One thing that is commonly stated about divorce is, once two married parents with children decide to divorce, that they are no longer a family (66). Although, they may not be living together in the same house it does not mean they are still not a family. No matter what, the parents will always be linked to each other because of the children. Is that not the definition of a family? In addition, assumptions are made that if people are married with kids that they are an ideal family This is not the case, if the marriage is not working out and is only causing problems amongst the parents and kids than that is not considered a family either.
Fella can make his way lot easier if he ain’t got a fambly” (ch. 26 p487). He is implying that he will no longer associate himself with the other Joads because they are weighing him down, keeping him from his own desires. When Rose of Sharon brings up that she “and Connie dn’t want to live in the county no more… a little worry came on Ma’s face” (Ch 16, p224). She did not like the thought of her daughter, although married with a baby on the way would ever leave her and her husband.
The Negative Effect of Divorce on Children Divorce has a negative effect on the psychological and social aspects of our children, which may appear instantly or not come to the surface for years. This is why I think that divorce should only be a last resort and not rushed into even by couples with the most troubled marriages. The only acceptable reason for someone rushing into divorce is if they or their children are in danger. I believe that marriage is a commitment not to be taken lightly and disregarded at the first bump in the road especially when there are children involved. Far too many people do not want to take responsibility for their actions and choices; for example, people use abortion as birth control and couples’ jumping in and out of marriages like it’s a trial and error institution.
When her husband came home she had to become a caretaker of him and a mediator between him and other people, especially the children. Now that her husband is back she is having difficulties keeping up with the new demands on her role as a wife. She wants to be there for him while he is struggling through his issues, but he does not want to comfort that she is offering. She also needs support from him for what she went through (Knobloch & Theiss, 2012). There was one scene when she was talking with her two daughters about their father and why he was behaving the way he was.
Should parents stay in marriage instead of divorce for the sake of the children? Yes, in my opinion the parents should stay in marriage for the sake of the children because they need to think about the damage they are doing to their children’s life. Overall the decision to divorce is the parent’s opinion based on the situation he/she is in, According to Helpguide.org “Conflict between parents-separated or not- can be very damaging for kids.” (Helpguide.org).
Marriage, a monogamous relationship where a man and women unite and are to hold on to their vows for rest of their lives, but when the marriage does not work people tend to do the most simple thing, divorce. There are a lot of reasons why couples decide to divorce and get the easy way out, yet they forget that their kids are to suffer the most from their decisions. The most common reason why couples divorce is lack of communication, which includes: lack of commitment and infidelity, lack of compromise leading to arguments, and unrealistic expectations from marriage at young age. Marriage is based off of trust and commitment but because of lack of communication couples tend to drift apart which results in lack of commitment and infidelity. Divorces that happen on the bases of lack of commitment are 73% while divorces that happen on the bases of infidelity are 55%.
The absence of the father on a full time level is detrimental to the healthy development of the children. In the case that the father is awarded custody of the children, the opposite applies as well. Studies have shown that a decay in custodial parent-child relationships may freque... ... middle of paper ... ...e to try and take the place of my Dad. But sometimes when she's dating one man a lot and he's nice to me, I can't help wishing he was my Dad. I told her that if she did ever want a husband, I have a list of choices and it would be nice if she could pick someone who could help me play with my computer.
He goes on to say “ I resent the fact that married people get lower taxes. But as long as there is this institution of marriage and heterosexuals have that privilege, then gay people should be able to do it too” (296). In particular, this quote reflects the idea that we are discouraged from critically examining our culture. People who occupy positions of privilege often do not noti... ... middle of paper ... ...ob after she gave birth to my younger brother. The reason she was transferred was because her manager thought she had to take care of my younger brother and would not be able to fulfill her travel duties which her job required a lot of.
From the point of view of Gallagher, marriage is to give a child a mother and a father and to raise them in the best environment possible. She argues that when men a women have a kid and are not married or stay married the family structure falls apart and then is when many bad things happen to more kids like: poverty, welfare dependence, child abuse, sexual abuse, physical illness, infant mortality, homicide, premature and promiscuous sexuality, juvenile delinquency, educational failure, conduct disorders and adult criminality and many others. This is also when children suffer and communities pay the consequences with crime. This is why she thinks that having a good family structure meaning one father and one mother is so important. She does not agree with same “sex-unions” because they can’t provide to a child the same things a heterosexual marriage would like a mother and a father.
One of those problems that most impacted me was the constant debate of whether taking their autistic child to a facility that provides food, room, and schooling. Her husband rejected the idea of taking their child to an unknown place completely and thought the idea was simply a selfish way to get rid of their child so they do not have to deal with raising him/her. Although this method is not his cup of tea, my mother’s friend actually thought it was a reasonable way to help them cope with the stress of raising a child with this kind of illness. Their situation made me think about all the other methods that a parent can take if they do not want to send their child to a facility and how these methods affect their stress levels. Therefore I want to explore how having a child with autism affects parent’s stress and if methods to treat autism helps reduce stress levels or any other psychological concerns parents come across.