The Cheating Hearts of Men
In writing this paper, I am setting out to answer a question that has been plaguing women for many years. Why do men cheat on us? Is it something us women do that causes it? Is it something they are taught is ok somewhere along the way? Does it have to do with the fact that their genitalia are on the outside? Or is there no logical explanation in the universe for it? (I’m leaning towards the last one, but hey, that’s just me.) Men always seem to have an explanation for their behavior, or more likely, an excuse. These excuses have been known to range from blaming the woman they are cheating on to trying to get back at her for something. Having more than just some personal experience with being cheated on, I’m curious to find out what causes this relationship phenomenon. More importantly, is it me? I know I have several friends who might also stand to benefit from my “research”, and hopefully by the end of this we’ll all have some answers.
To start my research, I had to look no further than in the mirror. My ex-boyfriend cheated on me several times. Whenever I would suspect him, he would always have these fabulous excuses as to what he was doing and who he was with. He was a very convincing person, and he knew that. When I finally found out the truth (from the other girl I might add, which by the way guys is the worst way to find out) his first reaction was to deny it, and then when he finally admitted to it he had the balls to blame it on me. He said it was my fault because I did not pay him enough attention and the other time was because I was spending too much time with one of my male friends and then the next excuse was because I already was accusing him of it so he might as well. He might as we...
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...s that I read in my search, I honestly do believe that there is just something inherent in the nature of the male species that causes them to be more likely to be unfaithful then women. I will end this paper with a little positive note for all the guys. Just to make you all feel a little better, I also learned in my research that nowadays women are almost as likely to cheat as men are.
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