Learning from Mother in The Joy Luck Club "I have already experienced the worst. After this, there is no worst possible thing" (Amy Tan 121). Throughout The Joy Luck Club, Amy Tan tells stories of how mothers use the misfortunes in their lives, to try to teach their daughters about life. Many of the mothers had bad experiences in their pasts and do not want to see their daughters live through the same types of problems. They try to make their daughters' lives as easy and problem free as possible.
Relationship goes the wrong way. In your mind with all the different thoughts that you have going thru all at once, ever think about the relationship that you have with your mother? Well some people end up losing their relationship with their mom just over something really small or even being forced to do something that they did not want to do in the first place. Well there a story named “Two kinds” by Amy Tan. This story is about a young girl named Jing- mei along with a mom that wanted her to be the best she can be and not be the type of child that stays home and has to talent.
In the beginning, both the narrator and her mother had a delightful time spending time together, trying to figure out the narrator’s talent. Although the narrator soon began to dislike all the test and activities her mother would put her through. After failing each of the tests she was given she would see the disappointment on her mother’s face and “something inside me began to die” (Tan, 96). While the narrator refused her mother by saying that she was not a genius her mother replied by saying “who ask you to be genius? Only ask you be your best.
Although traditional motherhood is generally depicted as a loving and selfless experience in which a mother guides her daughter through life, Tillie Olsen suggests that conventional motherhood shames women for not living up to its unrealistic expectations and it is a method to suppress women. The patriarchy misrepresents traditional motherhood as a loving and selfless experience in which a mother adores her child unconditionally and teaches her daughter important values. The story begins with a phone conversation between the mother and another character, possibly a counselor, social worker or teacher of her daughter. The teacher or counselor talks on the phone with the mother and assumes that “because [she is] her mother [she has] the key” to her daughter and can understand her completely (Olsen 292). This excerpt demonstrates the unrealistic expectations for mothers that the patriarchy has instilled throughout society.
In the story Two Kinds by Amy Tan, Jing Mei’s mother’s obsession with making Jing Mei a prodigy is the cause of destruction in their relationship but, once Jing Mei begins to understand her mother’s reasoning, the enabler for their reconciliation. For instance, Jing Mei struggles with trying to play the role of the... ... middle of paper ... ... she also believes Emily turned out well, because she is not helpless and she can find her way. Emily’s mother realizes she has no control over the circumstances, now only the ability to respond to them and to learn from the experiences. This allows a reconciling process to occur within her, because although she was not able to raise Emily like she wanted to, she did the best she could under the circumstances. Works Cited Schilb, John.
Parental Control vs. Guidance in Joy Luck Club The novel, "Joy Luck Club," by Amy Tan describes the struggle between a dominate mother who tries to protect her daughter, Ni kan, from the devastating losses that she suffered by convincing her that she might become anyone she wants to be. Ni kan resents her mother's control and wishes only to be herself. The author clearly illustrates in this novel that parents cannot control their children's lives; they can only guide them in the right direction and let them make their own decisions. First of all, Amy Tan shows that Ni kan's mother attempted to dominate and control her daughter's life.
However some women are unable to have strong relationships with their mothers, this can be seen in then novel The Kitchen God's Wife by Amy Tan. Unfortunately Jiang Weili wasn't able to have a powerful relationship with her mother. Because of her mothers absence Jiang Weili wasn't able to find her own identity and isn't able to have a productive relationship with her daughter. Pearl feels alienated from her mother however, Jiang Weili only believes she is doing the best for her daughter. Pearl and Winnie prove that the mother daughter relationship is essential for a girl to become a woman.
The mothers constantly try to instill Chinese teachings, morals, and ways to their daughters but their daughters turn a deaf ear and disregard their mothers’ preaching. The Chinese mothers understand the special unbreakable and in “[their] bones”, yet the daughters lack this understanding causing caustic relationships between mother, daughter, and culture (Tan 27). Amy Tan’s style of using flashbacks reveals the indestructible link not only mother and daughter, but also between person and culture. The American daughters often felt uncomfortable with their own customs and culture and want nothing to do with anything Chinese. Jing-Mei Woo’s mother, Suyuan Woo, died of an aneurism.
Despite her mother’s wishes, Jackson was anything but a beautiful fool. The constant struggle against her mother’s negative feedback towards the person she wanted Jackson to be, influenced the view she had about women being capable to do more with their lives. Most of the characters in Jackson’s stories are, not surprisingly, women. It's been argued that Jackson created women characters... ... middle of paper ... ...nheimer, Judy. "Chapter 1."
I won’t be what I’m not” (Tan 477). Jing-mei started to believe that she was fated to be mediocre, to never be extraordinary. She convinced herself that she could only be herself, which, for sure, wasn’t a prodigy. Jing-mei became very determined, but towards the wrong goal, refusing to try. She half-heartedly participated in her mother’s tests, and when she started to play piano, found a loophole and never tried hard enough.