Psychologist claim that if a friendship lasts seven years, that it will last a lifetime. On the other hand, the novel, A Tequila Worm claims that to be a true friend, a comadre, you have to learn to become a comadre. I’ve always struggled to make friends (comadres). Not because I’m mean, but because I’m extremely introverted when it comes to the idea of socializing and not many people I’ve encountered accept my personality. I was able to connect to this novel because I have been blessed with the chance despite my struggle to make friends to have one and honestly that’s all I need. I have a one best friend, my comadre, my partner in crime. From the experiences Nanas and I have shared for the past seventeen years, I was able to connect to the friendship (comadrismo) Sofia and Berta portrayed in the novel, The Tequila Worm by viola Canales. Nanas …show more content…
I did when accepting her best friend deciding to move away. Although, Sofia’s destination was much farther compared to mine from Nanas we felt the same way towards the transition. Berta’s reaction was similar to mine. Berta said, “why not stay and graduate here as the [valedictorian]” (Canales 44). Which is similar to what I told Nanas to convince her to stay. She then continued to explain that the courses were different that it would help get a head start on her career when she went to college. Berta didn’t seem to reason with Sofia as she explained the benefits and her reasons to leave, but when Nanas explained it to me I understood it was the best thing for her. I realized at that moment that this was a great opportunity for her and her family. She seemed just as scared as I was and I wanted to be there for her even if the distance would’ve caused our friendship to vanish with the years. I had to be there for her at the moment to thank her for all the years of our amazing friendship
“The Tequila Worm” by Viola Canales is a marvelous book that shows the story of a young girl named sofia;on her journey to explore life but to never forget where she came from her roots which means becoming a good comadre.
The 2006 Pura Belpré Award was presented to Viola Canales for her coming-of-age tale, The Tequila Worm. Set in a Mexican American community in MacAllen, Texas, this story is told from the point-of-view of Sofia, a young girl who has many adventures in her small community. Through the course of the text Sofia develops from a young child who plays dress-up games with her cousins, to a young woman who is willing to move three hundred miles away from school.
Her face was priceless; Her happiness was my source of happiness at the moment. I came home to my parents in the living room and decided to approach them with my decision, as I did to tell them I would like to apply to University of South Carolina - Upstate as well; they were just as happy as Kaylee. I have a very close-knit family and they were exited I would consider a school only 30 miles away from home. My mother said in Arabic “Just think, you can still come home to a good meal whenever you desire”. I know I would be homesick if I was too far away. As the youngest of 3 sons and the last one at home, my parents depend on me to help around the house and with some communication or translation as needed. My parents are Egyptian and I have always been there when they needed me. Also, George and Androu (2 older brothers) graduated from University of South Carolina – Columbia so I knew my parents would approve and support the decision of mine, just to gradually see me end up like my brothers as George is now a pharmacist, and Androu a computer engineer in California, both seemed to make it out
As Aristotle says, friendship is a virtue that men cannot choose to live without, whether it is Alcibiades, Socrates or any other human beings. And there are various types and category of friendship that can be used to define such social phenomenon in different society and periods of history. Due to the fact the two books were not written long apart, we were able to apply the Aristotelian’s normative concept of friendship on Socrates and Alcibiades.
It is an act to ultimately benefit one self. Conversely, it is also what is known as self-righteousness, where one claims to be charitable and or virtuous towards others, when all the while there is a hidden agenda to benefit one-self. The so-called “friendship” is only to benefit the oneself. Unfortunately, this type of self-love can lead to loneliness and loss of true friendships. As much as people may believe that true friendship is not necessary, it is our inherent human need to be in a relationship with other human beings, and/or to develop a form of friendship. To prove the theory that friendship is necessary, an article published by the Journal of Clinical & Diagnostic Research suggests that there is a correlation between loneliness and psychiatric disorders. According to this study, they stated that as human beings, we are a social species which require safe and secure social surroundings to survive. Friendship and/or social relationships are essential for mental and physical well beings (Mushtaq, R., Shoib, S., Shah, T., & Mushtaq, S. (2014). Without social interactions, loneliness ensues, and loneliness can lead to various psychiatric disorders like depression, alcohol abuse, child abuse, sleep problems, personality disorders and Alzheimer’s disease, just to name a few. Not to mention, it can also lead to physiological disorders. Most importantly, loneliness can have serious consequences for mental and physical health of people (Mushtaq, R., Shoib, S., Shah, T., & Mushtaq, S.
In “An Individual Assignment”, the prisoner Dugaev realizes that “cold, hunger, and sleeplessness rendered any friendship impossible” (22). He also understands that the foundations of friendship “had to be laid before living conditions reach that last border beyond which no human emotion was left to man” (22). These are the reasons that friendship, unless beneficial to both parties involved, is rare in Kolyma. If you are past the point where you are capable of human emotion, how is it possible to be a friend to someone? Prisoners’ actions are driven out of need, the need to relieve any small part of that cold, hunger, or tiredness. This goes to show that these men no longer know compassion, and that the only motive that might drive them to help someone else when subject to such extreme conditions is that if helping that person somehow benefits themselves as well. However, some of the stories show instances when friendship is possible, but that is only when conditions are bearable, such as in the hospital. In “Dominoes,” the narrator has a different type of relationship with Andrei Mihailovich, his doctor than he has with most of his other fellow prisoners. Though not quite yet a friendship, it is still a rarity among all of the stories, and the only reason that it is possible is because the narrator of the story is no longer under extreme conditions and is instead in the hospital. There, he
Friends come and go, it’s the good ones that stay. In the book “The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-time India” The author convey many themes but friendship is one of the biggest. Throughout the book, Junior the main character talks about his life and how friendship is very important to him. He learns to make new friends and understand to let go of some.
... believed that I understood a fair amount about my female peers. But reading “Roman Fever” has shown me that I know nearly nothing about friendships. I began to doubt some of my friends, cautious of the fact that I can never be sure of what they really think or feel. Amidst these troubling doubts, I came to the realization that Wharton had missed the most important aspect of friendship: trust. Alida and Grace were childhood friends, yet neither had trusted the good in their relationship. They allowed the secrets and lies of their past to guide their feelings for twenty-five years, resulting in the end of a possibly salvageable friendship. In real life, I know that I cannot analyze contrasting details nor read into internal thoughts. The only hope I have is to put effort into a friendship and trust that it will be strong enough to overcome jealousy and rivalry.
Throughout this powerful novel, we observe the injustice in societal rejection and the pain caused by this. However, another extremely dominating theme involving the need for friendship surfaces again and again in all of the prominent characters. The Creature's isolation reveals the effects that loneliness can have when it is the strongest feeling in one's life. Taken as a whole, while the ability to care for oneself is important, people will always need someone to be there when the road gets rough.
First, the article introduces the audience to friendships described by Aristotle, and Todd May. In the text it states, “It is threatened when we are encouraged to look up on those
The most supportive of friends are manifest during life’s toughest of obstacles. They are the ones that help us power through the storm. Karen Karbo claims, “Most of us would prefer to think that we love our friends because of who they are, not because of the ways in which they support who we are. It sounds vaguely narcissistic, and yet the studies bear it out.”(156) while Yvette and I stated off as simple associates, she was soon to be reviled as my most supportive friend. She was just another co-worker. However, after our bosses went through a divorce, our most dependable co-worker moved, and another reunited with her drug habit, Yvette was the only one I could depend on. Together we became an unbreakable team. We could run the front office without any flaws. Since our friendship was growing we became even more supportive of each other, if one was slacking the other would step up and make sure the task was completed. We would switch off on answering the phones and taking on a challenging customer. Occasionally we would go out for a drink to destress from work. We had just started taking our girls out on play dates, and hanging out on weekends. One night my mom called me to let me know she had made other plans for the following night and I needed to figure out another arrangement for my daughter. Most nights I depend on my mom to watch my daughter so I can go to class, and when she is unable my sister will step in. In
Friendship is not something that has adapted over time. The desire to seek out and surround ourselves with other human beings, our friends, is in our nature. Philosophers such as Aristotle infer that friendship is a kind of virtue, or implies virtue, and is necessary for living. Nobody would ever choose to live without friends, even if we had all the other good things. The relationship between two very different young boys, Bruno and Shmuel’s in the film The Boy in the Striped Pajamas is an example of the everlasting bond of a perfect friendship based upon the goodness of each other.
Marion Winik’s “What Are Friends For?” expresses the characteristics of friendships and their importance in her existence. Winik begins by stating her theory of how some people can’t contribute as much to a friendship with their characteristic traits, while others can fulfill the friendship. She illustrates the eight friendships she has experienced, categorized as Buddies, Relative Friends, Work Friends, Faraway Friends, Former Friends, Friends You Love to Hate, Hero Friends, and New Friends. In like manner, the friendships that I have experienced agree and contradict with Winik’s categorizations.
Friendship expectations play a huge role in “establishing, maintaining, and terminating friendships” thus playing a factor of ones’ interpretations and through their affiliations (West & Turner, 2016). A companionship is dependent on
According to Aristotle there are three different types of friendships that exist. Friendship that is based on utility, ones that are based on pleasure, and friendship based on goodness of character. The first two kinds are superficial, so they don’t usually last long. Friendship based on goodness of character is the best kind of friendship, because these friends love one another for who they are and not for what they stand to gain from one another. Friendship exists best between