The concept of humans becoming lonelier in modern society has gained prominence throughout the past couple of decades. Many factors are being put responsible for example the fact that people are so busy working it is cutting into their time to socialize. Kids are off to school, and parents are working a 9-5 and both have a few hours to interact at the end of the day before going to bed. Recently though, many researchers including author Stephen Marche in his work “Is Facebook Making Us Lonely?” claim that social media is a big source of this sense of “loneliness.”
Marche’s text is well written in that the first half has good examples of the idea that humans are feeling more isolated even before social media came about, for example when he
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Of course it offers instant communication with others and being updated on news in an instant, but ironically has also been claimed to making us feel lonelier. We end up living in a contradiction as the author puts it, “the more connected we become, the lonelier we are” (Marche 601). Personally, I think that it’s not creating loneliness per se, but it is exposing the loneliness we already have. If we really think about it, the illusion that Facebook creates makes us feel as our lives are boring compared to others. While your friend is posting pictures on Facebook of them skydiving and having a blast, what are you doing? You are on your phone or computer scrolling on your news feed. In reality, your friend’s life isn’t always as exciting as they are portraying it. Marche adds on this phenomenon describing it as “wandering the labyrinths of our friends’ and pseudo-friends’ projected identities” (Marche 606). The phenomenon is not something that I just agree with, it is something I myself have experienced when using …show more content…
Realizing that your friend’s lives aren’t as interesting as they seem, and using any form of social media in moderation is essential. The authors statement that “social networking might be spreading the very isolation it seemed designed to conquer” is true In that we are letting it do that. We can all enjoy the use of Facebook in its fast communication and being able to share cool moments of our lives with our friends, but we should also value real life socialization and communication. People did it for hundreds of years without it, so I think we can
I-Chieh Chen (2015) in The study The Scale for the Loneliness of College Students in Taiwan (http://www.ccsenet.org/journal/index.php/jedp/article/download/46795/25238) stated that Loneliness was initially studied by Sullivan (1953) (A Peplau, D Perlman, LA Peplau… - Loneliness: A …, 1982 - peplaulab.ucla.edu) who proposed that loneliness was an unpleasant and intense experience related to unsatisfied requirements for intimacy (http://www.ccsenet.org/journal/index.php/jedp/article/download/46795/25238). Sullivan’s research was all but neglected in his time. This neglect lasted until 1973, when Weiss, an American scholar who was an adherent of Bowlby’s attachment theory, published an article entitled “Loneliness: the experience of emotional and social isolation” (RS Weiss - 1973 - psycnet.apa.org).
As technology progress, humans evolve to the advanced technology and enhance our lives via technology. We connect to our families, friends and others through social media such as Facebook. Social media takes up a huge part in our lives. Social media infest us with information that are relevant and irrelevant to us. Marry Marrow wrote, “It was Facebook that changed the face of e-communication; in fact, it was the first electronic social media” (para 1). She assumes that Facebook is playing a huge role in electronic communication. In the journalist Maria Konnikova, “How Facebook makes us unhappy?”, Konnikova divulges many aspects of people on social media through researching and experience, and finds how social makes us unhappy. I agree with Konnikova findings after reading her article. In addition, she concludes that if you are engaged, active, and creative you will not sorrowful on Social media, however if you are passively browsing and defuse to engage, you
T.S. Eliot and William Butler Yeats portray their characters as two men, who are trying to deal with the idea of loneliness. Both men are presently depressed with their existing lifestyles and crave to become a part of an entirely different state of affairs. As these authors present their characters desires to live a separate life from their recent one, Prufrock and the narrator (Yeats) take a different approach to expressing their ideas of loneliness. Eliot chooses to depict his character as an overly educated man, whose mental state is deteriorating because he longs for companionship, while Yeats chooses to depict his character as a man, who wants to live-out his childhood dream in solitude. Both authors show their characters as men who are trying to cope with their feelings toward seclusion.
Twenge suggests that the rates for dating have dropped immensely because people would rather stay at home on their phones rather than go out and meet new people. She notes that it statistically takes a long time for people in the iGen generation to leave their parent’s household. Doctor Twenge argues that the maturity of our generation has lowered for “18-year-olds now act more like 15-year-olds used to, and 15-year-olds more like 13-year-olds”(page 63). She also implies that people who spend immense time on social media are more likely to have mental illnesses. Twenge’s research emphasises that “Teens who visit social-networking sites every day but see their friends in person less frequently are the most likely to agree with the statements ‘A lot of times I feel lonely,’ ‘I often feel left out of things,’ and ‘I often wish I had more good friends.’
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The attraction of users to Facebook, or social media in general, isn’t that difficult to comprehend. Over the course of the past 60 years, the percentage of people live alone has increased by 17 percent. In the 50’s it was 10 percent, in 2010, it was estimated at 27 percent. The promise of a greater connection seems extremely attractive to those living in solitary. Here is the irony, what Facebook and Social media provides, differs a great deal from what is needed to create and sustain deeper emotional AND Lasting
while this true in reality you're just texting or calling someone while you're alone. Most people wouldn't like being alone, so that's why they fill all their time with social media, & social media is a good source of encouragement, compliments, & many other positive things. So when an adolescent is alone they get a sense that they're not alone. If social media were to be taken away, one would most likely suffer depression, because with lack of encouragement comes self-doubt and that's what depression is except a more extreme version. A quote by Louis C.K. “But people are willing to risk taking a life and ruining their own because they don't want to be alone for a second because it's so hard.” leads me to believe that people fear being alone & disconnected and will break rules to get back in touch, which leads me to my next
But they also have ways to prevent them at the end of their journals, articles, etc. An article, 26 effects of social media on youth, society, and business, suggests people to limit who they follow and how long they spend on social media. Limiting who you follow can help you dramatically, since you can prevent feelings of jealousy, sadness, anger, and exclusion by simply unfollowing people who make you feel that way. Likewise, limiting how long you spend on social media helps prevent isolation as well. Instead of spending too much time on social media, use it to hang out with family and friends. In addition, a study at Carnegie Mello University, written up by Debbie McGauran, states that people are much happier when they interact with friends and family in person. Their contentment and happiness increases, since there is more face-to-face communication, being closer to people, and being able to enjoy the real world. Social media can cause isolation, but there are ways to prevent
Today we live in a society that has been engulfed in technology and that question is does technology make us lonely? Personally I don't think, I now we can communicate with one another faster than ever whether it's by text message, email and through the many social networking sites that we have today we can reach out to each other in so many ways. There has always been a debate on how this technology affects us and some would argue that it's ruining us as we speak while others would say it's a step in the right direction. Such devices and applications as smart phones, tablets, e-mail, texting, Facebook and Skype are bringing families together, offering an easy avenue to communicate when you’re loved ones are far away and or when they are as close as the next room. People have the sources to interact with others around the globe with just the click of a button. We can share our lives with those around us and at the same time see what others are doing as well. People can keep in touch with their family and loved ones with all of the social networking sites available, or make new friends through these sites. People can talk to their relatives that are station in the military using video chat services such as Facetime and Skype, which a vital way for people to keep in touch with their loved ones while their away on duty. The social networking sites also is a way for us to meet new people and interact with them. It helps a lot of people that don't have friends in their daily life to have friends through social media such as Facebook and Twitter people can talk with each other and build bonds with one another through these sites which can help them to feel a lot less lonely than they would in their normal lives which helps a lot of peo...
A person’s life is reflected on Facebook. Because so much of someone’s life is on Facebook, anyone can have a sense of what is going on in their life. This is beneficial for parents away from their children in college or just away from the nest. A visual image is more attractive than reading a lengthy blog about an individual's day. With Facebook someone can post albums at a time and can share a special event that just recently occurred. Instant messaging has improved the speed that users can communicate with each other. If they see that their friend is online all that needs to be done is a message with the word “Hey.” Facebook allows for users to connect with friends time zones away.
One could argue that the effects of social networking sites could make an individual more inwards due to the lack of direct social contact. As the Journal of the Royal Society of Medicine suggests (in Sigman, 2009) “Social networking encourages us to ignore the social networks that form in our non-virtual communities”. However as Lewis & West (2009) found, Facebook seems to have the opposite effect and encourages an individual to be more social in some ways due to the structure of the site as it is less direct than a phone call and with no monetary costs attached to it, but always with the ability to communicate with multiple people at one time with other individuals about to respond to a message and view others responses. If a person does become inward and slightly withdrawn from society through Facebook, then most likely they may have possessed these traits already as Dwyer’s research of behaviour offline suggests that even “some people will always be more inclined to socialise than others” (2000). This maybe due to their own personality traits rather than the effects of Facebook on an individual. As Amichai-Hamburger & Vinitzky discovered in their 2010 study, introverted individuals seem to transfer their pattern of behaviour from offline to online, which is reflected in the smaller volume of ‘Facebook Friends’ in comparison with those with extroverted personalities. As was stated earlier by Ross (2009), Facebook’s structure is mainly offline to online therefore those who are introverted in reality and have trouble forming friendships offline, will have fewer friends who can be added as ‘Facebook friends’ so their lack of social circle size is not a result of Facebook, it merely highlights it.
Isolation causes conflicts with friends and problems with family members, as well as the inability to maintain a sense of reality. The individual undergoes emotional and psychological changes such as increased feeling of loneliness and depression, which leads to forming a fear of people or deteriorate their self-image. In the US, 6.7% of the population over the age of 18 is suffering form depression (Sunstrum 2014). In today’s society, there is technology dependence. Although social media can enhance learning and facilitate habits, it can also have a negative effect on the individual because it can affect their ability to form
I feel uncomfortable in my own world. Being alone unnerves me. I always have felt the need to share my world, my mind and my feelings with somebody. My feelings about myself seem less important than what others think of me. I'm scared of being lonely. And so are we all. We all seem to be on a continuous search for someone who will really love and understand us. Someone to provide us with a purpose for life. And yet I think we are all essentially alone. We are alone in our thoughts an emotions.
Coping with Loneliness Loneliness is a feeling of emptiness or hollowness inside you. You feel isolated or separated from the world, cut off from those you would like to have contact with. There are different kinds of loneliness and different degrees of loneliness. You might experience loneliness as a vague feeling that something is not right, a kind of minor emptiness of the sand. Or you might feel loneliness as a very intense deprivation and deep pain.
Before technology, face to face communication was a normal everyday thing and loneliness was a problem that was rarely talked about or experienced. People went about their day without checking their phone every five minutes or so to see if anyone liked the status they posted or feeling lonely when nobody new liked it. In new studies more and more people have feelings of loneliness and depression. However, more people now use social medias such as Facebook, twitter and instagram. While it is true that technology mainly sites such as Facebook can lead to a person feeling alone, it is also true that it depends on how you use the technology, either to your advantage or as a depressant.