Being a single mom in the military is hard but I am proud that I am doing it, It instills a sense of pride and satisfaction that is matched by no other.
I am proud: proud that I have earned my right to be called a soldier. I am young, and I am a single mom and I am doing it. I am proud of this, but if we are being honest, it is no walk in the park. It is actually so far from a walk in the park that I don’t even think I am allowed to use that phrase. It is more like: A walk in the park during a sandstorm while lions chase me and sand is flying into my eyes. Yes, that is more accurate. It is never easy, and I am OK with that. Over the past few years I have come to understand my frequent challenges, and through learning what works for me, I am slowly, but surely, showing
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The days are long and not always being able to see them every day is hard, but doing that makes the moments that we do have together that much more precious. I work hard to provide for them, and They make me want to improve myself more to be a better mother and soldier. I am a role model for my kids and that everything I do is for my kids.
Being a single mom in the military is never easy.I have to accept my limitations, and deal with the frustrations at times that I am unable to have the experience of a normal mom, soldier, and woman. Being a single mom has forced me to concentrate on what matters and not get distracted by what might please or appease those around me.
My life and my laundry pile are both out of control but I love how far Ive become. Parenting and running a household alone is hard, and then you add working and school to that and in some cases being the only financial provider, and it equals exhaustion.
I am so proud to be a Soldier in the U.S. Army but being a mother is my greatest achievement. So I would say that being a single mom in the military is probably the greatest achievement in my
Deployment is a word that all military spouses and military families dread to hear. When my husband came home to our barely moved in house with news of his deployment to Afghanistan, I was devastated. Though we received terrible news, we also felt incredible joy that same week. I was pregnant with our first child. We were overjoyed by this news but it also meant that my husband would be away the first eight months of our son’s life.
With this being said, in the military for dual military couples, this is not the case due to the fact that the man and woman are both working. With both genders working, it is longer a woman stereotype that the mother will cook, clean and nurture the kids. Even though I am not married and don’t have kids, if my wife and I were both military, she will not be the one to always have to follow the woman stereotype nor would I follow the man stereotype. Who says that the father of the house cannot perform the same applied task as the mother, if not even
Every day of my life I have woken up to the sound of Reveille, and gone to bed listening to Taps. I have moved nine different times, know the feeling of having my dad deploy more than four times, and eating Thanksgiving dinner in a DEFAC is second-nature to me. Being an army child is a huge part of my life, however it does not define who I am; it has shaped how I view the world. Because of my life as a military child, I have determined that I am compelled to positively influence how others view life.
Military children are in a league of their own, and at very young ages are thrown into situations of great stress. Approximately 1.2 million children live in the U.S. Military families (Kelly. 2003) and at least 700,000 of them have had at least one parent deployed (Johnson et al. 2007). Every child handles a deployment differently, some may regress in potty training, and others may become extremely aggressive. Many different things can happen, in most cases when a parent deploys and the child becomes difficult to handle, it can cause a massive amount of stress on the parent that is not deployed as well as added stress on the parent who is deployed. There are three stages of a deployment, pre-deployment, deployment, and reintegration, being educated on these three things can make a deployment “run” smoothly for the entire family.
A single parent many times has so many responsibilities that they just can’t be good at all of it. A job, bills, chores, errands, appointments, activities, it all just becomes too much for a single-parent and something always seems to get the short end of the stick. Usually it is the small things that make a child feel special.
...ou will be as equally as surprised to find out that some of these kids in the classroom were never able to graduate due to imminent problems in the household and psychological development leading to mental trauma. A census study shows that most single parent kids will start working at 15 to aid the parent in paying for essentials. Although the odds are tough for single parents and children, you must never forget the strong parents who do undergo the challenge with effectiveness and stability. And of course, you must not forget the child who stood by their single parent and developed strength and character to help the family overcome any obstacle. Single parenthood is a fascinating concept which breeds heroes and well-built people who were able to conquer the impediment thrown at them. But, remember that some of these people weren't able to make it past as well.
To diagnose my learning needs I must be honest and realistic about myself. The strengths I have as a leader consists of personal mastery and building a shared vision. Personal mastery is the discipline of continually clarifying and deepening our personal vision, of focusing our energies, of developing patience, and of seeing reality objectively (Senge, 2006). I have always strived to improve myself so that I can excel in every task that I set out to do. There ...
Being a soldier was a really tough life. In the end I hated doing the same thing day after day with no change in sight, I despised the leaders that didn 't take care of their subordinates, and most importantly, I couldn 't lead my soldiers from the front anymore. I 'll be the first one to say that joining the army was the best thing to happen to me. I have grown so much as a person and the lessons I learned are invaluable. In the end I realized the negative factors outweighed any possible benefit I might receive from continued service. It was time for me to
Flash forward to now and I am a single mother of two strong willed girls one almost 9 and the other recently turned 5. I have been a single mom for almost 3 years now and the job is every bit as gratifying as it is exhausting. It has not been easy or simple, but I love the little family we have made. I have found an incredible source of independence and strength through being a single mom. I decided right after my divorce that I would accept it. This is not what I wanted for myself or my daughters; but this is my reality now. I can’t go back in time and change anything so I am accepting the situation for what it is and moving forward.
There are almost 13 million single parents today in the U.S. (Lauer, 2012). Each single-parent family is different and faces individual trials, including testing the limits of family and what it means to be related. No matter the causes of single parenthood—whether it be from a parent passing away, divorce, or someone simply choosing to have a child without being married—the conflicts plaguing these families are very similar. The statement “single parenting is the toughest job in the world” is a bold one that highlights the struggles of single parents everywhere, and it is one I happen to agree with.
One of the hardest issues to survive in, as a single parent, is an overwhelming emotion that you should complete the role of both mother and father. This feeling evolves and will be more intense if the other single parent is not portraying a role that is active with the children.
I grew up in a small town and after I graduated high school I wanted more in life than a 9 to 5 job; I wanted to see the world. I had a few friends that had joined the military and had come home to visit with exciting stories about their experiences. I noticed a change in a few of them; they seemed to walk a little taller, maybe act a bit more mature. This, along with the intrigue of life outside of my small town, drew me to consider joining the military. I met a recruiter in Lakeland Florida in July of 1989 and a few months later on September 26th I raised my right hand and took the Oath of Enlistment. I had no idea what I had gotten myself into.
Single women that have a career and a family are bestowed life’s toughest challenge. Today, more than any other time in history, millions of women face the dilemma of single parenthood and a demanding career. They have the daunting task of juggling the responsibilities of parenthood and being the primary breadwinner. A successful single working mother makes handling a career and family appear effortless, but in reality much planning, organizing, and time management skills become the foundation that helps to hold the balancing act together. Combining motherhood with a career is not easy, but those that are successful carry similar traits. A successful single working mother can be defined as one that creates a great support system, is an expert at time management and organization, and makes a firm commitment to both family and career.
The workforce can be a hard place, but for single mothers, it seems to be a much more threatening area. Women have been turned down from a job for being a single mother and some women have even been fired from a job for being pregnant without a husband to help support the baby. Single mothers have also been bullied at their work. Coworkers will taunt them about having spouses and a relaxed family to go home to that is run by two adults. Once single mothers get a job, they have a risk of losing it. They have no one to take care of her chil...
There has been so many obstacles in my way as I have gone on this journey to success