Should You Date Out of Your League?

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Competition is very popular in America, in education, jobs, and even families; but what about dating? Dating is one of the most competitive “games” all around the world. Dr. Tomas Cvreck spoke about competition and how it affects everything we know. Something as simple as who makes the first move can determine the outcome of the whole relationship as well as the future. Homogamy is everything in a relationship; how old the person is, the education level, the religion, and the yearly income. This is an example of why dating out of a person’s league is a risky thing in most cases. People that have a lot in common tend to find their way to someone compatible to themselves. This is why Dr. Cvreck stressed that dating out of one’s league is a risky move; because it can become more competitive. Although everyone is not competitive, everyone wants to have a happy marriage, but competitiveness is part of human nature and varies between men and women.
The feeling of competitiveness is natural, but the intensity of the characteristics depends on how the parents raised their child. If the parents are competitive their children will most likely inherit that trait; as it is a learned characteristic. Regardless, everyone is in competition with each other because they are all part of the same dating game and who will end up with whom? Men are naturally more competitive than women and tend to go for the more appealing women. On the other hand, women do look at appearance; but unlike men, they are more focused on the attributes of the person. Men tend to show their spouse or girlfriend off to make other guys jealous of what they ‘scored,’ when women want to brag about the nice things her spouse or boyfriend said or did for her. They are in the same competition, but it is viewed differently.
In this game of dating, competition truly relies on the gender of the person. A popular question is, “Is there a first move advantage?” The answer to that is yes. If women make the first move they are more likely to get their first choice of a guy rather than having to be asked out settle as a man might have to do. Men have the advantage because in our culture men are to make the first move no matter what, but their advantage decreases as the competition raises as all the guys are going after the same ‘hot’ girl.

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