A homosexual couple can give much love to a child, sometimes even more than a heterosexual couple. (Subulica)” Adoption Statistics have argued that homosexuals raised children will find it more challenging to learn suitable gender roles in the absence of male and female roles. However, I think these children will not be entirely withdrawn of models from the opposite sex to their parents'. They will still have contact with grandparents, teachers, and friends. If a homosexual family can give the same love that, a heterosexual family can give to a child then why not let them adopt and go through the same process that a regular family will go through.
People say it is not right, and that it is unnatural, which I feel they think that they have to be twice as “perfect” as the heterosexual parents are. In this paper I plan to discuss the issues that Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgendered Queer/Questioning (LGBTQ) families go through while trying to start a family of their own. The issues will range from adoption and the issues faced in trying to adopt a child, to custody battles and how sexual orientation could play a role in the “well-being” of a child, to how being brought up by a LGBTQ headed home could affect, if in any way, a child’s development. Society’s Effects on Gay Parenting As a LGBTQ headed family the pressures of society can weigh heavy on the way you raise your child. In a recent article written by Lev (2010) it was found that the LGBTQ headed families often felt extreme pressure to be sure to raise a heterosexual child or children as well as a child or children who behave in such ways as a “normal” person of their gender would typically behave.
There are critics who feel that the stigma in our society toward gays being accepted is a conflict of issues. This form of relation may affect the welfare of a child’s upbringing. The prospect of a nontraditional upbringing in a same-sex partnership, or marriage ought to be a problem when raising children. Some feel that there is no real negative influence that this form of parenting has on a child. Politics has raised concern, but there is a limited amount of research in this area to corroborate this concern.
Many people are for homosexual adoption and many are not. Those who are against gay parenting, say it is demoralizing family values, and that a family who has two same sex parents or a homosexual single parent cannot possibly know what it means to be a family. As hypocritical as all people are, the criticizers of gay parenting do not realize that heterosexuals are currently struggling with... ... middle of paper ... ...sing Viewpoints. Rpt. From “Hey Conservatives—Gays are Better Parents than You.” AlterNet.org.
A person’s ability to be a good parent shouldn’t be based off of any of those things. It should be based on whether or not they will love, protect, support, care, or dedicate themselves to their child. If a person does these things, and then some, then why shouldn’t they be able to become parents? Homosexual parents may or may not cause gender role confusion in young children. Critics love to comment on how homosexuals cause their children to be confused about gender roles, but as long as their parents explain and teach them how society expects a certain gender to behave, then the child should be fine.
“Gay and Lesbian Adoptive and Foster Care Placements: Can They Meet the Needs of Waiting Children?” Social Work 46:2 (Apr., 2001): 147-57 JSTOR. Web. 1 February 2012. Meezan, William and Jonathan Rauch. “Gay Marriage, Same-Sex Parenting, and America’s Children.” The Future of Children 15.2 (Autumn, 2005): 97-115 JSTOR.
Denying these kids a home just because two individuals of the same sex love each other is injustice. Many people fear that children adopted by gay and lesbian couples do less well in life, these people are completely unfounded. The Independent website states that gay and les... ... middle of paper ... ...g and nurturing home, an ability that does not depend on whether a parent is gay or straight. The children of lesbian and gay parents grow up as happy, healthy, and well-adjusted as the children of heterosexual parents. If a person can love a child and can model themselves as a loving parent for the child, then they should be able to be a parent.
Children of gay and lesbian parents have the same potential as other children despite living in a nontraditional household, a growing trend in America. Same-sex parented families face many struggles such as discrimination based on sexual orientation of the parents. Individuals who do not support same-sex marriage or same-sex parenting believe that the child will not be raised in a stable household. Multiple studies have confirmed that a parent’s sexual orientation does not heavily influence a child’s performance in school or their social behavior. While some individuals believe a male “father” and female “mother” are needed in the household to provide the best environment to raise a child, there is no empirical evidence that shows children with same-sex parents are raised in an unhealthy environment.
If the child is from a previous heterosexual relationship then studies show that it is likely the homosexual parents will be denied all rights to see the child (Perrin 342). Finding an adoption agency can be exceedingly d... ... middle of paper ... ...d to live by the standards of a God they don’t believe in. Another concern is that if homosexual parents get another child of their same gender that the child will be sexually abused but same sex parents view their children in the same way heterosexual ones do. The risk is no higher than with heterosexual parents. Another argument is that the child will not develop right psychologically but to say this is saying that homosexuality is a mental disorder which according to the DSM- V it is not (Reekers 343).
In today’s society, family structure has changed dramatically from the traditional nuclear family to the unconventional, such as single parenting or same sex families. Over the years, many individuals questioned whether or not a parent’s sexual orientation affected their child’s sexual preference. There is significant research that has shown that children with lesbian parents do not differ from children with heterosexual parents. Many individuals stated that it is the value of the parent’s relationship with the child and not the parent’s sexual orientation that affects the child’s development. Contrary to the popular belief, children raised by lesbian parents are not more likely to become gay than children who are raised by heterosexual parents.