The Importance Of Marriage

1685 Words4 Pages
bulb-icon

Recommended: Effective communication in relationships

“Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.” - Henry Ford. Marriage is the legal or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (Waite,2003, pg.1). Marriage rates have been decreasing since the 1950s’s (Punch, 2004, Pg.1) and 1 in 5 marriages ends in divorce or separation in the first 5 years (Murphy, 2008, pg.2). This is because your marriage must consists of certain factors or it is doomed for failure. There are certain character qualities that are essential for a marriage to work. Financial stability is another very important factor for a relationship to run smoothly. Lastly, You and your spouse should share similar goals and values so your marriage doesn't …show more content…

Faithfulness is often a quality desired in marriage (Burbee, 2012, para.2). The temptations and opportunities to be “unfaithful” to one’s marriage are sadly very accessible (Burbee, 2012, para.2). A spouse can forgive, but that painful experience will lurk in the offended spouse’s mind. They won't want to let down their guards for fear that it could happen again (Burbee, 2012, para.3). Loyalty in the personal realm, which comes out of love, devotion, dedication and commitment to the well being of another, is healthy (Burbee, 2012, para.3). Research shows that infidelity rates may be as high as 60 to 70% (Dineen, 2015, para.1). One Indiana University study found that women and men cheat at the same rate (Dineen, 2015, para.1). "Most women cheat because they feel emotionally deprived, and men are unfaithful because they often feel sexually deprived," says Tina B. Tessina (Dineen, 2015, para.1). The person who is being cheated on will suffer a major blow to his or her self-esteem (Dineen, 2015, para.2). Cheating can create a level of stress and anxiety that can trigger a depressive episode which will negatively affect your marriage and will be never difficult to fix. (Dineen, 2015, para.5). Staying loyal to your spouse is very important and without being loyal will affect the trust and honesty in the …show more content…

Trust is only built after weeks, months, and years of being who you say you are and doing what you say you’ll do. DePaulo’s research showed that married couples lie to each other in about 1 in 10 interactions (Firestone, 2015, para.2). Honesty is a key component of a healthy relationship because it helps us avoid harmful breaches of trust and it allows us to live in reality instead of fantasy and to share this reality with another (Firestone, 2015, para.3). With trust, there is freedom and security to experience the full potential of intimacy, love, and vulnerability the relationship has to offer (Mcilwain, 2010, para.1). Without trust, there is fear and insecurity, dampening and limiting the relationship’s potential (Mcilwain, 2010, para.1). If you are building your marriage on a broken foundation, it is going to make for a difficult and painful journey to intimacy and success in your marriage (Mcilwain, 2010, para.6). It is much more difficult to earn trust back when it is broken than to maintain trust in your marriage or relationship (Mcilwain, 2010, para.7). If your marriage doesn't consists of trust and honestly there will be no marriage. You and your spouse should trust and be honest with one another even about money and financial

Show More
Related

  • Mgt 311 Week 3 Discussion 1

    683 Words  | 2 Pages

    Some relationships last a lifetime and others are destroyed for various reasons. Marriage is in my view one of the most fragile relationships in today's society. Although it is scientifically proven that the family is the place where a person can develop physically and intellectually in a harmonious way, and can maintain his/her physical and mental health, today many families are falling apart, causing much suffering not only to the partners but also to the children in the family. The author of the article on the site www.apa.org/helpcenter, suggests a few steps to take in order to keep the romantic partnership in good working order, and I think this is also true for a happy marriage too. According to the site, communication is a key piece of healthy relationships. Another recommendation is to keep the marriage relationship interesting, planning interesting activities together, away from the daily routine. When you can no longer overcome the obstacles that arise in marriage, it is recommended to call for outside

    Read More

  • Pornography's Effects on Relationships

    2259 Words  | 5 Pages

    First of all trust is one of the biggest factors when it comes to being in a relationship. It there is no trust it could all easily fall apart. This is why so many women loose their husbands trust when they first discover that they have been cheating on them with pornography magazines, books, and more often internet sites. Pamela Paul states that “most men do not admit to engaging in pornography but try to hide it from their spouse in order to keep it a secret. When their spouses end up finding out about it, all trust has been lost in the relationship and this is when it usually ends” (100). Most women become devastated when they find out that their husbands have a “second life”. They really feel that they have been cheated on and have lost that special connection between their significant other and them. When women find out about this it usually leads to short term separation which in the end leads to divorce and their relationship simply becomes another statistics of how many relationships pornography has ruined. Most relationships rely on trust and when that trust bond is broken it is very hard to get it back.

    Read More

  • Thesis About Interpersonal Communication

    773 Words  | 2 Pages

    The long-term success of marriage is measured by how effective and efficient individual couples exchange and express their feeling not only to address the problem that might arise but most important how they resolve it through

    Read More

  • The High Divorce Rate in the United States

    1036 Words  | 3 Pages

    Marriage is a commitment that seems to be getting harder to keep. The social standards placed on an individual by society and influenced by the media inevitably lead some to consider divorce as a “quick-fix” option. “Have it your way” has become a motto in the United States. It has become a country without any consideration of the psychological effects of marriage and divorce. The overwhelmingly high divorce rate is caused by a lack of moral beliefs and marital expectations.

    Read More

  • Summary Of Matt Chandler's The Mingling Of Souls

    1035 Words  | 3 Pages

    Marriage is something most people do but few do it well. If a couple is not looking at divorce papers that are probably seeking marriage counseling. If they are not screaming to the top of their lungs at each other they are probably sneaking out to lie in someone else’s arms. If they are not physically abusing one or the other they are probably being mentally abusive. If a couple is not saying hurtful things to each other they are probably not saying anything at all because why would they when the other is not going to listen anyways. We have all been in or seen relationships struggle with these kinds of things. This big question is where did they go wrong? I think the answer to that question lies in Matt Chandler’s book The Mingling of Souls. Chandler’s answer to the question above is that if a couple wants to have a truly successful marriage they must follow God’s design for marriage. Now Chandler is in no way implying that a couple will not struggle if they do it God’s way but they will be able to get through those struggles together. This review is not a summary of the book but it will discuss the strength and weaknesses of

    Read More

  • The True Meaning of Marriage

    576 Words  | 2 Pages

    When we think of marriage, the first thing that comes to mind is having a lasting relationship. Marriage is a commitment of two people to one another and to each other?s family, bonded by holy matrimony. When a couple plans to marry, they think of raising a family together, dedicating their life to each other. That?s the circle of life--our natural instinct to live and produce children and have those children demonstrate your own good morals. I have never been married; but I don?t understand why when two people get married and vow to be together for richer and poorer, better or worse, decide to just forget about that commitment. A marriage should be the most important decision a person makes in his or her life.

    Read More

  • My Last Duchess Jealousy Analysis

    965 Words  | 2 Pages

    Marriage is based on trust and if that fails insecurity comes into play based on taking their own problems and twisting

    Read More

  • Value Of Marriage Essay

    1334 Words  | 3 Pages

    A good marriage thrives on the open exchange of emotion, desires, and beliefs; In fact, communication is one of the most important aspects of a satisfying marriage (Marriage Communication: How Does It Work?). The rate of satisfaction in marriage is higher for husbands and wives when both regularly maintain religious attendance and feel that God is the center of their marriage (The state of Our Unions 2011, 31, 33 and Why Marriage Matters: Facts and Figures). Having a strong belief in your faith can help strengthen the communication and commitment to a marriage. Having a clear line of communication is key. Trust is the foundation of a marriage, and the basis of all lines of emotion that result from the feeling you get from knowing you can rely on the person you marry to honor their vows faithfully. Without trust and communication, a marriage will struggle and have a reduced chance of

    Read More

  • The Evolution of Marriage

    2099 Words  | 5 Pages

    Marriage is a “socially recognized and approved union between individuals, who commit to one another with the expectations of a stable and lasting intimate relationship. It begins with a ceremony known as a wedding which formally unites marriage partners. A marital relationship usually involves some kind of contract, either written or specified by tradition, which defines the partners’ rights and obligations to each other, to any children they may have, and to their relatives. In most contemporary industrialized societies, marriage is certified by the government,” (Skolnick, 2005). Marriage is also an important institution because of the impact it has on society. Marriage is the main way that reproduction of human life occurs. In some societies it is tradition for family heirlooms or things of value be passed on through marriage. Marriage also serves as a healthy way to have intimate relationships with an individual. In most places a marriage exists between two people of the opposite sex. However, the legal definition of marriage is currently being challenged by many. According to Skolnick’s article a marriage can be defined by responsibilities that a couple would share, some examples are: living together, having sexual relations, sharing money and financial responsibilities, and having a child together. The issue is that homosexual couples can do these things like heterosexual couples.

    Read More

  • Car Insurance: Pros And Cons Of Car Insurance

    2714 Words  | 6 Pages

    The truth is, all you need is mutual love, respect, patience, understanding, and the willingness to work through even the toughest of situations to maintain a happy marriage even if that means having to use couple’s therapy. Without trust there can be no true happiness, because in the end it will hinder your ability to see things clearly and in a levelheaded manner. It is also important to remember that even though you are married, you still remain your own individual self, and that goes for your spouse too. You are two separate people who have chosen to come together, and that is a beautiful thing.

    Read More

  • Marriage as an Outdated Institution

    1061 Words  | 3 Pages

    is the most usual in which a man and a woman unite themselves in the

    Read More

  • Infidelity

    1262 Words  | 3 Pages

    ...            Imagine how difficult it would be to trust one’s spouse again. It would be like starting all over. Many believe that “once a cheat always a cheat”, people who have several affairs have a higher divorce rate (figure 7). One would have to put forth time, and effort to restore something that they did not destroy. All of the years of marriage, all that was shared and considered sacred is gone. How can one be expected to believe that the affair was an isolated incident that never took place earlier on in the marriage? It is with all of these doubts and unanswered questions that it becomes evident that adultery destroys marriages and therefore marriage cannot survive infidelity. Infidelity not only destroys marriages, it also destroys families. Children turn away from their mothers or fathers, and it is at that point that the marriage should be considered null and void. The possibility of a marriage being able to survive infidelity is far fetched. Therefore, the answer to the question: ‘can marriage survive infidelity’ is evident.

    Read More

  • The Importance Of Marriage And Marriage

    974 Words  | 2 Pages

    Love conquers everything. Or at least, that’s what Romeo and Juliet thought. But marriage and love can be complicated, and some argue that marrying someone who shares your religious beliefs can make things much easier. Is having the same religious and spiritual beliefs part of criteria many people use when seeking a marriage partner? It is strongly felt that the person they are going to marry should have the same traditions and customs, and intensity of belief as they themselves do. For them, it is an imperative part of marriage. A correlation exists between religious shared beliefs in marriage and marital satisfaction, although the nature of the relationship is not certain. History says that religion starts wars. If that is true, what will it do to a dual-religion marriage? This paper will discuss people’s views on why it is actually a major criterion to have a partner that has the same religious beliefs.

    Read More

  • The History of Marriage

    1990 Words  | 4 Pages

    What is Marriage? Marriage is when people are being united together as husband and wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by the law. Marriage hasn’t always been how it is now, where women have a say in family problems, and where woman have the right to choose whom they want to marry. Before during the ancient times, women had to marry those in their families, and could not marry those that were Marriage use to be all about doing what you needed to support your family, which meant you married someone who was able to give you what you needed. Marriage wasn’t because you loved someone, but it was always because people wanted to preserve power. Now in the marriage, people marry, because they love each other, and because they want to make an effort to spend the rest of their lives together.

    Read More

  • The Causes of Divorce

    672 Words  | 2 Pages

    Relationships are all about give and take, and to maintain that balance people must be willing to do the work. Today dissolution of marriage is being used as the easy way out when couples no longer agree. When couples are incapable of maintaining a happy marriage, a divorce can be agreed upon. Divorce is more common nowadays, making the divorce rate a continual increase. About 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce (Kazdin). In America, there is one divorce every 13 seconds. That’s 6,646 divorces per day, and 46,523 divorce per week (Irvin). The three main causes of divorce is the lack of communication, financial difficulties, and infidelity.

    Read More

More about The Importance Of Marriage

Open Document