed to a …show more content…
First, whereas the older woman recognizes the benefits of marriage more concretely than the young woman does. When they were asked about positive and negative effects on their life, young woman was thinking about it vaguely answering while she would spend rest of her life with somebody she love, she would have to live with somebody else like roommate. So, as a negative effect, she might have to adjust her things that he doesn’t like and have to learn to compromise with her partner. On the other hand, the older woman definitely perceived what factor s of marriage has positive effects on her life. She said marriage has helped her life development because she had to work in a marriage with disagreements sometimes. To be close to her husband, she went through her feelings and his feelings, which made her be better person to understand another person and made an adaptation. Moreover, through marriage, she came to have a partner to share and family to do, experience and support together. Indeed, the older woman has more concrete positive perception about marriage since she experienced the marriage life
Marriage was once for the sole purpose of procreation and financially intensives. Living up to the roles that society had placed on married couples, more so women, is no longer the goal in marriage. Being emotional satisfied, having a fulfilled sex life and earning money is more important in marriage (Cherlin, 2013). Couples no longer feel the obligation to put the needs of their partner in front of their own needs. In the 1960’s and later it was the woman’s job to ensure that the house was clean, the children were bathed and dinner was prepared before the husband came home work. However, once more and more women began to enter the workplace and gain more independence, a desire for self-development and shared roles in the household lead way the individualistic marriage that is present in today’s society (Cherlin,
Is marriage really important? There is a lot of controversy over marriage and whether it is eminent. Some people believe it is and some people believe it is not. These opposing opinions cause this controversy. “On Not Saying ‘I do’” by Dorian Solot explains that marriage is not needed to sustain a relationship or a necessity to keep it healthy and happy. Solot believes that when a couple gets married things change. In “For Better, For Worse”, Stephanie Coontz expresses that marriage is not what is traditional in society because it has changed and is no longer considered as a dictator for people’s lives. The differences between these two essays are the author’s writing style and ideas.
People have different motives to why they get married. And those reasons can range from anything like family backgrounds, money or gender bargains within relationships. Also depending on social class and economics can have an effect on marriages and relationships. “We use the idea of class most critically to describe who is likely to marry whom, who is willing to live with whom, and how prospective parents view the appropriate family structures for raising children” (82) By that being said Carbone and Cahn explains how society can change who people date and how they live. Another example of Carbone and Cahn idea of marriage is expressed by this statement, “Instead, shifts in the economy change the way men and women match up, and over time, they alter young people’s expectations about each other and about their prospects in newly reconstituted marriage markets” (80). Meaning young people over time lose the true meaning of marriage and how they even
This reflection paper is based on the life history interview conducted on me and a 78-year-old woman who is soon going to celebrate her 79th birthday on Sep 21st. I would call her with a fictitious name “Smita” in the entire paper to maintain and protect her privacy. The interview was about our life. It was divided into six major life categories: childhood, adulthood, identity, the present, aging, and life lessons. Having an opportunity to interview a 78-year-old woman and writing this reflective paper about the life history and experiences had made me realize that I have a lot to learn about the stages of human life. Every individual lives are different and it varies tremendously. As an interviewee my goal was to collect the details of life, different stories, and experiences that makes our life unique from the rest of the people.
explaining to his father all the qualities Nene had, but Okeke didn’t want to hear it.
When Love Story first appeared, our society was still extremely absorbed in a marriage culture that encouraged and supported getting and staying married. But inside a few years, the women's movement, the pill, the sexual revolution, and various economic shifts had permanently transformed that marriage-centric society. Marriage is not an endangered species, but it is surrounded by enormous difficulties that were not readily apparent 35 or 40 years ago. Divorce is a very serious presence — over 50 percent of our marriages end in di...
Marriage and family life has been changing over the past few decades. Not only has the idea of family and marriage changed, but the way marriage and family are perceived has changed. With the transition from modern times to postmodern times, the typical life has developed in to more of an isolated society, than ever before. The concept of unity and close ties has become almost nonexistent, with the development and progression of technology. Communication has become less personal and less intimate, eliminating the idea of creativity. With the elimination of creativity, because of the development of less personal communication, the chances of meeting someone has become less personal and mo...
Marriage is termed as a legitimate commitment or social establishment which unites two people mutually as husband and wife. The agreement ascertains privileges and responsibilities amid spouses, spouses and children and spouses and in-laws. Marriage is deemed to be a momentous union in every society. It is significant in terms of providing security, emotional support and fulfilling economic, social, cultural and physical needs. These needs are the natural cravings of young adults that drive them towards matrimony. It is a foundation that is based on personal responsibilities which form the backbone of civilizations.
The debate on whether to get married or stay single has been raging for a long while, with both sides of the coin having their own pros and cons regarding the matter. Many proponents of either marriage or single life have strong individual convictions, and it is difficult to reach a definitive objective conclusion. Is the married individual happier than his/her single counterpart, or is getting married just a comfort seeking ritual that people believe they have to fulfill at some point in their lives? It is necessary to dissect this issue in the light of four factors: health and other medical factors, the economic and finance front, mental and emotional wellbeing and lastly, the social factor.
Marriage is one of the oldest cultural institutions in the world. Its status has changed drastically over the years, and in the last few decades alone has gone from being a social expectation to simply an option for most people. In the 1920s, marriage was generally considered an expectation for all young women, lest they dry up like cacti before they bore children. Today, marriage is generally recognized as a commitment that may satisfy some, though many choose to forgo the process. The differences between the cultural perception of marriage in the “Roaring Twenties” compared to today have manifested themselves in many different ways.
Marriage has gone through many changes throughout its history. It's earliest forms date back to the story of creation. It has developed a great deal since then. It is a simple fact that men and women can not survive without each other. Marriage is part of the created natural order, we were meant to be together.
The sudden socioeconomic transformation of the last century has substantially affected the tradition of marriage in modern society. Therefore, several alternatives to marriage have become available and grown to be more popular than marriage for today’s couples due to its suitability to current conditions. Some of these alternative statuses to marriage are cohabitation, divorce, or simply continuing to be single and this claim is supported through the findings of a recent study. The percentage of adults who are married has notably decreased from 1960 to 2008 by twenty percent (Pew Research Center). These statistics will not improve any time soon as “the average age at which men and women first marry is now the highest ever recorded” (Pew Research Center). These statistics may seem that society has lost a valuable part of life and the significance of two partners becoming one. However, from another perspective, it is a positive change in society where one or both partners do not lose their individuality and are equal, and are more accepting of other relationship choices.
The lives led by people as individuals are vastly different from the lives they lead after marriage.
Getting married is the most important event in our life. From time to time, they always say, “Single life is a sweet dream and marriage is an alarm clock.” This proverb could make young people afraid when deciding whether or not they marry. However, there are differences that indicate pros and cons of both single life and married life. In general, single life can bring us freedom to experience life all by ourselves; at the same time, it also brings loneliness and detachment. In contrast, married life can fulfill us with love, care, and a sense of belonging; however, it also requires us a great deal of shared responsibilities. Understanding the differences between single life and married life especially on finance, emotion, and responsibility
Overall the answer to the question “why is marriage in later life so much more different than marriage in earlier years?” is answered by the fact that as we age not only our bodies are changing, our values are changing, our options are changing, our outlooks on life and the way we deal with conflict are changing and our senses are changing. Elderly people experience things in extremely different ways than adolescence or middle aged people experience them. Who someone is when they marry at 24 is completely different than who they are when they remarry at 62 and cannot and should not be viewed to adhere to the same set of standards