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The Importance Of Self Sabotage

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Have you ever wonder what kind of statements- such as “I can’t do that”, or “It is too difficult to do”, or “ If I do, I’ll probably just fail anyway”-when you want to do something appear in your mind exactly are? In some cases, they sound as if they are coming from a tyrannical and cruel person with a mission to destroy self-confidence. Unfortunately, all too often, they can lead to self-sabotage and can stop you achieving your goals and dreams.
“Self Sabotage is any behavior, thought, emotion or action that holds you back from getting what you want consciously. It not only prevents you from reaching your goal, but also becomes a safety mechanism that protects you against disappointment.
Self Sabotage is when there is no logical or rational explanation for why you cannot do the things you want to do or why you cannot have them. It does not mean you are lack of desire, skill, knowledge or effort that holds you back. Rather, because of something inside you that’s stronger than your desire and it blocks your efforts.
There are two main types of self-sabotage -thought and behavior- that are perpetuated by inner critic we all posses. The psychologist and author Robert Firestone calls it “ critical inner voice”. “The critical inner voice doses not represent a positive sense of self that you can entrust in. Rather it epitomizes cruel “anti-self” a part inside you that is turned against you. It raises doubt on your abilities, destructs your desires, and convinces you to be paranoid and suspicious toward yourself and those chose to you. This anti-self fills your mind with critical self-analysis and self-sabotaging thoughts that lead you to hold back or steer away from your true goal. (http/www.psychalive.org/self-...

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... procrastinating or putting off making a decision? Are you suffering from lack of motivation to do something that you should want to do? Do you find yourself unreasonably angry or frustrated, and is this affecting your relationships? Or Is there something in your life that nags at you and cause dissatisfaction because you know you could do it or do it better? “. Next, you have to monitor your negative thinking- think about what you say to yourself when you engage in this behavior and write down all your negative thoughts (or the negative self-talk) , however silly or unrealistic they may seem. After that you should challenge yourself sabotaging thinking by asking yourself “what deeper thoughts lie behind this self-sabotaging thinking? Or are these thoughts rational, and based on any clear facts? Then you must develop self-supporting behaviors.
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