Parents should stay in marriage instead of divorce for the sake of the children. What responsibilities do parents have in divorce? Parents have many responsibilities in divorce such as a responsibility to their children, responsibility in fixing conflict, and responsibility in monitoring their children. According to Dr. Karen Ruskin “Children should be considered in the decision as to whether to stay together or not stay together.” (Ruskin). Parents have a responsibility in fixing conflict with their children; there are many ways to this, but two main ones are talking to the children and getting professional help.
This aim of this study is to examine whether people with divorced parents, have a lower relationship satisfaction with their partners compared to people whose parents are not divorced. Relationship satisfaction is the degree to which a person is content with their partner in regards to their intimate relationship (frequency of conflict, and intimacy) (Funk & Rogge, 2007) The importance of understanding relationship satisfaction allows us to get a greater understanding of the true effect that parental divorce has on their children’s future intimate relationships. If this is indeed the case, then we may be able to counteract this growing problem in the world by working on ways to boost relationship satisfaction of those who come from divorced families. Those children from divorced families, would then be able to better understand how parental divorce may affect their future relationships and work on ways to diminish those effects. The independent variable in this case would be the parental divorce, while the dependent variable would be their relationship
In addition to assisting children through the trauma of divorce and educating their parents, the reduction in instances of the parents returning to court and prolonging the divorce proceedings, or relitigation as it is termed in the research, is viewed as an overall benefit from the programs (Brewster, K., Beck, C. A., Anderson, E. R., & Benjamin, G. H., 2011). The effects of divorce on children can being immediately detrimental, as well as have long-term effects on their health and socialization. The effects of parental conflict on children can result in anxiety, depression, and disruptive behavior; as adults they are more apt to have higher rates of divorce and maladjustment in their own adult relationships. While adjusting to shifts in the family institution, children are at risk for experiencing increased problems in school, peer relationships, and rebelling against authority. Upon learning of a separation or impending divorce, children tend to suffer more so from the consequences of parental animosity and hostilities than they do from the divorce (Brewster et al., 2011).
Erikson's theory of personality development can help calculate which and how stages are affected when parents get divorce. Stages 3, 4, 5 and 6 seem to be the most affected by the divorce because the main conflicts the child is confronting at the time are necessary to go through them calmly for a healthy development. Stage 3 of Erickson's theory of personality development lasts from 3 to 6 years of age and it is the stage in which the child becomes aware of their independence and that they do not always have to do what their parents say. It is called Initiative versus guilt because they take the initiative to do as they please and at the same time feel guilty that they do not obey the rules given to them. The conflicting question during this age is "am I good or am I bad?".
Seeing the parents argue and demean each other set up a rocky foundation for future relationship basis. These families also tend to start through cohabitation or premarital childbearing whereas continually married families start through more traditional means. However, Kelly and Emery both discuss how there are protective factors that can benefit these families and may moderate the risks associated with divorce of individual children. They do discuss however, protective factors that reduce the risk for children of divorce. One of... ... middle of paper ... ... to see the common patterns among children and families.
Sometimes divorce can be the best thing for the couple as well as the child. If a marriage is only there for the child then that could affect them just as much as a divorce (65). The outcome on how serious the effects are on a child after divorce can vary. It is all revolved on how the parents handle the divorce; what decisions and choices they chose to make will change the way the child is affected. When it comes down to it, “you can choose to see your family as rearranged, or you can choose to see it as broken” (62).
The results of the study show that there is a indirect effect of parental divorce on children and their romantic relationships, especially concerning father-daughter relationships. In families where the parents are still together, relationships with the father were significantly related to satisfaction in the children’s romantic relationships. Now, we will look at the different effects of parental divorce and marital conflict on young adult romantic
One solution that could possibly help is that if a married couple files for divorce and they have children it should be required to go to family counseling to try to fix things. This would help people in the film who had gotten a divorce. Maybe there was a possibility that some of them could have worked their marriages out if they would have spent the time to go to counseling and figure out what the problems were. The ones that had children should have been thinking about how the divorce was going to affect not only them but their children too. One article states “children of parents who remain married generally enjoy greater emotional, social, and economic advantages than children with divorced or never-married parents”(McGuinness & Teena, 2006).
It has been suggested that, because older children have developed cognitive maturity, parents tend to rely on their adolescent offspring to provide support and advice, resulting in increased pressures and responsibilities (Wright & Maxwell, 1991). It is important to examine the impact of divorce and its relational outcomes to further understand and prevent additional complications within the family unit. Therefor the purpose in this review of literature is to illuminate the underlying factors of divorce that strain the relations between the separated parents and their adolescent children. Feeling Caught as a Mediator As satisfaction within a marriage deteriorates, complications between the couple influence the child’s satisfaction within the family unit. Over time, children learn how to mediate arguments between their adult parents in order to seek a communicative agreement.
With the changes that occur from dissolution, the dramatic increase of the divorce rate and the fact ... ... middle of paper ... ...en and to second be there for their kids. Support can be a huge factor in helping a child. It is important for families to take all the facts discussed into consideration when handling conflict and going through divorce. By no means does this mean that two people should not have conflict or should not get a divorce, instead it means that we need to realize that divorce affects all members and those affects vary. If a child, no matter what the age, is having a difficulty with a divorce it is important that help is sought.