The Importance Of Infatuation In Romeo And Juliet

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One of the most renowned stories of all time is that of Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet. Their willingness to sacrifice bright futures for love will always be remembered; but were they truly in love? I believe their feelings were nothing more than pure obsession. Infatuation can be immensely convincing and is not to be taken lightly. It has great power to influence human behavior and, unfortunately for Romeo and Juliet, it brought about their death. It is not to say that love can’t be created from lust, but the two teenagers did not have time to build love; they knew each other for only a matter of days.
Before meeting Juliet, Romeo was heart-broken because the beautiful Rosaline did not share his feelings, believing he didn’t truly love her.
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She was shielded by her family and hadn’t yet had a romantic relationship. Neither Romeo nor Juliet knew anything about a real romantic love. Their “love” is based on passionate feelings and first glances. When Juliet notices Romeo at the ball, she says, “Go ask his name. - If he be married. My grave is like to be my wedding bed.” (1.5.132-133) Juliet believes her future would be miserable without this mysterious boy in it. This shows her naïveté and inability to think sensibly. They are too young to take their "love" so extremely and plan their futures around it. They took the meaning of “love at first sight” to the extreme. Love takes time to grow and requires the knowledge of one another. In Act 1, Scene 1, Romeo says about Rosaline, “Love is a smoke raised with the fume of sighs; Being purged, a fire sparkling in lovers ' eyes; Being vexed a sea nourished with lovers ' tears: What is it else? A madness most discreet, a choking gall and a preserving sweet.” He senses the insanity right away. It is the madness of infatuation which Romeo and Juliet are far too young to handle and in the long run, it leads to their ruin. Romeo’s adolescence makes him unaware of real love (he may be familiar to the madness of fixation). Romeo states his feelings very distractedly, using words such as “smoke,” “sea,” and “fire.” This shows that he knows more about love from books or…show more content…
His verification of love for Rosaline is based on her beauty. But, when Romeo finds someone more stunning than her, it is easy for him to let go of his previous feelings. We will never know if he would be capable of getting rid of his feelings for Juliet in the same fashion. When Romeo and Juliet met at the ball, they were instantly attracted to each other. Instant attraction is a trademark of infatuation, not essentially love. Friar Lawrence makes a considerable argument that Romeo 's love for Juliet could be nothing more than pure fixation. Just days before, Romeo was crying over another woman, the unachievable Rosaline. Friar Lawrence realizes that Romeo could fall in love with any beautiful girl he sees. In fact, Romeo does just that; he doesn’t follow his heart, he follows his eyes. All thoughts of Rosaline are forgotten once he sees Juliet. How could he resist her, all wholesomeness and graceful? Certainly, his obsession stops him from doing so. Infatuation easily causes a young man to be indecisive; love should not. Love should be deliberated of the long-term effects of one’s decisions. Juliet, to her credit, is aware of the irony of falling for someone whose family is off-limits to her, though she doesn’t speak of her own family’s reaction. She does cry about the feud between the families and its effect on her when she says, “My only love sprung from my only hate! Too early seen unknown, and known too
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