Gay couples should be able to adopt because they deserve to be happy as well as any other person. According to author Pascoe Watson he states “Gay couples will have to prove they have an enduring relationship with the children to know the children will be happy” (Pascoe- Watson, George p. 3). Just like any other person their relationship with their children will mature, and will soon be able to have that love and caring affection, just like any other mother and father would provide to their children. There are a lot of homosexual couples in our society that have managed to win children’s love without having any problems what so ever and remain as one happy family. Homosexuals dream is to form a family just like any other person wishes to have.
It seems reasonable to assume that homosexual individuals should be able to adopt children in order to put the many children stuck in foster care into loving homes. However, there is an argument against letting homosexual individuals and couples adopt. It is said that same-sex couples should not adopt because there must be two roles for parents in a family: “...the mother [who is] better equipped to pass on nurturing skills and the father [who is] more qualified to teach leadership” (Wilson). There is no need for a parent who is only nurturing/a leader; one parent can possess both of these skills, which happens frequently. If a homosexual couple cannot adopt, should a single-mother not be allowed to raise a child due to lack of a father-figure in the household?
Denying these kids a home just because two individuals of the same sex love each other is injustice. Many people fear that children adopted by gay and lesbian couples do less well in life, these people are completely unfounded. The Independent website states that gay and les... ... middle of paper ... ...g and nurturing home, an ability that does not depend on whether a parent is gay or straight. The children of lesbian and gay parents grow up as happy, healthy, and well-adjusted as the children of heterosexual parents. If a person can love a child and can model themselves as a loving parent for the child, then they should be able to be a parent.
It’s about the personal life of the child that will be affected. As humans we have grown up knowing that a family consists of a mother and a father, not both of the same sexes. That being said every child should have the privilege to have both a mother and father like everyone else. In “Growing up with Gay Parents” the 3 year old son of Jen Bleakley and Nina Jacobson asked his lesbian mothers if he had a father. It shouldn’t be like that, yes a mother can step in and try to take the fatherly image but never will it be the same, to the little boy who sees other boys out and about with their fathers.
And it would save so much heart ache for the gay couples trying to adopt. Adoption not only allows some sex couples the possibility to have a child, but it also helps all the kids that don’t have a home. Many people believe that same sex couples shouldn’t raise children because they might not grow up “right”. Source C claims that hetero sexual couples raise their children better than a homosexual couple would. “Why do kids do better on every measure of social, emotional and physical well-being when they grow up with a married mother and father?” This is saying that a child will be a better person if they have mom and dad that are married to each other then what does this say about single parents or divorced parents and especially parents> children grow up as good people on every type of situation.
Children look for both a mother and a father and benefit from having both in the home. Ellis (2001) stated, "Gender plays a large role...we may not think these differences are politically correct but, by God, they're developmentally correct. One argument that gay parents have is that children don't need two sex couple role models. Having two parents of the same sex deprives the children of the chance to see how males and females interact in a family situation. Even though gay parents argue the children are exposed to their fair share of traditional male and female relationships, these may be somewhat censored as the visiting child is not part of that family and most families tend to keep certain things within the family.
Parents of either sexuality understand a common goal, raised children required care. Children with homosexual parents receive the same love like children of heterosexual parents. Oppressors state, that the children will live horrible lives if raised in a homosexual environment. The fact is this, not all homosexual families face the same disapproval from those around them, and the same goes for heterosexual f... ... middle of paper ... ...because the bible does not state that, two of the same gender can live together. It does state that we should love one another, but like most argument, certain bible verses are push aside to fit the position argued.
People opposed to homosexual parenting argue that homosexual couples are not capable of having long enduring strong relationships required for the successful upbringing of children. They claim it is in the child's best interest to be raised by one female and one male. Such a family would provide the best environment for healthy intellectual and emotional growth. Obviously the debate over homosexual parenting brings for concepts of individual rights and the definition of family. What the argument boils down to is the definition of a family.
People opposing gay marriage say, “We must protect traditional marriage and the traditional family.” Matthew McTighe of the Mainers United for Marriage debates responds by saying, “Prote... ... middle of paper ... ...g and legalizing gay marriage. By not accepting gay marriage is discriminating gay people, they should have the same rights as everyone else does. What people don’t understand is it's not a choice to be gay. You don't chose who you love, you just do. You are born gay; you can’t choose to be gay.
These negative stereotypes all prove to be untrue and irrational, revealing that gay and lesbian parents could be equally as fit to straight parents. The accusation that majority of gay men are child molesters has been rejected in that the overwhelming majority of child sexual abusers area heterosexual men, who abuse both boys and girls. The fear that children of lesbian and gay parents will become lesbian or gay is irrational in that studies show that the sexual orientation of the parents has no effect whatsoever on sexual orientation of youths.