The Five Love Languagages

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People speak in many different languages. The mind may first go to languages like English, French, Italian, Spanish, etc., but there are also five other languages that most people may not think of. These languages are called the five love languages. A person needs the right kind of love. Just like being able to connect to people in different ways, a person also needs to be treated with different ways of love. This is illustrated in the feelings of children. Some children feel totally love and wanted, while others feel totally unloved and unwanted. The difference between these children is the way they are treated. One child may need told often that he is loved while another may need just a pat on the shoulder.1
One must keep the love tanks of those he loves full. “Keeping the emotional love tank full is as important to a marriage as maintaining the proper oil level is to an automobile.”2 Running on empty is extremely dangerous to the marriage. So how do we know what love is, what languages there are, and what language(s) a person speaks?3
First, we have what we call falling in love. When a person is in love they have the tendency to do outrageous things for the person that they love. Then they get married. Soon after the marriage they will seem like they fall out love. There is two choices: one, get a divorce and try again, or two, work on loving the other without the “in-love obsession”4 But the question is how does a person love another person in this way? The answer is one of the five languages. While a person may speak one of these languages, they may not speak it quite like another would speak the same language. Just as languages have different dialects, so love languages have different dialects. The pe...

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...h sometimes seems like nagging. What you are being asked to do may be what he/she is longing from you. Still another way to figure out someone's love language is to ask what does he/she doing to me to show me love. These ways only show a probable sign of his/her love language, not a definite answer to the question of what his/her love language might be. When you find the answer, be sure that you try your best to show them the love. They need it shown to them to keep their love tank full.16
All people are alike in this aspect. All people need and express love in different ways. It is best to show everyone love the way they need to feel it. Love is not a feeling, it is a choice. Choose to love the right way today!17

Works Cited

Chapman, Gary. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 2004.

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