Whether it is in Turkey or America we each have our own beliefs and customs on pregnancy, childbirth, and newborn care. My Beliefs on Pregnancy, Childbirth, and New Born Care Childbirth was one of my greatest accomplishments yet. I believe that every woman should be able to enjoy her special day however she wishes to do. However, For my personal
PART I: This section of the book discussed neo-traditionalist divisions of labor and sharing solutions including ways in which different families are arranged. One family arrangement is the supermom and the neo-traditional dad. In this couple, the mother works full-time while taking on the second shift at home. Thus, these women struggle to manage their jobs and housework, spend more time multi-tasking with less leisure time, and often feel like they’re falling short in certain areas of life (as a mother, spouse, or employee). On the other hand, in this same arrangement the husbands are usually happy to help with the children and housework; however, they typically only help if they’re asked to do so, which may result in resentment from both
But, there was always something nagging at the back of her mind, weighing her heart down. Despite all the carefree, happiness she felt living with my grandparents, there was one thing that tore at her heart; her son, KuKhong [Hokkien for great-uncle]. He constantly threw the mistake of trusting her younger sister in her face, rubbing salt into open wounds, refusing to let her forget. He relentlessly complained about their fall from riches even though he was making a decent living as an accountant. He took no responsibility in looking after Jhor Jhor, even before he married and moved out.
But the fact is, that more and more women prefer to be workers rather than homemakers for different reasons: from gaining financial independence and self-esteem by means of the career development to necessity to work due to the money shortage. The first reason, why women choose to be workers, is that work gives them a chance to gain financial independence. It is fabulous when a family is financially supported by a husband and a female does not concern about going to work and spending all the day glued to the office table. Instead, she can take care of the atmosphere at home and bring up children. In this case, dinner is always be ready, children are always neat and a husband comes home and can indulge himself diving into the homelike atmosphere.
Despite the changing role of women in a patriarchal society like Nepal, we have been passively trained to take care of our spouses, and feel uncomfortable when we see our male counterpart doing the household chores. The guilt of being less involved as a homemaker and more a career oriented women seems sinister to my culture. In this essay, I intend to analyze the division of labor based on the silent indoctrinated gender roles at home. After a careful and continuous observance for more than a decade, I have realized that my parents share a traditional relationship that is highly in favor of my father, my mother is the traditional home maker while my father is the sole bread winner for the family. With the cultural factors at play, I intend to discuss the gender ideologies that have been passed down from generations in my family.
This has only just (in a historical time scale) begun to change, with the woman taking on an essential role in the world of business and work. Now it is sometimes the woman who is the breadwinner and men have to adapt to having major challengers in almost all that they do. Most areas of life have changed to allow women equal rights in life, but despite all this there seems to be no loss of responsibility for the role all women are expected to play as the mother of our children. Many women would argue that the right of total motherhood and custody of their children should automatically fall on the biological mother, as it is they who have been through the arduous tasks of pregnancy and childbirth. Men arguing for the right to be ‘mothers’ would retort saying that having been through all that, surely the woman could do with some rest and peace of mind.
To me familial history is the most important type of history. This is because my family taught me what I know now and I use many examples from my familial history to base my decisions. Throughout Alice Walker’s essay, “Every Use,” there are not only several examples of familial history but there are also several examples of cultural and personal history. However, familial history is the most prominent. Through Walker’s revelation of the familial history of the Walkers, she includes example of familial histories that are similar to my own.
Emily did not have the confidence, or maybe self-esteem and self-worth, to believe that she could stand alone and succeed at life especially in the face of changing times. She had always been ruled by, and depended on her father, Tobe and Homer Barron to protect, defend and act for herself. Life can be sad or it can be very tragic, some of it we make ourselves and some of it is being done to us. Emily had a hard life because everything that she loved have had left her. After her father?s death she could select men of her choice and liking, he couldn?t chase them off any more, but she did not know how to date, how to show gentle and womanly expressions after all those years of her father?s actions.
For, past culture always held reliance on the docile role of women to sit and wait for their husbands to come home to them and assist them. In which, this new adoption of change in culture is still controversial for men around the world. Which also plays into how much education a woman is allowed to receive. Wolfe states that “In places where femininity is coterminous with domesticity and deference to male authority, schooling for girls alone is unlikely to alter a women’s status”(279).Wolfe is explaining that in places where education is offered for women, no respect is offered. For, the culture is ruled by ample amount of men who feel the need for sp much authority that they would never allow for women to even come close to having any kind of
They marry and have two children with a “house full of love.” Will does become a member of Parliament, but he never makes a fortune. Dorthea lives a happy life because she followed her independence. She made choices she regretted, but overcame them with her strong personality. She never accomplished all the goals she had set out to, but she did find love with Will. The money she gave up could have helped her establish the knowledge and training she wanted to achieve, but her love of Will was more important to her than her academic endeavors.