Summary Of An-Mei

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“And even though I taught my daughter the opposite, still she came out the same way! Maybe it is because she was born to men and I was born a girl.” (241)
An-Mei feels like that her daughter is just like her because of how her marriage is turning out. An-Mei thought that she had cursed her daughter and because she was born a girl. Since in China, girls were not worth as much as boys. Every family wanted their child to be a boy instead of a girl. This was why An-Mei feels like that her daughter’s marriage is falling apart. I feel like that it was falling apart because her daughter was unable to stand up to herself. While An-Mei tried to raise her daughter into a better person, it didn’t work out since she turned out like her.

“Throw your life away? If you follow this woman, you can never lift your head again.” (245) …show more content…

Her uncle felt like that her mother was worthless because of the rumors that were spread around. She was also worthless since her husband has died. An-Mei would also turn worthless if she decides to follow her mother. I feel like that An-Mei should still follow her mother since she was the reason why An-Mei is alive. Even though her uncle may see her as something worthless, her mother would still love her. Since An-Mei’s mother is worthless, her uncle believed that she would turn her into a horrible person. I don’t think that would happen since she had lived with her mother her whole life and if something bad did happen, An-Mei wouldn’t still love

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