The things you may not have now you have the ability to work for. Learn and love your strengths because you were given them for a reason. Value them and be sure to put them to good use. Don’t hold grudges; they do nothing but take your happiness away when you see that person. Have you ever heard the saying, “fool me once shame on you, but fool me twice shame on me?” Think about that when forgiving people for their mistakes because nobody is perfect.
According to “Happiness is a Glass Half Empty”, the relentless effort to feel happy or to achieve certain goals is what makes us unhappy. “It is our constant quest to eliminate or to ignore the negative- insecurity, uncertainty, failure, sadness that causes us to feel insecure, anxious or unhappy in the first place” (2). Being in a constantly optimistic state of mind, not embracing the negative aspects of life, will cause you to be unhappy. By embracing the traditionally negative emotions, it may actually make you happier than trying to avoid or hide them with your positive emotions. Our negative emotions are just as valuable to our happiness as our positive ones if they are fully embraced.
By acting selfless we can help others and contribute to society, with the same feeling. Tim O Keefe’s reading was also interesting to read as he was very critical of Epicurus’ philosophy and saw it as unethical. He made a valid point when explaining that if the belief of a mental pleasure is greater than physical pleasures and a lack of pain, that in itself is a kind of pleasure. I disagree even more due to the Cyrenaics view that not all mental pleasure depend on bodily ones. for example individuals can experience happiness and joy in conversations and ambitions The week 3 material on the Stoic ethics raised the issue about righteous and wicked people and whether or not they experience happiness.
The very concept of a hurt celebrity is a joke about as moving for the average person as the sadness of a tyrant. To sum up, fame really just means you get noticed a great deal, not that you get understood, appreciated or loved. At an individual level, the only mature strategy is to give up on fame. The aim that lay behind the desire for remains important; one does still want to be appreciated and understood. But the wise person accepts that celebrity does not actually provide these things.
It allows people to see “the best” in their partner. Holding such positive illusions helps make a relationship work. Self deception helps couples cope with life’s problems and helps romantic partners get along better. The downside of self-deception is that it can prevent us from dealing with important issues. This is where it can create more harm than good because it leads people to overlook serious problems which can be detrimental to one’s emotional, mental or physical health (e.g., infidelity, abuse, inconsiderate behavior, a lack of love, and so on).
The paradoxical connection between suffering and happiness is one that leaves room for various interpretations of the relationship. To suffer is to experience a feeling contrary to happiness, but one must suffer in order to know what happiness truly is. Suffering allows people to develop certain qualities that will ultimately make them happier. People who have suffered have been subjected to circumstances that are otherwise unfathomable, such as: witnessing the stark contrast between pleasure and pain, and facing circumstances that they cannot simply escape from, both of which allow them to develop qualities that make them happier in the long run. Happiness and general pleasure inducing experiences alone cannot make one happy.
This bias leads us to believe that we are immune to the influences that affect the rest of humanity. In the self-serving bias, our successes are attributed to internal causes (effort or ability), while our failures are attributed to external factors (bad luck). Time and again, experimenters have found that people readily accept credit when told they have succeeded, yet attribute failure to such external factors as bad luck or the problem's inherent "impossibility." Imagine getting a promotion. Most of us will feel that this success is due to hard work, intelligence, dedication, and similar internal factors.
The ease into which people fall into the modern trends is astonishing and should be alarming. One in particular that is rather disturbing to analyze is the ideas of beauty that are perceived by some people. Beauty can be interpreted in many ways and some say “it’s in the eye of the beholder”. Reality is that many only see beauty as a difficult or impossible vision and go to extremes to achieve the unachievable. Beauty is a toxin for lost teens or gullible adults; it tricks them into changing their own characteristics to try to be attractive.
This is the compensation of humility, acceptance of others and yourself which motivates you to succeed knowing the standing of lower individuals, appreciating more what you have achieved. On the other hand, greediness causes you to focus on self-indulgence and want to please those around you in a negative form. You’d rather be known to many for a short period of time, psychologist call this phenomena “approval addiction” where you choose to be mediocre in order to be accepted (Siebold par 10). You prefer to lower your expectations and conform to the crowd, instead of appreciating and achieving great feats. You allow society to manipulate your actions, and dictate what you say, whereas having humility allows you to grow from your faults.
Most people have these feelings or opinions without even realising it. Pride is a feeling of satisfaction that you have done well, however, it can also mean that you feel better than others. Pride can be linked to vanity, which can be described as a feeling of excessive pride regarding aspects of yourself, for example, your looks or abilities. Prejudice is an unfair dislike of another person because of your opinions about an aspect of their lives, such as their religion or race. Mary Bennet gives this definition of vanity within the novel.