The role of a father in his child’s life extends past the knowledge of far too many, and can oftentimes be eclipsed by the role of the mother. Although the mother’s role is essential and greatly valued in a child’s life and development, the father plays a significant role as well. No mother can fill the father’s place in a child’s heart, for fathers nurture and play differently than a mother. Several studies show that an attendant and highly involved father is critical, especially in the early stages of a child’s life. The absence of a father during this stage can lead to “impaired social and behavioral abilities in adults” (Robert, 2013).
“Children of divorce are more than twice as likely to have serious social, emotional, or psychological problems as children of intact families…” (Parke, Mary, “Are Married Parents Really Better for Children?” p. 4). Not receiving the support and nurturing that is needed from both parents during adolescents can affect the future decisions made by children at a later stage in their lives. The guidance that is needed for children to make their life long decisions such as continuing education, certain situation thinking processes and decisions. Divorced parents will face loss of income compared to a two parent income, depression, and self-acceptance. Separating mothers and fathers in a childbearing family will lead the mother or father to having to split the roles or replace the role of the other parent in the household while the child might only be allowed to live with one parent for a certain amount of time.
Natural parents are often neglected in the analysis of what makes blended families work, their feelings are often ignored in the struggle to build a stepfamily, and they all too often must live with two (or more) people they love hating each other and making life miserable for everyone concerned. Consequently, parents needs to be aware of the emotional risks involved in creating a blended family and need to realize that the role they take upon themselves is often one of mediator and referee. My husband I learned this lesson by experience when his young son from a former marriage lived with us following our wedding. Since “Little Greg” and his dad had shared a bachelor pad until I walked into their lives, Greg doted on his son. They played ball together, went bowling, played video games and cars.
Even though society as a whole and parenting has evolved, statistics still show the absence of a father or male figure in the household as something that is very common in many families and is concerning. According to a TIME online article, “in the U.S., more than half of divorced fathers lose contact with their kids within a few years. By the end of 10 years, as many as two-thirds of them have drifted out of their children's lives.” (Hrdy & Batten, 2007) Another statistic from the same source states the following; “Even fathers in intact families spend a lot less time focused on their kids than they think: in the U.S. fathers average less than an hour a day (up from 20 minutes a few decades ago), usually squeezed in after the workday.” (Hrdy & Batten,
If a person is going to have more children they should be able to support them. A child is not at fault of his parents. Mr. Walker also says that “many deadbeat parents are homeless, and even a greater percentage are poor.” Again that is understandable, but using a proposal like the “3 strikes” proposal would not only help the child but would also help the deadbeat parent obtain employment. There will more than likely never be an easy solution to the issues this country faces with child support. However the new proposals help children with deadbeat parents have a better shot at life.
Introduction: In the last two decades divorce has increased substantially leaving couples single and families broken. Divorce is the reality for many families as there is an increase in divorce rates, cohabitation rates, and the number of children raised in step and single marital families. Divorce cannot be overlooked as it negatively affects and impacts youngsters for the rest of their lives. Although it is the decision between two parents’s children are hurt the most in the process. The concept of divorce is extremely difficult for children to understand as there are many unanswered questions and uncertainties.
The child will experience emotional shake ups, confusion of what is occurring, and hurt feelings that their parents decided not to remain married anymore. With help from their peers, the child can learn to cope and while it may not be easy, it is attainable to return the child’s life as close to normal as it can get. The negative effects of divorce will always outweigh the positive effects of their parents remaining in the struggling marriage.
Is the father or the mother to blame for this? Hence, we are going to delve deeper into the reasons fathers seem to abandon their children after divorce and where the fault really is. In most divorce cases today, the mother rather than the father is usually given custody of the children. As such, society has emerged hailing the mother as the better parent of the two, mostly because we have been led to believe so over the years. Unfortunately, the legal system also agrees and as such the “courts [do] not recognize fathers as primary care-takers” (Lund 212).
With some families living isolated from close relatives, it may be difficult for the mother’s family to support her after the birth of the child. “A study released in January found that fathers who took two or more weeks of leave upon their child's birth are more likely to be involved in the direct care of their children beyond leave” (Gringleburg). The time proceeding childbirth is the most stressful and tedious time. Parents have to adjust to the new baby and his or her schedule, especially the mother. With the both parents home, a lot of the stress is taken off the mother be... ... middle of paper ... ...y and should be able to be there to play that role.
Lately, many fathers have been requesting to have compensated leave in order to spend time with their newborn additions. Paternity leave demolishes the usual stereotypical visions of fathers working and not staying home to care for their child. The new evolution places the father at home for at least a few weeks to be able to bond and adapt to the obligation of being a father. Paternity leave is a benefitting movement that is now permitted in more places around the world and enhances a father’s early involvement. On the other hand, fathers still face the trepidation of losing their job and possibly not being able to supply for their family.