The Characteristics Of Steve Harvey's Theory Of Life

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Another one of Steve Harvey’s theories consists of men confirming that everything they work for is for a reason and to feel needed by their partner. He describes that an independent woman is admirable but if she can do everything for herself, what does he need to be there for? He states “We appreciate it when women treat us like men, when you let us know that you need us. The need to feel needed is way bigger to us than we’ve let on; we have to feel needed by you in order to fulfill our destiny as a man.” (183) It is genuinely possible for men to want to find women who need the help of men in their lives in order for themselves as “men” feel like a “man.” But again, very possible that not all men want a helpless woman, most likely men would …show more content…

The patterns established in this stage will influence the efforts spent on self and others in the future. Which could be connected to Steve Harvey’s “five questions,” that would exemplify Erik Erikson’s stage of intimacy versus isolation. Steve Harvey additionally talks about “The five questions every woman should ask before she gets into deep.” For starters one, “What are your short term goals?” Steve Harvey states that “If you’re going into a relationship with a man, you should know what his plans are and how they fit into the key elements that make a man-who he is, what he does, and how much he makes.” (133) Two “What are your long term goals?” He states "the man you should consider spending a little time on is he one who has a plan-a well-thought-out plan that you can see yourself in. Because please believe me when I tell you-and like I told you in an earlier chapter-a man always has a plan.” (136) Third “What are your views on relationships?” He states “Now this one is a multiple part question that size up how a man feels about a gamut of relationships-from how he feels about his parents and kids to his connection with God.” (138) Fourth question, “What do you think about …show more content…

Social and cognitive psychologists concentrate on the effects society and how our own thoughts about gender have on role development. Social psychologists look at how we react to boys and girls differently. For example, How Steve Harvey describes in the beginning of his introduction how all boys are taught since young age to provide, protect and profess. Therefore, being aggressive with what’s theirs. Cognitive psychologists focus on the internal interpretations we make about gender message we get from our environment. Gender schema theory explains that we internalize messages about gender information into cognitive rules about how each gender should behave. Such as how Steve Harvey insists that women have to behave a certain way for men and how women are expected more of while men can’t be expected anything of because “a man does what he does because you (as the woman) let him do it.” Women are “obligated” to get marry, have children and then waste majority of their lives raising those kids and following her mans every wish. Some women are also “obligated,” to quit their job because there man want them as house wives, and men see themselves as the provider and want to feel needed so they try to take over every little thing. However, life doesn’t have to categorize any gender schema. We as men and women should be able to

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