The Effects of Divorce
Divorce is one of those things that are mainly mentioned by people who haven't gone through the experience. Those who have are the ones who don't ever want to talk about it. There is a promise that each individual of a marriage makes that basically y says that they will be faithful, caring, and will stay together until death do they part. Lately this promise has been broken more than half of the time. A divorce not only affects the husband and wife but also the children of the mairiage. There are even times that the result of a traumatic divorce causes children to have mental breakdowns and even severe stress related health problems. When a couple sits down and decide to get married they should realize that getting married is a large step in life and should not be taken lightly. They should anticipate disagreements and should realize that divorce is not the only way out. If two individuals cannot realize this then they have no business getting married in the first place. Some people get married just because they have had a child. This is where there are a lot of misunderstandings. Most think that you are obligated to marry if you have a child. A person does not have to be compatible wit the other to merely have sex with them therefore it should be assumed that the same goes with marriage. Anyone can have sex and not care about the other person because you don't have to live and die with every person you have sex with. You should on the other hand live and die with the person you marry. When a couple thinks they have no choice to to get married they should really think it over because it could be worse for the child to go through a bad divorce later don the road then for them to have parents that were never married in the first place. If I were to ever be responsible for a child out of wedlock I would definitely think it over before I ran in and got married right away. I have had a similar experience with a past girlfriend who said she was pregnant and said it was mine. When the truth
Along with these feelings of rejection, the spouse who wanted to stay married also often feels betrayed. Their partner vowed to love and honor them forever, and to stand by them in sickness and in health, and to devote their lives to them. With divorce, all of that is taken away. Those promises of love, fidelity, and companionship are broken, by the choice of the spouse pursuing the divorce. In contrast, when d...
Marriage is a commitment that seems to be getting harder to keep. The social standards placed on an individual by society and influenced by the media inevitably lead some to consider divorce as a “quick-fix” option. “Have it your way” has become a motto in the United States. It has become a country without any consideration of the psychological effects of marriage and divorce. The overwhelmingly high divorce rate is caused by a lack of moral beliefs and marital expectations.
Children of divorce have a different experience during the holidays, birthdays, and other family events. The process of parental separation alone can pay a toll on a child’s psychological health. Family events may make things awkward around the parents, but that doesn’t even compare to the things children of divorce will have to deal with, even into their adult lives. Constance Matthienssen, author and mother of three, shares in her article “Harry Potter and Divorce Among the Muggles” how her divorce affected her children (“Harry Potter”). Many parents don’t think about a divorce will affect their young children as they grow older, but divorce affects children even into their adult lives. Children of divorce grow to develop negative relationships with their parents, they tend to have poor self-esteem, and they may even find themselves unable to maintain an intimate relationship in their adulthood. Divorce affects every child differently, but it can cause many social issues into their adult lives.
According to Alan E. Kazdin, PhD(2000) in his book”Encyclopedia of Psychology: 8 Volume Set,” ”Currently in the United States, about 40% of the first marriages end in divorce. In addition more than half of all divorces involve children under the age of eighteen”( Kazdin,364). Some people believe that parents tend to get a divorce for one reason or another and not for disbelieve that people just can 't get along. However in the end divorce is just a stressful event. Consequently, divorce can have an important and life changing impact on the well-being and development of children. A parent can diminish the negative impact of a divorce by supporting and reassuring their children, before, during and after the separation. However most separated parents tend to pull apart from their childs once going through a divorce. Leading to lack of support for those childs.Divorce settlement process is inequitable and should be determined on a case-by-case basis,rather than by general formulas. The change I am seeking is that if the second parent(not the one that has custody) does not pay the child support or has over $2,000 in overdue payments then they should not be allowed to get the child for their time until they get caught up in payments.
Divorce is becoming a worldwide phenomenon, significantly affecting children’s well-being. It radically changes their future causing detrimental effects. According to (Julio Cáceres-Delpiano and Eugenio Giolito, 2008) nearly 50% of marriages end with divorce. 90% of children who lived in the USA in the 1960s stayed with their own biological parents, whereas today it makes up only 40% (Hetherington, E. Mavis, and Margaret Stanley-Hagan, 1999). Such an unfavorable problem has been increasing, because in 1969, the legislation of California State changed the divorce laws, where spouses could leave without providing causes (Child Study Center, 2001). This resolution was accepted by the other states and later, the number of divorced people has been steadily growing. Such a typical situation is common for most countries in the world, which negatively affects children’s individuality. However, remarkably little amount of people can conceive the impact of marital separation caused to offspring. (? passive) Many children after separation of parents are exposed to a number of changes in the future. They have to be getting used to a further living area, feelings and circumstances. Their response to divorce can vary and depends on age, gender and personal characteristics. This essay will show the effects of divorce on children under various aspects such as educational, psychological and social impact. In addition, it will contain data about the divorce rate in the US and present disparate reactions of children. It will also include adequate recommendations for parents as to how act to children after divorce, in order to minimize the adverse effect on children.
Divorce. How can that one word bring up so much emotion in us? That simple word to some may bring feelings of shame and disgust, while to others it can represent a fresh start and safety from a bad situation. While it would be easy to look at this topic and simply say that it is right or wrong all across the board, it feels inadequate. Every divorce is unique and specific to those within that relationships and could be caused by an array of reasons, so to offer a blanket statement felt insufficient. After looking at this topic in depth and seeing the effect that it can have on both those in the relationship, and those around the, I was able to arrive at a conclusion. Divorce should never be a decision that is made rashly or out of convenience,
Divorce is a process that many people in America go through. The divorce rate continues to escalate over the years. Divorce is a serious problem, it is a gradual process that ultimately results in families breaking up. There are various factors in which a marriage can fail and end up in divorce. Some skip the step of trying to reconcile things and make it work. In some cases it is easy for a divorce to take place. For instance, in cases where both parties are in agreement and have no children it is easier to handle a divorce. But in the cases where children are present, what happens to the kids? Both parents are at each others throats or one is devastated from the rejection, what role does the child play? It is a hard thing to cope with as an adult imagine as a little one or even a teenager, it affects them in more ways than anyone can imagine. It can affect them both physically and emotionally. The effects of divorce are immense, it permanently weakens the bond or relationship between a child and his parents. Can lead to them reaching out or looking to others for attention, causing poor attitudes, low self esteem, dropping grades, loss of virginity, use of drugs and or weapons, or in some cases mutilation of the body. There are various effects that children have to deal with that maybe extremely hard to cope with. One parent may say one thing yet the other disagrees and makes it impossible for the child to have a stable relationship with both of them. Children need both biological parents at their side to be guardians and counselors in their lives, to be examples of what they need to do to become outstanding citizens in our community.
Academic research has shown that 41% of all marriages end before their 30th year of marriage (Battams, 2013). Many studies dispute the fact that divorces only effects children psychologically, but this paper will focus on other important factors including emotional and behavioural effects along with short and long term effects a parental divorce will have on children. The purpose of this paper is to present the various types of ways that children cope with the stress and depression of a divorce. Of these various ways in which children cope with the stress of divorce, their are coping strategies that are proven to treat children effected by a divorce.
People think divorce is always an option so it’s what they choose to do. A lot of couples do not focus on their relationship and get help, they would rather split and go their separate ways. This subject has widen my opinions on cohabitating and I believe it isn’t for everyone. Different people have different ways of living and it can be challenging living with another person. I, however, am a person that accepts change and looks at the positive things. I work on relationships until there is no hope. When I get married and discover troubles in the marriage, I would do my best to work on our relationship. Divorce is something I don’t want to go through, it is a difficult process and can indefinitely ruin the relationship. All in all, I will keep this research in the back of my mind. It is a very interesting topic to study about and everyone should be informed about it. It can be troubling when a person is not aware that cohabitating before marriage can ruin the relationship or later marriage. I hope that this research has been an eye-opener for the reader as well. I hope that in my future, I do not become the negative statistic of premarital cohabitation. It is not something I see in my future ahead of me, but anything can happen. In today’s society, cohabitation is a common thing for couples and maybe the statistics will change with time. The negative impacts will hopefully in turn disappear and nothing but good will come out of
In some cases, however, like in the Scott Peterson case, we can see that there’s this thing about getting away from responsibility (I.e., fatherhood) and running off with somebody else. Sometimes we can’t even expect that homicide would actually occur to such a “happy” marriage, because they appear to be quite normal. Regarding this, there was a time when I had this conversation with a friend about marriage and she just said, “Sometimes I pity those who get married, because I see most of them just stay in the marriage because of commitment but never with love.” It’s such an irony, but I admit it’s true for some cases, since we see them happen in real life now. I’m not saying all marriages or relationships would end up that way, but we never know what’s going to happen, because anything’s possible.
In the world we live in today, divorce has unfortunately become a normal thing in our lives. Many married couples are getting divorced for many reasons; problems in the marriage, either a spouse having an affair, a loss of feelings, and many other types of complications. Many divorces involve children who are young and due to their age do not understand what is really going on. We all know someone who has dealt with divorce. Children are the ones who are typically affected the most by the divorce and they will have to learn to cope with their parent’s divorce at such a young age, affecting them in positive or negative ways.
Divorce has a negative effect on the psychological and social aspects of our children, which may appear instantly or not come to the surface for years. This is why I think that divorce should only be a last resort and not rushed into even by couples with the most troubled marriages. The only acceptable reason for someone rushing into divorce is if they or their children are in danger. I believe that marriage is a commitment not to be taken lightly and disregarded at the first bump in the road especially when there are children involved. Far too many people do not want to take responsibility for their actions and choices; for example, people use abortion as birth control and couples’ jumping in and out of marriages like it’s a trial and error institution. Marriage is no longer taken seriously; commitment and monogamy are no longer an essential ingredient. For most couples today, it’s not even considered as a part of marriage. The negative effects that divorce has on children should be the number one consideration when a couple hits that hard time in their relationship.
Someone has said that marriage is like fortress besieged: people who are in it want to come out whereas people outside of it eager to go in. This word perfectly demonstrates how people currently think of marriage. It gives some benefits such as a partner who support you all the time. However, once you get married, you should take more responsibility than you alone such as taking care of your spouse unconditionally. Thus, many people doubt whether they should get married or not. In my opinion, marriage is a good choice for people who are ready.
What troubles me with marriage/divorce issues is that one is dealt with while the other lies on the floor. Today, we discuss marriage, and we discuss divorce, but never both at the same time. Should we push premarital counseling, or should we make divorce harder? Why must we discuss one or the other and not both?
Marriage is called matrimony or “wed lock” ,is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes right and obligations between their children and between them. Why do people get married? They get married because they love each other, they get married because they see it looks happy with someone, they get married because they parents want him/her to get married, they get married because the properties the might get from their parents, they get married because they having a children gives more joy to their lives, they get married because the girl accidentally got pregnant, they get married because they just want, they get married because it is in tradition that man and woman should get married to get their