Romantic Attraction And Attraction

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The topic of love, desire and attraction is full of obstacles as to how it shall be defined and it works the way it does. Focusing on the Attachment Theory and Cross-Cultural theories of attraction, I will attempt to compare and contrast these two theories. I shall apply these theories to the romantic attachment and the interpersonal attraction. Try to understand and conceptualise has been a long and difficult introspection. I feel it is near impossible to put every person in the same category when it comes to love and attraction, because everyone experiences these phenomenons at different levels. These phenomenons are experienced differently because of cultural background and how an individual was/is raised in the context of family. Let us …show more content…

Interpersonal attraction may be based on shared experiences, physical appearance.” With every relationship, proximity, physical attractiveness and similarity plays are important role in establishing a valuable relationship. A romantic love is the purpose as a critical basis for marriage; and the culture of romantic love subscribe to expect a high degree of intimate gratification in marriage. People’s emotions and moods influence our attraction. This explains why people chose the mates that they do and how, the level of proximity and similarity play important roles in establishing relationship because it increases the level of …show more content…

Looking at the attachment theory, it can never be crucial cast in stone that person shall behave a certain way because of how they were raised. It can be contested that a person can change, develop and grow to be a different kind of being as their caregiver. It can also explain as pertaining to some individuals and can be clearly proven. The Cross-cultural theory can also be contested in the way that one can always step out the realms of their society and explore different societies and become re-socialised to the a different set of values, morals and attitudes and it could change the trail of thought. On the other hand it does clearly make sense that the way a person is socialised in a community they will definitely behave in the expected manner, if there is no questioning going

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