The Importance Of Codependency In John Donne's No Man Is An Island

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We cannot survive on our own, we all depend on others. John Donne, in his poem, ‘No Man Is An Island’, expresses the idea of connectedness of people. We are commanded to, Carry each other 's burdens, and in this way you will fulfil the law of Christ (Galatians 6:2 NIV). We are to love each other as Jesus Christ loves us. However, good things can easily be distorted and turned into something wicked called codependency.
You may wonder, how can loving someone too much or caring for others turn into codependency. Distorted love is dysfunctional love and co-dependency is love that is malfunctioning. It is toxic love to the receiver and to the giver. Codependency has varying degrees. No two people go through the same type of codependency.
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You may want to go back to enslavement of people, you may want to return back to your prison, but realise that Jesus Christ has set you free. He has opened the prison door, all you need is to trust God and stay resilient. “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6 NIV).

To break free from codependency, there are a few steps you can follow:
• Identify your type of codependency
• Acknowledge your fault and repent of your codependency
• Forgive others that have lead you into codependency
• Learn to depend on God and to love and care for people according to God’s will
• Learn healthy confrontation
• Learn to set realistic boundaries
• Let go of controlling and manipulating others
• Learn healthy submission to authorities
• Learn to accept the truth and live by the truth
• Learn to let go and let God intervene on your behalf
• Accept the plan of God for your life and for those you love
• Find your security in God and not in people
• Learn to be God pleasing and give up being people pleasing
• Learn humility and self-control
• Learn to let go the yearning for the approval and praises of others
• Base your decision on God’s word rather than on your emotions
• Lead others to Jesus Christ who is their true Rescuer and

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