The Key To A Successful Marriage
Marriage, Oh wow. They say a marriage is a blessing as well as having a child. It is definitely a milestone in life that comes with a lot of ups and downs. For me, I have been married to my husband a little over a year and we have been together a little over five years. Trust me when I say the road has not been easy but it is definitely worth the struggle and the hassle. I believe the keys to a successful marriage are love, trust, honestly and most important God.
Love is a successful key to marriage because if you don’t love a person how can you spend a lifetime with them. What is love? Love is a force of nature. However much we may want to, we can not command, demand, or take away love, any more than we can command the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go according to our whims. We may have some limited ability to change the weather, but we do so at the risk of upsetting an ecological balance we don 't fully understand. You have to have Love in order to even begin a marriage. Love cares what becomes of you because love knows that we are all interconnected. Love is inherently compassionate and empathic. Love knows that the "other" is also oneself. This is the true nature of love and love itself can not be manipulated or restrained. Love honors the sovereignty of each soul. Love is its own law. What is not love? Love is not what the movies and hit songs tell us it is. Love doesn’t hurt. If it hurts it’s something else. Fear. Attachment. Idolatry. Addiction. Possessiveness. Nobody’s heart aches out of love. In pop culture, love gets conflated with desire all the time. From childhood we learn you can like something, or you can love it, as if it’s only different degrees of the ...
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4. Protection. The husband protects the wife by laying down his life for her (Ephesians 5:25). The wife is to protect the home (Titus 2:4-5) and the parents together protect their children to raise up a godly seed (Malachi 2:15; Psalm 112:1-2).
See, I don’t believe in divorces so I do all I can to make things work. When people come at me and tell me things that I know is not true, I think of them as sandpaper they migh scratch and rub me the wrong way, but eventually I am going to end up smooth and polished and the sandpaper worn out and ugly. My best advice to a healthy marriage is to keep people out your business and keep God first. I hope that I have been a help in someone’s marriage and if you are not married I hope that this essay helps when you eventually get married. If you can keep these things in mind, nothing can stop you from being happy.
Marriage is something most people do but few do it well. If a couple is not looking at divorce papers that are probably seeking marriage counseling. If they are not screaming to the top of their lungs at each other they are probably sneaking out to lie in someone else’s arms. If they are not physically abusing one or the other they are probably being mentally abusive. If a couple is not saying hurtful things to each other they are probably not saying anything at all because why would they when the other is not going to listen anyways. We have all been in or seen relationships struggle with these kinds of things. This big question is where did they go wrong? I think the answer to that question lies in Matt Chandler’s book The Mingling of Souls. Chandler’s answer to the question above is that if a couple wants to have a truly successful marriage they must follow God’s design for marriage. Now Chandler is in no way implying that a couple will not struggle if they do it God’s way but they will be able to get through those struggles together. This review is not a summary of the book but it will discuss the strength and weaknesses of
Ephesians 5:21-33 addresses the roles of the husband and the wife in light of the position each holds as a result of being in Christ. The passage is located in the latter half of the book of Ephesians, which is developed primarily around the “walk” passages. Chapter 4-6 are the direct application of chapters 1-3. The commands to husbands and wives are found in the last exhortation to walk carefully. The focus of the exhortation to “walk carefully” is a variety of relationships: husband/wife, children/parents, with a focus on fathers, and slaves/masters. This passage teaches how redemption and the sanctification process is to affect these relationships, including the marriage relationship between a man a woman. In other words, as the transforming process of sanctification “pushes back” the effects of the fall in the life of a man or a woman in the context of marriage, it will look different for each gender because the effects of the fall have been distinct for each gender. There is a clear distinction in the commands given to the man and the woman concerning the transformed life in the context of marriage because of these distinctions in gender. In examining Ephesians 5:20-33, this paper seeks to present how the complementarian side of the gender debate provides the best interpretation for gender roles.
In the book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (1999) John M. Gottman provides insight on the seven fundamental tools to construct positive relationships. Through long years of research, Gottman studied married couples and noted degenerative behaviors that hindered the formation and attainment of a long and healthy marriage. Gottman research focused on several key behavioral predictors of divorce, which he calls the “The Four Horsemen”; Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.
While society has heavily embedded the idea of love into marriage, the actual applications of marriage does not incorporate love into it. Love and marriage are a thing that has been disconnected for a long time, yet the restrictions that have plagued marriage are the same restrictions that affect love due to the heavy mental connection that culture created with marriage. Abuse of the systems that marriage creates is a main reason for the failure of love. When someone can use marriage to gain something material, people will not marry who they love and ruin the concept of marriage. This is due to the heavily embedded bureaucracy that has found itself weaved into something that should merely be a sign of commitment and love towards another person.
In Jill McCorkle's short story “Snakes”, it is said that “a marriage that never takes a dive is like skimming the surface of life … sooner or later you have to suit up and dive to the bottom” (McCorkle 167). The meaning being that no marriage is going to travel the high road the entire time, and if one is, it won't have much depth. The statement made in “Snakes” is very true. A marriage needs to have its ups and downs to be balanced. There are many themes explored in the stories of Jill McCorkle's Creatures of Habit: Stories. The theme of marriage is addressed in both “Snakes” and “Chickens”, and it is enhanced by symbolism.
Marriage is the beginning of family life, culmination of a period of seeking a mate, and realization of a major goal.
Marriage is a commitment that seems to be getting harder to keep. The social standards placed on an individual by society and influenced by the media inevitably lead some to consider divorce as a “quick-fix” option. “Have it your way” has become a motto in the United States. It has become a country without any consideration of the psychological effects of marriage and divorce. The overwhelmingly high divorce rate is caused by a lack of moral beliefs and marital expectations.
We’ve looked at the different challenges associated with marriage, how to handle finances, and the pros and cons of marriage counseling. Altogether, what you have read in this e-book should help to guide you down the right path of blissful matrimony.
Before I finish, I would like to offer my own advice for a happy and successful marriage, now just because I’m not married or never have been it doesn’t mean to say I am now not an expert on it.
Love is commitment. To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Commitment can be called the backbone or building block of love. In other words, commitment is needed in order to build a stable and trusting relationship. Without commitment, love would not be able to grow and flourish. It can be extremely demanding on someone who isn't ready or sure that they want to commit to another person.
To better understand the concept of "love", lets define the value of love. Love is the most valuable commodity in the world. We all need love just like a fish needs water. Without love, life would not be worth living. With love in our lives, we are empowered beyond belief.
Romantic love is a poor basis for marriage because love is simply a result of a stimulated limbic system, a stable relationship cannot rely solely upon affection, financial stability is more important than an emotion that can fade, a couple must have similar goals in life, and finally because a couple must share similar cultural and moral backgrounds.
When we think of marriage, the first thing that comes to mind is having a lasting relationship. Marriage is a commitment of two people to one another and to each other?s family, bonded by holy matrimony. When a couple plans to marry, they think of raising a family together, dedicating their life to each other. That?s the circle of life--our natural instinct to live and produce children and have those children demonstrate your own good morals. I have never been married; but I don?t understand why when two people get married and vow to be together for richer and poorer, better or worse, decide to just forget about that commitment. A marriage should be the most important decision a person makes in his or her life.
Although I was twenty-six years old at the time I got married, I did not have a firm grasp on what it took to build a successful marriage. I was the seventh of eight children born in my family; unfortunately, I did not get any counseling or advice from my father or mother about marriage about some things I would experience and what it will take to build a successful marriage and family. I was raised in a two parent home; I learned a good work ethic from my father as the head of the household. My mother was the person who took care of the home and worked outside the home. So I took from my own expe...
communicate with your spouse about certain issues you feel you have then you will get