A Complicated Kindness Essay

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Khaled Hosseini’s The Kite Runner provides incredibly valuable insight into the intertwining concepts of identity and personal happiness, as does A Complicated Kindness by Miriam Toews. Undeniably, a healthy cognisance of personal identity is crucial to mental tranquility and happiness. Insecurity, for example is unilaterally viewed as an unsettling character flaw precisely because of the inherent implication of untrue personal identity. Accurately understanding one’s true personal identity is the backbone of happiness, as seen in The Kite Runner and A Complicated Kindness. Furthermore, it can be said that personal flaws, strengths and collectivist mentalities surrounding both Amir and Nomi’s characters ultimately contribute to their respective happiness or lack thereof, at the end of both stories. Firstly, understanding personal …show more content…

In the Kite Runner, Amir immerses himself in stories of the Shahnameh, poetry, and writing. Although he is initially insecure about his skills as an author, he grows to accept and cherish his strengths. When he accepts his strength as an eloquent writer he “feel[s] like a man who discovers buried treasure in his own backyard” (Hosseini p. 26). He even uses this important aspect of his personal identity as a bonding point with his wife, Soraya. By esteeming himself using his strengths, Amir is able to fulfil both ordinary aspects and extraordinary aspects of life like having a family life and fighting the leader of the taliban, respectively. In A Complicated Kindness, Nomi has difficulties identifying her strengths due to her distorted self-perception. She wonders if she even has any strength at all: “I wasn’t pretty enough to be the complex, silent girl and yet I never knew what to say” (Toews p.151). Moreover, Nomi is deeply unhappy as a result of untrue self esteem and even ascribes minor, unimportant flaws to herself to mask any real

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