Hye Hyun Kim CDFS 319-01 Journal 3 When I read The Family Circumplex Model by Olson, I totally agreed with his idea of the enmeshed level of couple and family cohesion. I am not sure if one person is moderate but another person is enmeshed is an enmeshed couple. I just recalled my memory dating an enmeshed man before and I could say that that relationship was horrible and worse than disengaged relationship. I have met and experienced one enmeshed guy who wanted me to involve in his high togetherness and closeness relationship. He wanted me to put my whole life into the relationship. He didn’t like me doing homework, or even spending family time. He got mad if I dine out with my family without asking me permission. He wanted to talk everyday,
The durability of clay has brought forth an immense abundance of Greek pottery, a craft mastered by Athenian artists. Archeologists have found hundreds of varieties in creation, shape, function, style, and artwork in Archaic vases. The museum has been blessed with one of these priceless artifacts; it is the duty of this establishment to accumulate as much data as possible surrounding the vase. In first identifying technique, dimensions, and condition, as well as describing shape, ornament, and figural scenery, one may then begin to analyze the vase. This serves the general purpose of understanding where the artifact stands in Greek culture and history. Through the examination and research of figural scenes, it is then possible to compare these to other scenes and styles of the same and other painters. Finally, one can then hypothesize where, why, and how this piece was used.
Do you know how to use the Toulmin model when writing an argumentative paper? After reading this essay you will not only know how to use the Toulmin model, but also how to use it effectively. The model is relatively easy to use and it can help one to organize his or her paper. James Q. Wilson is one of many writers that utilizes the Toulmin model. In Wilson’s piece, “Just Take Away Their Guns,” it is clear that he chose to use the Toulmin model as a guideline for the organization of the work. I will be walking you through the steps of the Toulmin model in the following paragraphs.
Extreme relationships often tend to be abusive in some way from one of the partners towards the other. Very marked age differences some times show a sense of immaturity or a parenting feeling, it is hard to assimilate to someone who in deed is very different to the other. Now when there is a certain dependence that is more than of love, like economic, intellectual, physical, social, progressive it can become very abusive on the depending person. It’s a case were almost anything has to be tolerated, because in deed, if one wants to keep enjoying from those benefits, he or she must lower their head and keep eating what ever is thrown at them.
In attempting to understand the blended family system, one would be remised if we did not first look at, and understand primarily what a family system dynamic is. Unfortunately, this is a theory that once had very clear cut lines; today those lines are a little burred and more subjective than ever before. Given that the family is an ever changing system with fluid boarders, this author will illustrate some finite distinctions that may separate the typical family system from a blended family system. Family systems have been studied since psychologists began studying people and their behaviors.
The family that I am meeting is the Walls family; they are Rex the father, Rose the mother, Lori the oldest daughter, Jeannette, Brian the only boy, and then baby Maureen. The mother and father don’t seem to have any high levels of education, but seem to know more than they let onto. The children are extremely bright. The children have been in and out of school, but are levels above children their own age. Their father is from Welch, West Virginia his mother Erma and her husband also Rex’s brother Stanley lives in Welch with the grandparents. They are on the deeper lower end of poverty and the father has had job after job but does not seem to ever settle down in one he just continues to move from one after another. The mother had a job working
Structural Family Therapy offers a framework that provides order and meaning within the family connections (Nichols, 2013). Divorce for a family is considered a significant transition for all parties involved. When counseling a family going through divorce the structural family therapist’s job is to build an alliance with the family and obtain information about the structure. The structure of the family consists of the roles, interactions, organization, and hierarchy. Family therapy yields the belief that changing the organization of the family leads to change in the individual members. The structural family therapist often will try to become part of the family to gain a perspective of their issues as whole so not to place the focus on one individual. Joining is an empathetic approach in helping families explain and break down their individual stories without uncomfortable challenge or unnecessary confrontation (Nichols, 2013). It is important to note that family dysfunction that often leads to divorce is not attributed to one individual, but the entire family system. In structural family therapy, part of dealing with the issue of divorce in the family is to focus on the interactions between all the family members both positive and negative. Through these interactions the therapist can discover where the conflicts arise, which will in turn help the therapist understand how these negative interaction affect the family. Family therapy in these cases allows for repair of long-standing interactional patterns in which divorce is just one of a series of ongoing transactions that are disruptive to the child’s development (Kaplan, 1977, p.75). The structural family therapist often has the family play out these family interactions via enactments so that he can get a firsthand look at maladaptive patterns, roles, and
Society seems to have many different opinions when it comes to relationships and families and what is ideal. The ideal family may not exist anymore. We now have in our society families that are complete that do not necessarily contain the traditional material. The traditional family, as society would see it; usually consist of a married, mother and father and usually children. Moms are supposed to stay at home while dads work the forty-hour a week job. However, in our 2003 world, families exist in a lot of non-traditional ways. A lot of families now consist of single parent families, or same sex parents and their children, or even couples that are unmarried but live together. And even now, if a family contains what society sees as traditional as far as having a mom, dad, and kids, other aspects are not traditional anymore. Women now have more opportunity in the workplace than they have ever had, therefore, many moms are career moms and dads are sometimes staying at home. Years ago, these types of families were given labels for being dysfunctional or abnormal, however, this label is not holding up as well as it did years ago. There are many non-traditional families that are raising children in a loving, nurturing home with a substantial amount of quality love. Quality is the key in any relationship between anyone. Society is finding out that it is not the traditional image that makes a loving family, but the quality of a relationship that people give to each other is what really makes a family. In the essay "The Myth of the "Normal" Family", written by Lousie B. Silverstein and Carl F. Auerbach, they make references to the cultural idea of what a "normal" family should be and what i...
Sobolewski, J.M., & Amato, P.R. (2007). Parents’ discord and divorce, parent-child relationships and subjective well-being in early adulthood: is feeing close to two parents always better than feeling close to one? Social Forces, 85(3), 1105-1124.
Family cohesion “is tolerance for intimacy, closeness-care giving involvement, connectedness, and communion”, and, family enmeshment “is a lack of tolerance for individuality, lack of separateness, intrusiveness, psychological control, and dependency"(Anderson & Sabatelli, 1992). This research will focus on the prevalence of family enmeshment in Saudi Arabia, a relatively under-research area The Kingdom of Saudi Arabia (KSA) (Sami, 2010). Family style is an important area of research especially with regards to the psychological consequences of parents being too enmeshed. Enmeshed style of parenting can lead to lower self-esteem in children and bad eating habits, which can cause psychological and emotional distress in college student (braver, Burnberry, Green, & Rawson 1992; gilbert,
In 1978, Mark Knapp presented a "staircase" model of relationship stages (cite). Knapp 's (1978) model is based on the basic principles Altman and Taylor (1973) set forth in their Social Penetration Theory. As with the Social Penetration Theory, Knapp 's staircase model incorporated the communication features of disclosure and depth. Relationships are seen as developing and advancing through increased disclosure with increased depth. Once one person shares information with another, the view of the other person in relation to oneself is advanced to a new level (cite). I 'm going to provide an example of Knapp 's Stage Model of Relationship Escalation and De-escalation by using the marriage between my ex-husband and me. This model explains
It is said that people become codependent by living in families with rules that can hurt development in some way or another. Some codependents come from families that have alcohol problems or secrets within the family. If a parent does not allow his child to talk about his problems, express himself, or just play, the child can become codependent. Some parents expect so much of their child that if he does not meet their expectations, the he becomes a failure. These rules do not allow the child to think freely or develop his own self-esteem. No one chooses to be codependent, yet he is born into a family in which codependency is a normal way of life. A healthy family shows love, acceptance, safety, the need to express yourself, guidance, support, encouragement, and privacy. When given this environment, children are able to grow and develop into happy, confident, responsible adults. Unhealthy families are those that do not relate to each other positively. Codependency starts with alcohol abusive parents who pay no attention to their children's growth. They do not allow the children to express how they feel, and the children are constantly cleaning up after and taking care of their parents. As long as they please their parents, the children feel happy. Serious family problems can cause confusion. Everyone has mixed feelings, which causes them to lose confidence in the family or themselves. As fear, guilt, blame, and low self-esteem take hold, codependency begins.
One of the biggest aspects of human nature is the desire for relationship. Humans crave a sense of belonging which is undoubtedly an evolutionary advantage given to us by our ancestors that traveled in packs. The more relationships they instinctively formed, the more likely they were to survive and pass of those genes. The more complex humans have become over the years corresponds to the difference in complexity that their relationships have undergone. Because humans will never stop evolving in their technologically advanced world, it is logical to think that relationships won’t either. Complex is better, right? The truth is that biological instincts such as craving belonging were introduced for survival. When relationships occur in an environments in which the members aren’t just trying to survive, deterioration becomes a possibility. Brave New World by Aldous Huxley suggests that the more society progresses, the more relationships deteriorate.
Creating my personal genogram was a valuable experience for me. By mapping out my family’s structure, and considering the dynamics of the relationships therein, I am able to see how each member of my immediate family took on specific roles and that addictions are present on both sides of my family. My paternal grandmother, Ginny, was an alcoholic and passed this trait to my father. My mother demonstrated signs of substance abuse through smoking and drinking, and both parents passed these to my sister and me: Whitney struggled with various addictions, the most severe of which was methamphetamine and I have had an ongoing struggle with smoking and past experiences with anorexia.
While looking at Erikson’s psychosocial theory, I can address this client multiple issues with the stages intimacy vs isolation and generativity vs stagnation. Since he is newly divorced, it can be stated that during young adulthood his intimacy issues began with his wife, which drove to the isolation feelings and divorce. He now has to begin
According to Mental Health Professional Michelle Blessing, “there is no right or wrong answers when it comes to what is the best type of family structure. As long as a family is filled with love and support for one another, it tends to be successful and thrive. Families need to do what is best for each other and themselves, and that can be achieved in almost any unit” (Blessing). Families offer companionship, security, and a measure of protection against an often uncaring world, but family structure has undergone significant changes since World War II. Variations in family structure are now plentiful -- and yet often still quite successful. Whatever the family situation, whatever the familial structure, it will have tremendous and unique influence upon the child’s happiness, development, and future.