I had never been so upset in my life. I had been lied to and became tremendously confused. I only wanted a person I could trust. Trusting was easy; Innocent world, innocent me. Now, as I have been lied to, I realize that it is only the beginning.
As a child, my parents did not trust each other. They completely clashed. “Why didn’t you come home last night?”, as my Mom would say. Where was my father? I was curious but never knew. The answer to this question was an everlasting mystery for me. I trusted my parents. The older I became, the more I understood what was going on in their lives. Dad cheated, drank, and drove race cars; while Mom worked to support my Sister and I, took care of us, and tried her best to give us a normal life. Eventually,
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We shared a similar past and felt that we could get through anything together. In Kindergarten, she was my first valuable friend. Also, she was the first one in my life that did not hurt me in any way. I could trust her. She grew up with depression, and attempted suicide several times; every known time, me being the one to save her. She could trust me. She helped me cope with my past, as I did for her, and will continue to do. Through the years, she has experienced my very twisted life and understands why it was hard for me to trust her. We have always experienced what not to do as parents, and have dreamt about raising our children right since the beginning. Sometimes we are not always granted a perfect life, but should continue to be optimistic. I tried my absolute best to stay strong and think about the great future I would make for myself. Today, my mom is happy, and because she is finally happy, so am I. My dad is still slightly the same, but has changed due to the karma that came back to him. Four years ago, him and his third, Brazilian, bloodsucking wife had a baby boy. My brother is a blessing but will unfortunately grow up almost the same way as I did. My Dad has taught me how to be a self-reliant, untrusting
As a maturing adult I now realize the importance of having a strong parental foundation. Throughout my life there have been moments where both parents demonstrated the characteristics of all four basic parenting styles. However, as I aged it became apparent that my parents had successfully found their niche in a parenting style that was analogous with their personality and beliefs. In my father's case it was the authoritative parenting style. With this style he captured my trust and respect; never letting me down. Furthermore, it was my mother's permissive parenting that undeniably contributed towards my love and gratitude for her. There were also instances where my parents influenced my life both positively and negatively. Nevertheless, I am forever grateful for having my parents in my life, for they contributed (and continue to contribute) towards my success as a growing adult.
Deep down inside, I have always known my parents are loving parents that will do anything they can to support me to prosper and succeed in life. The only problem is that my parents came from very traditional household that used the authoritarian parenting style, so that is the style they used on me. While growing up with parents using the authoritarian parenting style, I was not exposed to their warmth or nurturing side. Instead, I was taught to respect authority and traditional structure in a demanding, controlling and punitive way. This affected me in a negative way as I was expected to follow strict rules unconditionally with absolute obedience, and my parents rarely gave me choices or options as they had very high expectations of what I should be doing. For example, when I was in junior high, my parents selected all of my courses and I had no control over my school schedule. They told me that they were doing this because they knew what was good for me and what career path I should be going into in the future. However, what they did not understand at that time is that their actions lowered my self-esteem and prevented me to act independently; as a result, I never really learned how to set my own limits and personal standards until I entered my sophomore year in high school.
During my life, my sense of trust was tainted with the fact that my father traveled around the world for large periods of time when I was a child. Because of this, I only received half of the reliable
To start my answer related to trust, I would like to start with few quotes that shows the power of trust like, “without trust we don’t truly collaborate, we merely coordinate or at bets cooperate. It is trust that transforms a group of people into a team “- Stephen M.R Covey
As opposed to cognition-based trust, affect-based trust relies heavily upon emotional feelings towards another person instead of logical reasons for trust, such as characteristics or personality traits that an individual may possess. This can sometimes be irrational and lead to undesirable outcomes or decision due to trusting the wrong person for the wrong reasons. In Suits, Harvey gives Mike the breakthrough opportunity he has been looking for when he offers him a position at a top law firm that only hires Harvard graduates. Mike never attended Harvard, and therefore owes everything he has to Harvey. Their relationship starts out fairly one sided, with Harvey calling the shots and making Mike work extremely long hours and complete tough tasks and cases to prove that he is worth of working under Harvey. This initially strains their relationship in the workplace and causes some conflict, and on more than one occasion Mike comes close to quitting and doesn’t show up for work. This is also a great example of an authoritative leadership style and a high power distance...
Ziad K. Abdelnour, the CEO of a private investment firm, states that, “Trust is earned, respect is given, and loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any one of those is to lose all three.” This quote in two sentences speaks volume to the reader. Trust is an important and key component to any relationship. Whether you are married, have a mutual relationship, a friendship, or just a family member; trust plays a key part in the relationship. Without trust relationships crumble.
My parents were in a heated debate over financial issues, an alien topic to my eleven year old intellect. As the discussion grew in excitability and anger, the room sucked into a suffocating density. At this moment I immediately knew where this was leading and rushed my younger brother upstairs out of harm’s way. There was never a physical harm to protect him from, but it was as though I did this to spare his innocent mind from developing into one like mine; doubtful and angry. Why can’t my parents just get along? Why are they even fighting? Why does my life have to be this way? Why me? Why are they so careless of our feelings? What did we do to deserve this lifestyle? Why us? I spent too much time questioning, and pitying myself over the fact that my parents didn’t love me enough to stay happy with each other. Amongst my questioning always came out the little blip that disrupted my parents arguing, “Are you guys getting a divorce?” I’m not quite sure where I first heard the word, but it became my magic word that took all...
Growing up I seen a lot of conflict between my mom and my brother Dameon's dad. At the tome it was just me and my little sister Genesis i was five she was three. I didnt know much i just knew that man that had to hurt. Thinking back i wonder why she didnt just end it right where it began. I learnedthat my mom has a very big heart even for those that dont deserve it. I also learned that she's hard-headed and doesnt like to see the truth for what it is.
Throughout the years, trust has evolved into one of the most important words in the English language. Derived from the Old Norse term, “traustr”, meaning “strong” or “firm”, trust now becomes a word of bondage that is crucial in the development and maintenance of relationships. Dictionary.com defines this term as, “reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence” (“Trust” 1). With that being said, the foundation of any friendship or, beneficial relationship, begins with trust.
What is trust? According to Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary, trust is an assumed reliance or the character, ability, and strength of someone or something. My definition of trust is someone who can do something without being checked up on or being able to depend on someone. The focus of this essay will be trust. I will go in depth on trust at home, school and trust in general. Follow me on this journey as I explain why trust is needed and how it betters your character. Let’s begin…
Trusting someone is such a fragile thing, a thing that could break someone to pieces and make them remember it for life. The same goes for rules, you see them every day in life. At work, school, basically all of life is based around rules. One thing to remember about following the rules is honesty, another is feelings, and the last one would be thinking of your choice. These things are important so you can keep trust with everyone you know. The one’s you know meaning family, friends, peers, teachers, and bosses. You might not think about it at first, but they give you trust so you can expand what you do in regard to them. These things are not as simple as you may think, they all have cons, but over time they usually turn into pros.
As I read through the power point presentations for the week, it easily me reminds of the
...ons and anguish filled my heart as I listened to the pain of love. The effects of this lie broke my heart at the time as well as my trust and it took a long time to overcome the trust issues that were a result of this lie.
As a kid I was always inspired by my parents’ relationship, because they knew how to make each other happy as well as making me and my two older sisters happy. Their relationship was a lot different than others, they never fought, they always put us kids first and dedicated their time to us. It was like this until I was going into my freshman year, my whole life changed. I was the only
If we think of trust as an account, in which you can make withdrawals and deposits. The fastest way to build a trust account is to stop making withdrawals. You also have to be aware that withdrawals are bigger than deposits.