American Journalist, Helen Rowland said, “ When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn’t a sign that they don’t understand each other, but a sign that they have, at last, begun to” (1). Divorce means the ending of a marriage by legal separation, thus, a couple that were once bonded together have now separated for opposing reasons. Divorce has hurt and destroyed many families across the world and can cause a lot of negativity. Teens often do not know how to deal with the fact that their family is no longer whole and they will transition into a depression. Teens may experience emotional damage by seeing the two most important people in their lives fight constantly.
In general all marriages go through bleak times making one partner often think about solace through divorce. Instead of working through the problems in a healthy manner, divorce through the no fault laws are quickly utilized to provide escape. The breakdown of a family can have many repercussions on the individual members with the least involvement. The children involved in a divorce are often times the most impacted victims of a divorce. Children with divorced parents are often left feeling neglected by the parent that has chosen to move out, unloved, and often times burdened with feelings of guilt.
Their cheerful and always happy attitude seems to disappear overnight. Children feel as if the divorce is in some way their fault and they can often times be upset about it. Parents should try for the sake of their children to stay together, but when all else fails divorce should be considered. Working together and not letting their children see their unhappiness is one way that adults can help ease the pain. The lives of children is changed drastically after the divorce of their parents.
The financial aspect of a divorce is also major. “Take a look at what all comes along with divorce: you have the cost of the lawyer, the cost of the divorce itself, if a couple has children then the parent without custody has to pay child support, the couple has to divide their a... ... middle of paper ... ...he/she is growing up and his/her parents argue about how raise one during the adolescent stage of his/her life. With that being said, many kids may have suicidal thoughts when his/her parents get a divorce, because of all the emotional distress and confusion that a divorce causes. Divorce is a very sad process that hurts everyone. So before going into marriage a couple needs to make sure they do a few things.
The relationship between the child and the parent take a huge impact. Children in divorced families receive less emotional support, financial assistance, and practical help from their parents. Divorce, makes it harder for a child to trust their parents. Therapist Steven Earll states “For a child, divorce shatters this basic safety and belief concerning the parents’ ability to care for them and to make decisions that truly consider their well-being.” During the first year following the divorce, mothers tend to become less affectionate with their children. They often lack the communication that they once had with their child.
Often enough the divorce causes children to feel displaced and also to have feelings that their world is coming to an end. These children tend to grow into adults with either extreme emotional detachment and self-esteem issues or they will have strong family values and try to prevent the cycle from repeating itself but the majority of these children grow up suffering from the divorce. Children of divorced parents often enough feel as though the divorce is their fault and become depressed and distant while suffering from low self-esteem since they think that they are the reason their parents split. Many children of divorced parents typically grow up with behavior problems and poor self-images as though they cannot be loved or are not worthy of being loved since their parents divorced, there is the feeling of not being loved at all. The children also suffer because they are now separated from one parent and no longer have both parents in the home.
Since divorce is an ongoing condition and has been increasing lately, people have begun to look at it as a pathetic thing and normal. Regardless of the causes, no one wins in divorce because it impacts negatively in many ways. Therefore, divorce mostly negatively affects the children, wife, and husband in a family. One of the earliest noticeable negative effects of divorce is on children’s academic life. They are the ones who are strongly affected, because they might think it is their fault because of their parent’s divorce.
When divorce will affect a child the most is when they are in a serious relationship, they will start to think that it will fail or they will eventually separate. The children will second guess getting married and start to fear the thought of marriage. This is a social issue because their are more people getting divorced, which could cause the marriage rate to go down due to children from divorced parents having issues with marriage. Divorce can cause a weakness in the parent-children relationship. It will cause the children to not be as close to their parents as they once were, because they are angry at their parents for getting the divorce.
Children suffer from the separation of their parents and their adulthood may be affected. The divorce can be very stressful, sad, and confusing for kids. Since many years ago, many people have argued that if p... ... middle of paper ... ...eir lives. Their parents’ divorce will always have lifelong terms effects on their daily lives. Divorce may be always considered a bad behavior that may bring different consequences to the life of their children.
The problems faced within a couple not only affects the two involved in the fight, but also their children’s lives in a negatively manner. Marriage is not viewed as highly in today’s society as years before due to the amount of marriages not lasting and ending in a divorce. Divorce is common today because of couple’s uneasiness to try and work things out by going to couples therapy together or listening to each other. Children are affected emotionally by their parent’s decision of divorce in their relationships with their friends, family and teachers. Parents try to do as much as possible to avoid their children asking about divorce.