Communication is a major issue in today’s marriages. A marriage is something you have to work at daily, being able to work through every day problems, is the only way to make it work. Communication is the best way to prevent divorce because talking through every day problems, going to counselling if needed, and working through money issues and making time for each other no matter how hectic life gets, is the best way to make a marriage work.
Marriage is a wonderful connection between two people who love each other. Whether someone becomes married in a church or “any time day or night (Didion).” in Las Vegas to a small private backyard wedding. In the beginning they are so in love that all that matters, but in a lot of marriages that changes. They end up having children and tend to forget what it takes to make each other happy, they are so preoccupied with the children, the bills, working and forget to make time for them. Once a month there needs to be time set aside to be a couple and have a nice dinner or go to the movies so they will remember why they fell in love in the first place. If more couples could find the time for each other, show each other affection and how much they are appreciated for everything they do, there would not be so many infidelities in a marriage. They would not feel like they would have to seek that somewhere else in other people.
Going into a marriage everything should be shared with equal responsibility, putting things off on one or the other is never fair it should be equal both ways. If one feels that there is more responsibilities and pressure on them, they need to sit down with their partner and talk about the problem. When the two cannot resolve the problem any other way then they need to go t...
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Communication is what holds a marriage together. Without communication a marriage can become hectic. A marriage revolves around communication, if you don’t have communication, you don’t have a marriage.
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