“Logic: The art of thinking and reasoning in strict accordance with the limitations and incapacities of the human misunderstanding.”
Ambrose Bierce, American Writer, Journalist, Editor 1842-1914
The Epiphany of Divorce
Through much evaluation and reflection I can identify one instance in my life when my perception of the situation was far from the true reality. The ending of my first marriage and the subsequent change in my thought process has allowed me to step out of a perpetual cycle of enculturation imposed upon me by society.
• What did you think was going on?
I felt there were no problems with this relationship. The perception was that we were happy, everything was going perfectly or so I thought. We were building a new home, building a future together, and building a better life. I was content and satisfied with life and the relationship I was in. The marriage was idyllic, with little to no confrontation or major crises and ultimately fulfilling. Because we never had any knock down drag out fights or spoke badly of one another there was the perception that everything must be ok. We were financially secure, young and healthy and in love, well at least I was.
• What was really going on?
The reality of the situation was my marriage was on the rocks. There was a rift developing within the marriage and I was blind to the reality. Blinded because I was working too much in my pro...
Hatchet is a book about Brian Robeson, who recently has been going through a lot of trouble.
The situation that I have thought of is, when I was on the jury for juveniles who committed first offenses. While I was listening to the lawyers depend these kids, I looked on the list and saw a familiar name. The name was a person I went to kindergarten with. She was being convicted of shoplifting. I could not believe it. All the thoughts of that soft, kind-hearted person went out the window. My behaviors were changed by the environmental influences. My thoughts were overcome with coldness. I felt that she choose her situation. Somewhere along she became part of the wrong crowd and never changed her situation. I also think that the situation changed what I thought of her.
The beginning of the book The Great Divorce by C.S. Lewis was difficult to understand and hard to figure out, but as you read on, you come to find out that this book is about heaven and hell and the people that go there. The narrator who is the main character in the book tells the story on what he sees from his eyes. The author describes hell as a dark cold town with alleys that people live in and no one to be seen on the streets, and heaven as this place that looks beautiful with green grass, mountains, rivers, and animals running around. C.S. Lewis uses different characters throughout the book to help understand the scene and the situations that are going on. The ghosts that go with him to heaven from hell are all different and play a big role in this novel. The other characters in the novel are the spirits who live in heaven and talk to the ghosts. Through the conversations going on between the ghosts and the spirits you learn more and more about what is going on, how characters got there, and their problems. The narrator listens to the two talk and from the conversation does he learn more about himself. I believe Lewis made this book so the reader can put themselves in the narrator's position and also think about their own lives and circumstances.
In my opinion, divorce was uncommon prior to the 1980’s because it was frowned upon by society, I believe religion played a large roll as well as financial reasons. The 1980’s brought about a new charge for women's right’s, as more women entered higher paying jobs they were no longer dependant on a man for survival. As a society, I believe we are now realizing the ramifications of divorce on families, children and communities. I feel in more recent years marriage has been taken less seriously, and there is a feeling of “if it doesn’t work, I’ll just leave”. I believe that many times parents do not prepare their children for marriage, marriage is constant work, a person always needs to take time to care for it, too many times I feel people
In this paper, I will argue that if a person is exposed to the methods and principles of logic they will benefit in their daily lives. The sooner one correctly applies these methods and principles the more efficient their mind will become. Hence, you will be better equipped to make daily decisions through reasoning (processing information). Logic is a roadmap of the mind that holds true for every human.
In a marriage, there are lessons to be learned from one moment to the next. Part of the purpose of being together is to make each other happy, create new memories and experiences, worship together, and connect on various other levels. However, through the joy and climbing the ladder, there will be some challenging obstacles the couple will face. Not all couples face the same issues, but if the effort to determine a solution is not given, then the outcome may be the same, divorce or separation.
Ultimately, all the possibilities point to one thing, which is a lack of communication. Somewhere along the line, there must have been a breakdown in the interpersonal communication process. Seemingly, the marital dyad has not used the correct communication patterns needed to sustain their relationship. In some way, each of them has notevaluated their partner carefully enough to ensure that this chosen individual is, in fact, truly their life long partner. By no means, is this the sole reason for divorce, but it certainly plays an enormous role. In fact, no one could ever pinpoint the exaact cause of divorce since each situation is unighu and is usually quite complicated. However, it would be unreasonable not to believe that interpersonal communication does not play an integral part in marital satisfaction. Since interpersonal communication affects almost all facets of a relationship, it has a huge impact on each and every part of both individuals’ lives.
It seemed like we were falling apart at first. I could no longer sleep through one full night
It is sad to know that my dreams of becoming a wife have vanished like snow on a hot summer day. A lot happened after our first-year anniversary. We would fight and make up until fighting wasn't worth it, and making up had come to the point of hurry up. I knew I wasn't giving my husband the attention he needed, and he would find it elsewhere. As a result, I remember the times he would leave me in bed to sleep or go over to my mother's house and leave me alone.
Our backgrounds were pretty similar. We both came from households with a lot of kids. Comparing our personalities we couldn’t be more opposite. She was more outgoing and had a very bubbly personality. While I was more of a person that liked to observe the party than be the center of it. In the relationship we didn’t communicate well at all. We didn’t express what we wanted from a romantic partner to the other. We just guessed at what the other wanted. Our quality of relationship was poor. We basically were both insecure and that affected our relationship greatly. We would only express how badly we felt about ourselves to the other person. Trying to find some peace and reassurance that the other person still loved the other. That our insecurities got to both of us too much of the time. That is what caused our relationship to not
Cause and Effect Essay – The Causes of Divorce. From the past to present, people all over the world have determined to live together, which is called “get married” in another word, so that they depend on each other for living. Nevertheless, some couples are unable to maintain their relationship; therefore they choose divorce, which is one of the solutions to cope with problems between husband and wife. Furthermore, most people think carefully before they get married.
Love is the number one reason for marriage, even having Valentine’s Day to celebrate love. Yet Americans for Divorce Reform (ADR) estimate that, “Probably, 40 or possibly even 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce if current trends continue" (Colleen). The ADR also shows the divorce rates between Christians and non-Christians are indistinguishable. Even worse, Christians divorcing their spouses are distorting the Bible in order to justify their actions. Christians must be called to a higher standard in regards to divorce, and they must stop twisting the Bible to appease their conscience.
Definition wise divorce is the formal breaking of a bond between two people who were legally married. It is caused by a number of reasons like lack of trust and loss of love and bond between the two. This would mean that the marriage is officially over.
When I left my room, my mother knew that I had gone through a rough time, and I did not want to talk to her about it. Even though there was only a month left in my school year, I promised myself that I would be completely truthful to my friends, my family, my heritage, and myself. I expected all my friends to leave me, but I was fully prepared for this. However, none of this ever happened. My friends didn’t leave me, I wasn’t alone at the lunch table, I wasn’t even seem differently by those around me. I had failed my family by doing this, and I wished I had stopped acting like someone I wasn’t sooner. This is one of the only mistakes I have made which I consider a failure because it had taken me close to a year to fix, and this is why I consider it my most successful failure.
To be the person that I am now, I had to reflect and accept accountability of my past actions. My past is one that many would love to erase from their memory, a past, which remained dormant, until I found myself. The steps involved in regaining myself encompassed letting go of my anger and self pity. I had to look within myself and see my self’s worth, which lead to my belief that I ran away to college to forget my past. During the years leading to entrance to college, I became caught up with friends, cared way too much about my appearance, and became “that girl” who needed others to be happy. I lost sight of my goal, to become a lawyer. My goals were buried by my present materialization infatuation, thus my dreams, and my values, failed just to create a façade of which I came to despise. Through my journey and reflection, I came to appreciate family values and redemption. Like others, my trials and tribulations came full circle.