By strongly defining homosexuality as being secretive and effeminate then you are defining heterosexuality as masculine and out because they are defined by what the other one is not. The entire show Nashville itself is a limiting sphere that reinforces what it means to be heterosexual by proving that Will is not. Kuhar explains normalization as “Media representations of normal homosexuality are representations tailored to the perception of heterosexuals in such a way that they do not threaten their world” (Kuhar, ). This explains how the creator of the show placed a queer character in the show not to make the world more accepting to homosexuality but to strengthen the already strong ties of what it means to be normal (heterosexual). Making homosexuality “normal” or displaying queer characters as anything other than being different, unnatural, or closeted threatens heterosexuality.
There is a general expectation around the behavioural traits expected in gay men; they’re weak, delicate, stylish, and associate themselves more so with women (Engle, 2017). This expectation is harmful, as closeted gay men may want to avoid the gain of this stereotype in avoidance of being told ‘you don’t act gay’ as if it’s an accomplishment. The Journal of Gay & Lesbian Mental Health also saw gay men resenting the ‘gay friend’ label, as if their sexuality was used for personal gain rather than pure friendship. These negative microaggressions can lead to the individual ‘lashing out’. Michael Eagles, a long-term Truckee and openly gay man, faced extreme homophobia and threats from one of his colleagues.
Sexual identity can be defined as what gender(s) a person is romantically, and sexually attracted to. Cultural influence emerges from the idea that people are one or the other, gay or straight. However, people neglect to account for the impact of heteronormativity on individuals in a society. Heteronormativity assumes that heterosexuality is the only sexual orientation, or at least the most normal. The normalization of heterosexuality forces coercive archetypes onto all sexual identities.
Unlike heterosexual couples, however, they are denied the right to marriage and all the benefits that go with it. Gay marriages also provide sufficient reasons for society to promote them. They at least fulfill two of the most important reasons for marriage: the domestication of men and the provision of a reliable care giver (Rauch 22). Civilizing men is one of society's biggest problems (Rauch 22).
In relation to homosexuals, contradiction constantly arises that gay marriage should not be legalised. However, homosexuals do not necessarily want to get marriage but may just want the justification of having equal rights. Thus, in the case if homosexuals do want to marry at some stage of their relationship, according to Nagle, “people say that banning same sex marriage is not only unfair, but it is also discriminatory” (2010, p.31). In society, denying individuals rights due to their gender, race or sexual orientation is consequently classified as discrimination. Alternatively, to go against gay marriage and not allowing either two females or to males getting married to one another can become a form of illegal discrimination towards society.
Homosexual people and couples are treated as inferior to that of heterosexuals. The values that homosexual couples exhibit in their daily lives are often indistinguishable from those of their straight neighbors. They're loyal to their mates, and are devoted partners. Many of the reasons offered for opposing homosexual marriage are based on the assumption that homosexuals have a choice in which they can feel attracted to, and the reality is quite different. Many people actually believe that homosexuals could simply choose to be heterosexual if they wished.
But it's not as simple as that it's not straights' views about gays that really matter. It's their views of themselves. As long as good equals masculine, gay equals feminine, and feminine equals bad, boys are going to use homophobia to prove themselves, no matter how many essays people write and people read about it. It isn't just transforming attitudes about homosexuality; it's transforming attitudes about gender and masculinity. Unless we succeed in doing that, we're just treating the symptoms, not the cause.
Society then starts to oppress gays, and if men are seen as gay, they are seen as less of a man. Our society is structured to believe that men are supposed to be a certain way and if a man does not follow this normalcy he is then seen as less of a man. “Masculinity as Homophobia” by Michael S. Kimmel states that masculinity could be transformed into homophobia. Kimmel questions what a man is supposed to be like, but what if a man is different than the status quo “normalcy”? If a man is not seen as masculine but seen as feminine, he is normally cast as a gay because that is how our society sees men.
Homosexuals are no different that ordinary people, they just have a different sexual preference. With all of the ridiculous rumors and people’s strong ignorance, the homosexual population is being looked down upon. Laws are forbidding homosexuals from being able to fully express their love through marriage. There are shared feelings between homosexual couples and heterosexual couples so it would be unfair to say that homosexual love is not true love. Donald DeMarco argues that love is something that is only meant for a man and a woman.
Sam Schulman’s “The Worst Thing About Gay Marriage” presents an interesting argument against gay marriage that hinges upon maintaining a traditional form of marriage. He actually claims that gay marriage is “unnecessary”(381). According to Schulman, there are 4 primary effects of marriage within his definition he calls the kinship system. First, marriage protects and controls a woman’s sexuality. Second, the possible pairings are limited by the kinship system to avoid incest or other taboos.