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The short story “I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen is an example of a mother daughter struggle. From what I took from the story, the young mom herself had an extremely rough life. She had her daughter Emily at a young age and it did not end up picture perfect like she might have thought it would. Her mother had to work to support them, so she always sent Emily off to be cared by others. Sometimes she was sent far away and for a long period of time.
The detachment between mother and daughter in “I Stand Here Ironing” is understandable. The mother struggles daily with the decisions she made while her oldest child Emily was a young baby and toddler. Obstacles in Emily’s life have made it hard for her mother to forget these decisions, and life with Emily only reinforces these decisions. Emily’s mother struggles when asked to help an outsider understand who Emily is. Her thoughts are perplexing; she tries constantly to accept the relationship between herself and Emily, the distance between them emotionally.
Social pressure to raise pleasant, good mannered children who become grounded and productive adults has been a driving influence for many generations. If our children do not fit into this mold then we’re considered failures are parents. Emily’s mother is tormented by the phone call which sets off a wave of maternal guilt. Emily’s mother was young and abandoned by her husband while Emily was still an infant so she had to rely on only herself and the advice of others while she raised her daughter. After Emily was born her mother, “with all the fierce rigidity of first motherhood, (I) did like the books said.
“I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen is a story about her mother and daughter Emily relationship. The memory was not always a pleasant attribute to the mother not taking care of Emily the way that a mother typically would. Emily’s mother sent her away on multiple occasions. The mother was having a hard time communicating and showing love to her daughter Emily. Throughout the story, it is clear that Emily’s mother does not have the qualities of being a mother.
In the story Two Kinds by Amy Tan, Jing Mei’s mother’s obsession with making Jing Mei a prodigy is the cause of destruction in their relationship but, once Jing Mei begins to understand her mother’s reasoning, the enabler for their reconciliation. For instance, Jing Mei struggles with trying to play the role of the... ... middle of paper ... ... she also believes Emily turned out well, because she is not helpless and she can find her way. Emily’s mother realizes she has no control over the circumstances, now only the ability to respond to them and to learn from the experiences. This allows a reconciling process to occur within her, because although she was not able to raise Emily like she wanted to, she did the best she could under the circumstances. Works Cited Schilb, John.
As she does not live with her mother she feels the need to rebel so that The Social Services will send her to her mother. During the story, certain events affect... ... middle of paper ... ...ings or people a chance. Gilly didn't give William Ernest or Maime Trotter a chance, she immediately thought they weren't up to her standards, but after a while she realised they were just like her. My views of the characters did change during the story. At the start, I really did not like Gilly; I thought she was really mean and a horrible person.
She has lived for nineteen years. There is all that life that has happened outside of me, beyond me.” (3) She becomes perplexed as to how she could possibly find the time to sum up what could help this person understand her daughter. From this acknowledgement, we can interpret this to mean that the mother does not even understand her own daughter. At the age of ninet... ... middle of paper ... ...ted her in the raising of the rest of her children. As she begins to put a wrap on her thoughts, she comes to a conclusion, that Emily is “a child of her age, of depression, of war, of fear.” With her proclamation, we can deduce that the mother has settled she is not the cause for blame.
Not having parental figures is tragically detrimental to a child’s maturation, leaving them alone to figure out the world, which often comes with the cost of making misinformed decisions. As Esch is thrust into adult life, she strains to remember the teachings of her mother and is often left lonely and without instructions on how to stay alive and love herself as a woman. Esch relies on her