In today’s paper, I will be analysis personal relationship using Schutz’s theory of interpersonal needs. According to Communication Making Connection by William J. Seiler and Melissa L. Beall, Schutz’s theory implies that we have three needs: the need for affection, the need for inclusion, and the need for control.
According to Schutz’s theory, the need for affection is the need to feel likeable or lovable. If various people like a specific person, that person has effectively fulfill this need and that need is referred as personal. Someone who is unable to fulfill this need is labeled either underpersonal or overpersonal. Personal individuals want to be liked, but they do not consider being liked by everyone essential for happiness. Underpersonal people avoid emotional commitments or involvement with others. Overpersonal individuals will often go to the extremes to ensure acceptance by others.
It is my belief that, I am a personal individual. I’m the type of person that feels like I’m capable of dealing with anyone that I come in contact with. Many people that I’ve encounter over the years like my football teammate feel that I’m cocky; nevertheless I tell them that I’m just confident. My ex-girlfriend, shontell, on the other hand is more an overpersonal type of individual. She needs to be at the center of attention in order to ensure that she is acceptance by she peers. She will not make a decision without someone approval.
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" Sincere affection gives insight, intuition, understanding, and equips for service and shuts out greed and degrading ambition for place and power"(www.marxists.org)
A good interpersonal relationship makes each member feel like he or she is included. One needs to feel included in order to have a sense of belonging and in order to feel like he or she plays a vital role in the friendship. The second aspect of a good interpersonal relationship is control. Each member must feel that he or she is in control for at least part of the time. When control isn’t shared between members of the interpersonal group we have discovered through the film Mean Girls that members want to “rebel” against the leader and ultimately take control for themselves. The last, important component for a good interpersonal relationship is affection. Each member in the relationship needs to feel loved and appreciated by the other members. When they do not feel loved or cared for they feel as though they are not needed and therefore do not feel the need to reciprocate affection for other members of the group. The film Mean Girls shows us that without just one of these aspects of a good interpersonal relationship, there can be conflict causing the friendly dynamic, and even the entire relationship to be destroyed. Therefore, we have learned that it is important to communicate effectively, include others, show love and affection, and share control with each member of our interpersonal
Relationships play an important role in one's life. They are formed on the basis of love and understanding. Relationship helps various people in every aspect of life and assists them in being a better person. Such a relationship was found in the novel
A characteristic of humanity is social contact, each individual needs significant social interaction. Not only must humans have interaction, but must share things in common to care and love. This h...
Effective communication is one of the most important things to maintain a happy relationship. Communication will help to create a better atmosphere and to know what are the interests, thoughts and feelings of your loved one. All romantic relationships need a lot of communications from both sides. The main factor is interpersonal communication, which couples are able to overlap environments and create a relationship. We reviewed the movie “The Breakup” and have found the concepts of Integrating, differentiating, and terminating. This movie shows how ineffective communication can dissolve a relationship. The lack of communication is the main factor why Brooke and Gary break up. This couple tends to rely on other people instead of trying to solve their problems talking to each other. They avoid talking because every time a new conflict will begin. In many of the scenes the couple creates big arguments from small issues. In this paper, we will explain the scenes of the movie that can be compared to the interpersonal communication concepts.
The Fundamental Interpersonal Relations Orientation Theory was created by William Schutz. He has a vast amount of research that demonstrates the way we attempt to meet our needs for inclusion, control, and affection through friendships, work, and romantic relationships. Inclusion has to do with the varying degrees to which we all need to establish and maintain a feeling of mutual interest with other people. Shutz’s theory, Fundamental Interpersonal
Alderfer, C. (1969). An Empirical Test of a New Theory of Human Needs. Organizational Behavior and Human Performance, vol. 4, pp. 142 - 175.
This classic love story describes how people can change once they interact with other people. Moreover, this is an example of how human beings in general need interaction to be normal functioning citizens of society. Having relationships, can make a person feel better about him and can possibly revolutionize or emerge a personality that was quiescent due to lack of interaction. This video demonstrates many facets of interpersonal communication.
"Interpersonal attraction refers to positive feelings about another person. It can take many forms, including liking, love, friendship, lust, and admiration" (spark notes). Sometimes these kinds of relationships can happen between individuals that people meet throughout their daily lives. For any relationship to exist or last,last there has to be effective communication. Communication is a major factor used to either build up or tear down interpersonal relationships. Also, having effective listening skills helps the relationship become stronger. In the movie, 50 First Dates, there are many instances where interpersonal relationships are illustrated. This paper will discuss the different types of interpersonal relationships that are found in the movie, as well as how important communication is in a relationship to keep that bond strong and last.
Individual’s “possess inner needs and are motivated by the desire to fulfill these needs” (Phillips & Gully, 2014). Abraham Maslow, and Clay Alderfer offer two separate models that explore the needs of individuals. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs contests that people have five levels of needs which they progress. Alderfer suggests there are three groups of individual needs and he views his model more as a continuum rather than a hierarchy. (Phillips & Gully, 2014) The lowest level on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs depicts an individual’s basic physiological needs for food, water, and comfort. This need runs parallel to Alderfer’s existence needs that describes an individual’s desire for physical and material well-being. The second level on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is safety and security needs such as ones desire for health, and job security. The third level on Maslow’s hierarchy is social needs for friendship and belonging which coordinates to Alderfer’s relatedness needs; desires for respect and relationships with others. The fourth level on Maslow’s hierarchy is self-esteem needs for self-respect and respect for others. The last and highest level on Maslow’s hierarchy is self-actualization needs which include self-fulfillment and the realization of one’s full potential. Alderfer’s growth needs which describe ones desire to make useful and productive contributions coincides with Maslow’s self-actualization needs. (Phillips
Seeking physical, intellectual, or emotional closeness with others seems to be a basic need of most people. To feel close to another, to love and feel loved, to experience comradeship, and to care and be cared about are all feelings that most of us wish and need to experience. It is within the family that such feelings are most easily found and shared.
In analyzing the aspect of attraction, we take a look at attraction from the perspective of Elaine Hatfield and Ellen Berscheid. Hatfield and Berscheid are American social psychologists whose work has helped to provide insight into what we now know about relationship science. According to Hatfield and Berscheid’s theory on interpersonal attraction, people are attracted to one another for four main reasons. Each reason presented helps to develop the reasons for attraction and relational differences between Landon and Jamie.
In this essay I aim to identify the needs of humans and how they have been met from the early days of humanity, right through to the present day. I will be placing a lot of emphasis on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs as this is the most widely accepted model and it makes sense that humans will have progressed up this hierarchy over time, this is something I will be exploring in the essay.
The individual ability to have friendly ties with others will have satisfying relationships which in turn will help him to survive and grow in the society. Having Positive Relations with Others and the ability to love is viewed as the central component of mental health. Individuals high on this factor are described as having strong feelings of compassion and warmth for all human beings. This aspect refers to being capable of displaying great love, deeper friendship, and positive identification with others. The importance of positive relations with others is repeatedly stressed in most theories of psychological wellbeing. Ryff (1989) defined positive relations with others as heartfelt, trusting interpersonal relations and strong outlooks of empathy and
Communication: this is fundamental in relationships because if there is no communication then there is no relationship. It is also the way to solve problems and bring up issues that can be attended too. We build a relationship using communication by interacting using common interests or opinions.