Forget having the right wardrobe, a buff body, or an unforgettable presence -- according to a recent study, the key to getting a girlfriend is in your word of mouth.
Yes, you read that right.
Conducted by John Donahue and Melanie Green, the study examined how people’s storytelling skills affected their attractiveness level to the opposite sex.
The bottom line: Men who tell good stories are more attractive to women.
What’s So Sexy About Storytelling?
The study looked at a couple different scenarios.
First, the researchers examined how women rate men after being given a photo and a short bio about the men’s storytelling abilities.
Across the board, women rated men who are good storytellers as being of higher status.
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Women interested in short-term relationships didn’t rate good storytellers any differently from the bad ones.
Only women interested in long-term relationships rated good male storytellers as better boyfriend material.
That’s right -- if you’re only interested in short-term relationships, don’t bother wasting your time with stories.
But if you really want to get a girlfriend, knowing how to tell a good story could be the one secret you’re missing!
According to the study:
“Stronger female storytellers did not tempt male participants, nor did male raconteurs foster extra female interest in short-term dating. But women were more interested in talented male story-tellers as long-term partners.”
OK, fine. But why?
Donahue and Green allege that a man’s storytelling abilities date way back to dinosaur times.
Picture the last time you were in a group of people and tried to get a girl’s attention.
Did you sputter around for words, mumbling “um….” about 10 times? If so, I’m guessing you didn’t go home with the girl.
But if you verbally pushed other men out of the way and managed to use your words to get that girl’s attention, I’m betting she took notice in a positive
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3 Things You Can Do to Show Her Your Way With Words
It’s not enough to be aware of this sexy storytelling phenomenon -- you have to know what to do.
Here are my top three tips for how you can use your words to land the girl:
1) Read Craig’s piece about miserable Tinder fails. After all, if you’re going to turn your Tinder bio into an A+ story, you should make sure you’re not making any mistakes that could get in your way.
2) Practice. It might sound boring, but think about the most exciting things that have ever happened to you, and practice putting them into words. And if you need more practice opportunities...
3) Talk to more women! Glenn has a great piece about how to make the best first impression with women. If you really want to get a girlfriend, you’ll have to learn to make a great first impression, and storytelling is a HUGE part of this.
Here Are Your Next Steps...
So, now you know that telling a girl a good story will make her perceive you as more attractive.
But what if you have no clue how to tell a good story?
I’ve got you
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She will use that later on as an argument that you got her in a weak moment. You must first mention you would like to try a threesome when you are sober and have collected all your arguments.
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